Estate Planning

[Natty*]

Hello, I plan on CTB due to prolonged and severe abuse by my sister who is a communal malignant narcissist so basically the public thinks she's amazing and she abuses me behind closed doors. I do live in my own home, but I have various issues that require me to depend on her for things like groceries sometimes. I own my own home and have money in the bank all of which I plan on giving to various charities before I leave (well duh, I couldn't do it afterwards). The things is, I know my sister, and I'm afraid she will contest my will after I'm gone saying I was mentally unstable or whatever. I don't want my abuser to get my money but her reputation in the community is bullet proof. Nobody has any idea how bad the abuse is and one time she even emotionally abused me so bad while I was having a panic attack and then called the police and said I was mentally unstable. Of course I also had SN which I planned on taking due to the abuse and I was a mess when the police arrived due to being abused bad enough to have a panic attack and even more so while in the middle of it. When the police showed up she acted perfect and sounded like she was so concerned about my well being, etc.....so anyway, that's on record and she could use that as proof I'm not mentally stable. I don't know what to do. AI is suggesting getting a will along with a forensic exam to prove I'm mentally sound which I am except of CPTSD. Of course I didn't tell AI that I plan on taking my life. Also, there are many attorneys in my family who have no idea about the abuse and I could see my sister using them to contest my will. What should I do? I can't think of anything and I can't leave knowing she may get half a million dollars when she should be in prison.

 

[SASU-KE]

Leave her $100. Or even $1.00. This is to show that you are leaving her nothing intentionally. One of the ways they contest these wills is by saying that you are of unsound mind and you forgot about them entirely. This will at least show that you did make allowances for her.

You'll have to talk to a lawyer about all this. But it can be done in a neat way.She can contest it all she wants. She won't receive anything anyway. She'll only lose the money on lawyer fees.

There are plenty of these two faced people around. Friends can be cut off, but family members can't. Your money is yours to do what you will with.

 

[Natty*]

Leave her $100. Or even $1.00. This is to show that you are leaving her nothing intentionally. One of the ways they contest these wills is by saying that you are of unsound mind and you forgot about them entirely. This will at least show that you did make allowances for her.

You'll have to talk to a lawyer about all this. But it can be done in a neat way.She can contest it all she wants. She won't receive anything anyway. She'll only lose the money on lawyer fees.

There are plenty of these two faced people around. Friends can be cut off, but family members can't. Your money is yours to do what you will with.

Thank you. I like the thought of leaving her a dollar LOL. Actually, AI is saying that's a bad idea for various reasons. Sure it will show I'm not demented, but it won't show I'm mentally stable.

 

[SASU-KE]

Thank you. I like the thought of leaving her a dollar LOL. Actually, AI is saying that's a bad idea for various reasons. Sure it will show I'm not demented, but it won't show I'm mentally stable.

It's not good to rely on AI for everything. There is a lot of variation between countries, cities and local laws. If you do your planning right with witnesses and you sign the right documents, I'm sure that she can't do anything.She'll try I'm sure but not much can be done.

 

[Natty*]

It's not good to rely on AI for everything. There is a lot of variation between countries, cities and local laws. If you do your planning right with witnesses and you sign the right documents, I'm sure that she can't do anything.She'll try I'm sure but not much can be done.

Thank you so much!

 

[SASU-KE]

Thank you so much!

Make sure she doesn't have a hint of what you're planning to do. Tell her nothing, Don't allude to anything. This is vital. There's no telling what she might do otherwise.

 

[Natty*]

Make sure she doesn't have a hint of what you're planning to do. Tell her nothing, Don't allude to anything. This is vital. There's no telling what she might do otherwise.

Oh no, she already knows I plan on ending it and am seeing an attorney beforehand. I know, really stupid of me, but I panic and try to get her to stop hurting me. It's all part of the trauma bond. I'll have to make something up.

 

[SASU-KE]

Oh no, she already knows I plan on ending it and am seeing an attorney beforehand. I know, really stupid of me, but I panic and try to get her to stop hurting me. It's all part of the trauma bond. I'll have to make something up.

That's unfortunate that she's aware. They should never know about these things. It will give them time to intervene.Anyway, play it cool for now and give her an excuse but do this quietly on the side

 

[Natty*]

Thank you, Sasu-Ke

 

[SASU-KE]

Thank you, Sasu-Ke

You have been well trained, my apprentice. Go forth and annihilate!

Spoiler

Or just create your will for now

 

[knowledgeseeking]

On bank and other financial accounts name a beneficiary for the accounts with the financial institution. This supersedes a will. Depending on where you live, you may be able to file a document with the county naming who gets the property upon your death. This also supersedes a will. I'm Texas and here we file Transfer on Death Deeds.

Doing these things with your assets is better than a will and allows your loved ones to avoid probate court.

 

[telekon]

AI is suggesting getting a will along with a forensic exam to prove I'm mentally sound which I am except of CPTSD. Of course I didn't tell AI that I plan on taking my life.

You can't kill yourself and play the "mentally stable" card at the same time... Whether or not you are, the estate lawyers won't see it that way.

 

[StoneCactus]

Oh no, she already knows I plan on ending it and am seeing an attorney beforehand. I know, really stupid of me, but I panic and try to get her to stop hurting me. It's all part of the trauma bond. I'll have to make something up.

I have a severely disabled brother that I need to disinherit or else he could lose his ssi, lose his group home slot, and end up in a state hospital. My dad, who is a lawyer, told me to leave him a dollar to show you knew about him. So it's not just AI. Things can vary state by state so you absolutely need to talk with an attorney about estate planning.