nozomu
Global Mod // will i wiN my recovery arc
- Nov 28, 2022
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Sorry to post a vent again so soon. I have a privated account on another website that I use to vent as well, and I posted that I was going to start making plans to CTB, likely culminating in the next calendar year. I use this account like a journal and only my closest friends can see what I post.
My friend sent me a long PM and was panicking and crying because she interpreted this as I already had plans, and was acting/acted on them. Her message to me was very kind and sweet, but I feel bad that she panicked. I had a long call with her, and explained why I was making this decision and that it wouldn't be out of the blue and abrupt. I told her it was more like I am making an insurance policy for myself so I can persevere through my immense pain and suffering more boldly and freely. My plan to CTB is my last ditch effort at truly living and seeing if I can make it, with the peace of knowing I can leave if I can't.
She understood and calmed down but I still feel really bad. I want those I am close to to know ahead of time that I am CTB (they know I am very ill, so I am HOPING no one would be so crass as to try to intervene, and they wouldn't know exact methods, just that I'd tell them a date ahead of time so they can say their goodbyes to me). I know not to tell just anyone because of that parenthetical -- a 5150 vacation isn't on my pre-departure bucket list.
In the meantime, I'm gonna keep my venting about CTB on SS until my plans are concrete and set, so I don't freak anyone else out... this has also motivated me to do it away from home and at a place no one can find me at in a reasonable timeframe, because God forbid one of these people I give a chance to say goodbye to turns on me. So I guess I learned something
My friend sent me a long PM and was panicking and crying because she interpreted this as I already had plans, and was acting/acted on them. Her message to me was very kind and sweet, but I feel bad that she panicked. I had a long call with her, and explained why I was making this decision and that it wouldn't be out of the blue and abrupt. I told her it was more like I am making an insurance policy for myself so I can persevere through my immense pain and suffering more boldly and freely. My plan to CTB is my last ditch effort at truly living and seeing if I can make it, with the peace of knowing I can leave if I can't.
She understood and calmed down but I still feel really bad. I want those I am close to to know ahead of time that I am CTB (they know I am very ill, so I am HOPING no one would be so crass as to try to intervene, and they wouldn't know exact methods, just that I'd tell them a date ahead of time so they can say their goodbyes to me). I know not to tell just anyone because of that parenthetical -- a 5150 vacation isn't on my pre-departure bucket list.
In the meantime, I'm gonna keep my venting about CTB on SS until my plans are concrete and set, so I don't freak anyone else out... this has also motivated me to do it away from home and at a place no one can find me at in a reasonable timeframe, because God forbid one of these people I give a chance to say goodbye to turns on me. So I guess I learned something