Everywhere i go...

[Good4Nothing]

Someone has to treat me like shit.
All my life it's been this way.
There's no where safe.
The only solution is to stop going places.
Stop meeting people.
Stop trying to make friends.
What is it about me that makes people think it's okay to treat me like shit?

 

[Livingvsdying25]

I'm sorry you're feeling like that. I wish I could offer more than just words.

"Offers metaphysical shoulder" cause honestly... i ask this myself and I don't feel like theres much of an answer.

"People are just shit and unfortunately the majority of people I meet have taken to treating me less than."


I wanna say I see you and I hear you. I'm ooen to chatting if ya wanna vent.

Honestly sorry I can't offer up more encouraging words. Im here as an ear and heart so :4

(Edited for spelling)

 

[Sherri]

I'm so sorry that you feel so down. I barely go out, just for work. The most of my friends also left me when I became sick. Probably have 3 our 4, but also having you all in my life makes me feel less alone. You are not totally alone. Hugs.

 

[JustHeckinKillMe]

It's like I wrote these words

 

[K-O]

I U
them wankers do not define you, listen to people that know and appreciate you..
i know that low self esteem is our default and that's why we should surround ourselves with kind open souls and not trip into toxic situation with people that cant really understand except and "deal" with more complicated people like us and that probably cant really deal with themselves..
don't censor yourself to fit in love, our weakness can become our strength if we find ourselves in excepting company including our own.
x

 

[Sensei]

I feel you. I think the best way to deal with it is to have low expectations on people.

 

[Good4Nothing]

I feel you. I think the best way to deal with it is to have low expectations on people.

Even then I get treated like shit.
I'm on this forum because I tried to make a friend last year. I just wanted to care about her, she didn't even have to do anything. No expectations. But she treated me like shit. Somehow I became a fucking villain, just for liking her.

 

[Josh007]

You're not responsible for others actions. I'm sure a lot of people appreciate you. You seem like a great guy.

 

[Good4Nothing]

You're not responsible for others actions. I'm sure a lot of people appreciate you. You seem like a great guy.

Thanks, that means a lot.

 

[kitch]

People soothe themselves by abusing others .
It's a primate thing.

Robert Sapolsky Babbons youtube ... just spamming this .
It really opened my eyes.
Yech.

We sometimes learn to carry ourselves submissively and live under the "oppressed" stress all the time .

This guy reckons he's got it all worked out :

Stress Reduction Techniques & Exercises | Program Peace

The self-care system, by Program Peace offers natural stress reduction techniques. Explore our exercises to relieve mind & body tension.

programpeace.com

I haven't practiced a damn thing he mentions ... :/

 

[whywere]

I am so sorry that people treat you so poorly. I am 64 years young and all through my life I too have had people treat me like a piece of crap. BUT, please try and remember that you always have your global family here that loves, cares, has lots of empathy and kindness to you all the time. I have seen it through the years, life experience, that people who are cruel and thoughtless ALWAYS gets it back to themselves twice over. If and when someone is mean to you, just try and think of all of us here, waiting in the wings with hugs and smile for you! Walter

 

[Good4Nothing]

I am so sorry that people treat you so poorly. I am 64 years young and all through my life I too have had people treat me like a piece of crap. BUT, please try and remember that you always have your global family here that loves, cares, has lots of empathy and kindness to you all the time. I have seen it through the years, life experience, that people who are cruel and thoughtless ALWAYS gets it back to themselves twice over. If and when someone is mean to you, just try and think of all of us here, waiting in the wings with hugs and smile for you! Walter

Thanks, Walter.
Love you, man.

 

[stygal]

I'm sorry you feel that way.

I've come to the realization that being "too" kind/caring/empathic (etc.) can get taken advantage of by others whose personalities are wired to sense such "weaknesses" and use them against you.
Its definitely affected me as well and made me less trusting in general.

All I can say is what everyone else has already written about this community actually caring (of course - like with everything - there might sadly be some exceptions but in general it's a good place to start to building up trust again).

I hope you haven't given up yet and find someone who equally values you - people like that are definitely out there.
You deserve it.

 

[Good4Nothing]

I'm sorry you feel that way.

I've come to the realization that being "too" kind/caring/empathic (etc.) can get taken advantage of by others whose personalities are wired to sense such "weaknesses" and use them against you.
Its definitely affected me as well and made me less trusting in general.

All I can say is what everyone else has already written about this community actually caring (of course - like with everything - there might sadly be some exceptions but in general it's a good place to start to building up trust again).

I hope you haven't given up yet and find someone who equally values you - people like that are definitely out there.
You deserve it.

Thanks, stygal.
I'm making friends here. It's helping.

 

[Luchs]

Someone has to treat me like shit.
All my life it's been this way.
There's no where safe.
The only solution is to stop going places.
Stop meeting people.
Stop trying to make friends.
What is it about me that makes people think it's okay to treat me like shit?

Sadly there is always some asshole that has to assert their dominance by shitting on others. No one is safe from it, I know this is a dumb hollow statement you have probably heard 1000 times before, but you have to not let things like that affect you. It happens and will continue to happen, no matter what you do, so you've got to build up defences and not let those pesky assholes through your gate.

 

[woknows]

It is unlikely that everyone you met is a bad person. Maybe you are doing something wrong. Just maybe you are choosing the wrong people.

One possibility is that you grew up in a dysfunctional family. That could prime you for the future life of poor relationships.

From what you wrote. This option seems quite likely. First of all, love yourself and realize that you deserve to be loved as well.

 

[Makko]

It is unlikely that everyone you met is a bad person. Maybe you are doing something wrong. Just maybe you are choosing the wrong people.

One possibility is that you grew up in a dysfunctional family. That could prime you for the future life of poor relationships.

From what you wrote. This option seems quite likely. First of all, love yourself and realize that you deserve to be loved as well.

The "love yourself" has to come from something of substance. You can't produce it out of nothing using mental gymnastics. Telling yourself that you deserve things while not having them will only increase your pain.