Discussion 'emotionally intelligent' people.

[nopurposeinanything]

I hate people who are overly empathetic and just sensitive. I know some people cant control it and this is really insensitive for me, but truly they annoy me. Stop trying to be empathetic for stupid things and for people who dont fucking need it. And dont get me started on people who try to be smart. One of my freinds are like this—I love her but its so irritating. Im not trying to seem like im better than everyone else and my mindset is better, but some people are just so stupid. Theres no reason to care so much in a fucked up word like this. But of course, that's just my perspective.

 

[Arvayn]

I have these frustrations too, though I would not go as far as to say that I hate them. How do people expect you to be upfront and honest with them when they have the emotional stability of a rickety old shack? Work on yourself and make yourself someone worthy of open discussion instead of expecting others to sugarcoat everything.

 

[nopurposeinanything]

I have these frustrations too, though I would not go as far as to say that I hate them. How do people expect you to be upfront and honest with them when they have the emotional stability of a rickety old shack? Work on yourself and make yourself someone worthy of open discussion instead of expecting others to sugarcoat everything.

sorry, should've clarified, I dont hate them, I just hate their perspective of things. I cant tell if you're criticizing me or not, but if you are sorry, I know what I said is bitchy. Sorry.

 

[Arvayn]

I'm not criticizing you. Like I said, I am also frustrated by sensitive people. Of course, it's often not their fault, since they might just have trauma, or underdeveloped coping skills, or anything else of the sort... But that doesn't make it any less difficult to deal with.

And you are 100% right: Some people misplace their feelings. It's the most pointless form of self-sabotage.

 

[nopurposeinanything]

I'm not criticizing you. Like I said, I am also frustrated by sensitive people. Of course, it's often not their fault, since they might just have trauma, or underdeveloped coping skills, or anything else of the sort... But that doesn't make it any less difficult to deal with.

And you are 100% right: Some people misplace their feelings. It's the most pointless form of self-sabotage.

Ah, sorry I misunderstood! But yeah, I wholeheartedly agree. Sometimes they make me feel like a bad person with terrible morals with their perspective on life.

 

[Dejected 55]

I hear a lot of people who say they want more "emotionally intelligent" people, but I don't think there is an agreed upon definition of what that means. I'm not talking about the OP in this case... I just mean generally, there are too many "trap" situations where someone seems to create an opportunity to share emotions only to then use what is shared by others against them as if they are weak for sharing their emotions... BUT if the person had not shared, they would be accused of being uncaring and cold.

I used to think I knew what people meant by "emotional intelligence" but now I'm not sure I do, but I'm also not sure anyone else does either. It feels more like people really mean they want someone to feel exactly as they do, and not that the person needs to be in touch with their own emotions honestly. As in, you're either with me or against me. We see this play out in politics all the time where one side says they want honest discourse with an opponent but what they really want is something they can use against them. The honest discourse was just a ruse.

Again, not talking about the OP... I think the OP is talking more about people who are less actually emotionally intelligent and more like virtue signalling and annoying you with what they think makes them look good for saying and not actually engaging with what you shared with them.

 

[nopurposeinanything]

I hear a lot of people who say they want more "emotionally intelligent" people, but I don't think there is an agreed upon definition of what that means. I'm not talking about the OP in this case... I just mean generally, there are too many "trap" situations where someone seems to create an opportunity to share emotions only to then use what is shared by others against them as if they are weak for sharing their emotions... BUT if the person had not shared, they would be accused of being uncaring and cold.

I used to think I knew what people meant by "emotional intelligence" but now I'm not sure I do, but I'm also not sure anyone else does either. It feels more like people really mean they want someone to feel exactly as they do, and not that the person needs to be in touch with their own emotions honestly. As in, you're either with me or against me. We see this play out in politics all the time where one side says they want honest discourse with an opponent but what they really want is something they can use against them. The honest discourse was just a ruse.

Again, not talking about the OP... I think the OP is talking more about people who are less actually emotionally intelligent and more like virtue signalling and annoying you with what they think makes them look good for saying and not actually engaging with what you shared with them.

Sorry, what does OP mean?

 

[DeathSweetDeath]

Empathy, sensitivity towards others, and intelligence are positive qualities that I value and admire in people, but ofc we're all unique individuals & can't all value the same things.