Family and mental illness

[Taran]

My sister being a doctor calls me a mental in a sarcastic way... because I have bipolar and borderline and I'm on meds for it....my whole family is like this they are not abusive but definitely not supportive...no one understands my mental health but everyone in my family has started passing sarcastic comments on me cause I'm sitting in my home depressed...I try to tell them but no one understands...I try to avoid CTB thoughts but these situations in my life increase the need for me to CTB...India is worst to live with mental illnesss

 

[Cjaf]

My sister being a doctor calls me a mental in a sarcastic way... because I have bipolar and borderline and I'm on meds for it....my whole family is like this they are not abusive but definitely not supportive...no one understands my mental health but everyone in my family has started passing sarcastic comments on me cause I'm sitting in my home depressed...I try to tell them but no one understands...I try to avoid CTB thoughts but these situations in my life increase the need for me to CTB...India is worst to live with mental illnesss

I'm sorry you're going through that. It is very hard to make people without mental health issues understand what it's like. That's frustrating, lonely and painful but it is what it is. I hope this forum can help you a little bit. You're not alone.

Did you tell your family to stop the sarcasm? You'd think it's common sense but maybe they don't realize how hurtful it is.

 

[English_Rose]

Hello,
So i have the same duel diagnosis like you, and also had a very unsupportive family. It was making me worse, and i felt ashamed of who i was, because of how they were making me feel. So the best thing i did, for MYSELF was distance myself from my family and other toxic people! I know it's hard to do that, especially when they are your family, but if they don't support you, making you feel worse to the point of CTB, i think you should try distancing yourself from them, see how that makes you feel. If you feel better, then you know you've done the right thing. Just because they are blood related, doesn't mean you have to be apart of that family, make your own family, with new friends who will love, support and accept you for who you are...That's my advice. Hope this helps.

 

[Death.]

Hello,
So i have the same duel diagnosis like you, and also had a very unsupportive family. It was making me worse, and i felt ashamed of who i was, because of how they were making me feel. So the best thing i did, for MYSELF was distance myself from my family and other toxic people! I know it's hard to do that, especially when they are your family, but if they don't support you, making you feel worse to the point of CTB, i think you should try distancing yourself from them, see how that makes you feel. If you feel better, then you know you've done the right thing. Just because they are blood related, doesn't mean you have to be apart of that family, make your own family, with new friends who will love, support and accept you for who you are...That's my advice. Hope this helps.

I couldn't agree more. Simply stop associating with ANYONE who trivialises your pain, family or not.

My mother continuously undermined my suffering merely because there were no obvious signs of blood or injury. This is after years of abuse and conflict while I was a minor due to her excessive alcoholism. I cut her off completely and recently watched her die in her death bed without shedding a single tear or feeling any sadness or depression. At this point she already demonstrated that she cares very little for my suffering and pain, why should I give any consideration to her afflictions in return?!

Toxicity is not to be tolerated under any circumstances AT ALL.

In short, FUCK WHAT THEY THINK or SAY.

 

[Taran]

Mental health

I couldn't agree more. Simply stop associating with ANYONE who trivialises your pain, family or not.

My mother continuously undermined my suffering merely because there were no obvious signs of blood or injury. This is after years of abuse and conflict while I was a minor due to her excessive alcoholism. I cut her off completely and recently watched her die in her death bed without shedding a single tear or feeling any sadness or depression. At this point she already demonstrated that she cares very little for my suffering and pain, why should I give any consideration to her afflictions in return?!

Toxicity is not to be tolerated under any circumstances AT ALL.

In short, FUCK WHAT THEY THINK or SAY.

I couldn't agree more. Simply stop associating with ANYONE who trivialises your pain, family or not.

My mother continuously undermined my suffering merely because there were no obvious signs of blood or injury. This is after years of abuse and conflict while I was a minor due to her excessive alcoholism. I cut her off completely and recently watched her die in her death bed without shedding a single tear or feeling any sadness or depression. At this point she already demonstrated that she cares very little for my suffering and pain, why should I give any consideration to her afflictions in return?!

Toxicity is not to be tolerated under any circumstances AT ALL.

In short, FUCK WHAT THEY THINK or SAY.

Thanks guy's...I'll try to follow...but in India mental health is a stigma...and most of the population can't understand it....if your an Indian you either should be successful or failure that's it...people won't consider why you are not able to do your daily duties...even before ur born people set some expectations from you...and if u won't do it ...then your considered a failure no matter what the reason is ...and if it's mental health people won't even consider it as a problem

 

[RM5998]

Yeah, that sums up why I'm not discussing my mental health issues with my family. Add to that the fact that most doctors in India want to pin male mental health issues on sexual frustration, and repeatedly question my asexuality.

EDIT: Like, I've been asked "describe your physical reaction to pornography and human sexual organs" way too many times for my liking now.

 

[Taran]

Yeah, that sums up why I'm not discussing my mental health issues with my family. Add to that the fact that most doctors in India want to pin male mental health issues on sexual frustration, and repeatedly question my asexuality.

EDIT: Like, I've been asked "describe your physical reaction to pornography and human sexual organs" way too many times for my liking now.

Oh...that's sad to hear