Venting Ex told me they’re suicidal. What if I was their last straw

[IHurtTheOneILove]

Well I'm sure ur aware as I dont shut the fuck up about it but I cheated on my girlfriend by kissing another girl and asking her for nudes later that night.

My ex is obviously devestated by this (as any rational person would be) but has just told me theyre suicidal. We were going to break up before they found out anyways but with this new knowledge that they're suicidal I fear that I may be the cause of them CTBing.

They know of two of my recent attempts so I dont feel like this is a manipulation tactic I think theyre just being open to me and that is very startling as they wont get help (like I am).

What should I do with this new knowledge. They told me their parents already know but I'm figuring I call them anyways? I'm well aware that they hate me but I seriously want my ex to get help. I know intervening with others suicidal thoughts is problematic on this forum but I wouldn't know what to do with myself if my ex was to CTB.

I personally dont think they care if I live or die as they hate me now but I care so much about them and would hate to be the cause for their CTB.

What should I do?

 

[Cheesecake]

you can call their parents, but their death isnt on you! no one is owed a relationship, no matter whats happened, and while u fucked up ur not responsible for their life. notify their parents (authorities if u want) but its not in ur hands

 

[Groundhog_Day]

I personally dont think they care if I live or die as they hate me now but I care so much about them and would hate to be the cause for their CTB.

What should I do?

It's hard, but just try to 'control the controllables'. You can't change the past, and you can only try and think of what might be best for you and your ex now.

Perhaps, the communication between you guys is like opening up a fresh wound, with regards to the cheating. Maybe give her support if she asks for it, but if not, just give her space.

 

[UKscotty]

She is her own person, no one needs a valid reason to CTB.

 

[SoulofSteel]

no one is owed a relationship, no matter whats happened

I beg to differ, relationships are complex and they naturally leave a huge impact on most people, although its become somewhat of a "shit happens" thing.
I think the attitude that "nobody is owed anything" is a major issue that should not be pushed because it is doing more harm than good, it's true you don't owe someone you haven't already accepted in your life anything but a loved one? 'course you do. Our actions affect other people and just removing ourselves from the equation won't change anything for the better, rather one should come to terms with them and do their best to mitigate any harm as long as it doesn't put their own wellbeing in jeopardy.