Venting Forever alone

[Luchs]

I feel like I'm going to end up socially isolated very soon. I'm the guy that has to invite other people or ask if he can come, because no one wants to do anything with me out of their own motivation. I feel like I'll never have a real friendship. Not to speak of a relationship. I always have to think about something a female friend of mine told me during a fight quite some time ago. She said that I am smart, too smart, I'm an asshole and will be forever alone. This has stuck with me for many years, because it is the most down to earth, honest thing anyone has ever said to me.

 

[narval]

welcome to the club. I've assumed time ago that i'll be alone. Now i want it most of times. From time to time is sad more anything, but overall is easier to manage once assumed. It's like a... headlong rush?

I'll remember a quote from game of thrones that i can apply in this topic for me :(

"Let me give you some advice, bastard. Never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not. Wear it like armour and it can never be used to hurt you."
-Tyrion Lannister

 

[FuneralCry]

I'm alone and that is by choice. People can easily let you down and are disappointing in my opinion. I do appreciate how it can be painful for some people, being alone, loneliness can send many into despair.

 

[come to dust]

I'm just not interesting enough to be the fun friend, and not hot enough to be the hot friend/partner. So i dont have people close to me either

 

[MBY85]

I understand you, I love too much, I give too much, but I feel that I only have links with people if I force it. Nobody chooses to stay un my life. I am empty and more alone each day, and unable to ctb because of my disability. Sorry if I write wrong English is not my first language. A big hug

 

[VivantMort]

Some Schopenhauer to soothe the soul :)

3 insightful quotations/maxims to inspire encouragement when alone:

"Almost all our sorrows spring out of our relations with other people."

"A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free."

"To live alone is the fate of all great souls."


Gotta love Meister Schopenhauer :)

 

[TimeLawyer]

I won't type out a long response as I am busy getting cleaning done before work tomorrow, but here's a reply I wrote in another thread:

"I can relate to this, mainly because I tend to hold very strong positions on things and my views are not juuust perfectly in the middle where everyone would like them to be. Social norms? I've transgressed every single one. I will literally speak my mind even if it greatly offends someone. I have a great dislike for psychology and therapy as well so I even worry about fitting in on this forum and on atheist forums. Like it's the only framework we have left for understanding humans and how they should act now that religion is off the cards for more people. Idk. I was watching that clip from Bojack Horseman the other day that goes "everybody loves you, but nobody likes you" and it hit a bit close to home. It is hard to change just for other people's convenience."

I was watching House MD a while back and I kept relating really hard to some of the things House said/did, despite the fact I am a female and none of the 7 psychiatrists, psychologists and therapists I have seen in my lifetime ever mentioned narcissism. I was misdiagnosed with Autism as a kid, but from what I have seen Autistic people often try to follow rules/norms rather than break them, even if it is very difficult for them or they can't always manage to. (Although the PDA subtype, which is currently only regonised officially in the UK, does seem to have the opposite effect on the individual, but do note I am generalising here and an Autistic persons approach to following rules or norms, or trying to, depends on the individual)

You might like this subreddit (it's mainly for those who struggle to get into romantic relationships but some people post on there about being friendless/lonely in a platonic sense too)

r/ForeverAlone

r/ForeverAlone: A subreddit for Forever Alone.

www.reddit.com

You might like to read this article too:

Isolated and Alone

Doubting, deconverting, deconstructing, disbelieving, doubting faith, leaving Christianity, reasons to think Christianity is false, former Christians

new.exchristian.net

 

[Callie Arcale]

Hell is other people.

We are all other people. They are hell for us and we are hell for them.

 

[nopointofliving]

I can relate to that... I'm happy I'm not the only one who feels like this. Hugs