I'm a trans woman, but transitioned many years ago and live a life that is appears 'normal' to people on the outside. I have a husband who loves me, I am never 'read' as trans in public, and my family all know me and recognize me as a woman. The trauma I dealt with from being bullied for being out as 'gay' early in my life, and then experiencing physical, sexual, and emotional violence during my early transition years, means that I'm totally messed up inside and feel like the furthest thing from 'normal.' I also lost my mom unexpectedly almost immediately after she had finally started embracing me/loving me as her daughter. This means that even though I know my mom loved me, I'm still deeply hurt/wounded from all the times she and the rest of my family called LGBTQ people disgusting, self-absorbed, and hedonistic. I still do fundamentally believe those things about myself, because it takes a lifetime to stop hating yourself after hearing those messages for your whole childhood.
I honestly think my life would have been fine had I been anything other than what I am.