Father Died

[moggedtodeath]

My dad died on Friday. Seeing everyone so broken up about it has changed my mind, but still, this is so difficult to go through. My mom just keeps sobbing and it is unsettling. He visited me in his dream and said his trip was 'quick and easy'. I am sad. I am not sure what to do to cope. I have been sitting on some pure SN for months now and I just cannot bring myself to do it. I wish I could just escape this. I didn't think I could get more depressed, but here I am.

 

[alwayssad]

I'm so sorry for you, I know how bad it feels to lose a loved one.

 

[Brown-Jacket Revy]

I'm sorry for your loss.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

I'm sorry for your loss.

 

[Dangerdonkey333]

As someone who has lost a close one, and been there for plenty of others that have lost parents, I'm not going to preach the usual platitudes. The grief never completely goes away. Just easier to manage in time. You'll find yourself in situations that make you think about them, whether it's something that they would have liked or hated. And it's sad at first. But in time you will be able to see those things and laugh about it, and think about them with a smile instead of a tear. Whatever you choose to do though, I hope all will be well for you.

 

[Unattainable666]

I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. Please be kind to yourself.

 

[Hollowman]

Sorry for your loss, my dad died recently too.

 

[dreamingofrest]

I can't even imagine what you're going through right now. I'm so sorry for your loss

 

[CharmingFuneral]

Sorry for your loss.

 

[Ash’Girl]

Grief is a beast and there's no right or wrong way to react to it or process it. You just gotta feel all the feels and take each moment as it comes

I'm sorry you and your family are suffering through this loss.

As someone whose partner died, with regards to your mom: try to remember she's just lost her life partner, someone who's been a constant companion daily. With that comes the loss of the person who knew you best, comforted you, supported you, the person she likely spent most time with, talked with most, had established daily routines with. The absence of that can overwhelm for a very long time, because you feel their absence in everything.

Not to negate the grief you're experiencing in the loss of your father, at all, just to give you a glimpse into why your mom may struggle quite a lot for a long time. Her whole life as she knows it has changed now. And though she's the parent, it may hinder her ability to be there for you as you grief as she may be drowning in her own grief.

Big hugs to you. X

 

[MatrixPrisoner]

How old was your father if you don't mind me asking?

 

[Raindancer]

I am so very sorry about your dad. Please try and take care of yourself through this and if you can allow the feelings to come. It took my dad a good year to start to recover from losing my mom. My thoughts are with you and your family.

 

[aldennn]

I'm sry about your loss I also had loss my dad as well and it's painful ....my dad was my best friend and after I got married and then after that I dated a narcissist that abused me ....I wanna be dead but I do understand your pain and I'm sry

 

[moggedtodeath]

How old was your father if you don't mind me asking?

61

 

[waterrrrrrrrrbottel]

I'm very sorry. My father died when I was young, I get the feeling. I wish you peace and nothing but it.

 

[MatrixPrisoner]

61

OMG. So young. I am so sorry.

 

[SoulWhisperer]

I'm sorry to hear this... May he rest in peace...

 

[HollowDrop]

My condolences. At least you know he's at greener pastures now, away from any grief this world brings us.
Times will be hard and painful, but this day would have come sooner or later. It's an inevitable sadness. We all grieve in our own ways, I hope you will find what personally helps you.