Dunno if this belongs here

[Deleted member 14386]

I don't think I have to die. I think if there were proper resources that I could access the problems I have could be solved. The resources are not here though and it's only getting worse. If I make a good decision that's it, a good decision. Despite rules and laws that are different in dif countries, but if it's bad decision I'm always at fault. Why is this?! Why do people (mostly) see the bad and ignore the good? Or am I just insane/mad...

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

I wonder if this could be a reason -- blame discharges fear, discomfort, and uncertainty.

If it's considered a bad choice because of negative effects, that feels uncomfortable, so blame gets assigned to discharge the feelings.

I think we have a tendency to feel like what happens to others happens to us, so if it feels bad, we may feel a need to negate it and who/whatever caused the bad feelings. I wonder if this also leads to victim blaming and silencing: "everything was fine (for me) until you brought it up."

If the decision is considered good, it's because it feels good, so there's nothing to discharge.

 

[Deleted member 14386]

I wonder if this could be a reason -- blame discharges fear, discomfort, and uncertainty.

If it's considered a bad choice because of negative effects, that feels uncomfortable, so blame gets assigned to discharge the feelings.

I think we have a tendency to feel like what happens to others happens to us, so if it feels bad, we may feel a need to negate it and who/whatever caused the bad feelings. I wonder if this also leads to victim blaming and silencing: "everything was fine (for me) until you brought it up."

If the decision is considered good, it's because it feels good, so there's nothing to discharge.

Oh yeah lol, everything is subjective. A lot of people feel like I've hurt them by bringing up ctb, or at least leave the room quickly. It's odd that we can't just sit down and talk about it all
edit I guess thats the point of this site!