Discussion Does others' sufferance make you hate your life even more?

[blackheart]

Life already sucks enough I think (mine especially) and unfortunately I'm also condemned to be bloody soft and sensible. When people talk me about their problems I cannot help suffering for them. Their sufferance, their anxieties, their boredom, their sadness all feed into my own hateful and unbearable existence, increasing the darkness surrounding my mind.
I hate all this, I would like to be totally insensitive to others' issues and dramas but I cannot help the way I am I'm afraid. I suffer and I also suffer because others are suffering, this is a such a bloody mean and sickening vicious cycle, the worst torture in the world :-(

Does any of you ever feel the same? Or I'm the only weirdo experiencing these type os feelings towards others' sufferance and issues?

 

[Gaga786]

Life already sucks enough I think (mine especially) and unfortunately I'm also condemned to be bloody soft and sensible. When people talk me about their problems I cannot help suffering for them. Their sufferance, their anxieties, their boredom, their sadness all feed into my own hateful and unbearable existence, increasing the darkness surrounding my mind.
I hate all this, I would like to be totally insensitive to others' issues and dramas but I cannot help the way I am I'm afraid. I suffer and I also suffer because others are suffering, this is a such a bloody mean and sickening vicious cycle, the worst torture in the world :-(

Does any of you ever feel the same? Or I'm the only weirdo experiencing these type os feelings towards others' sufferance and issues?

Omg yes. I feel the same way. It is like I can feel the other person's pain and I can reach into their body and sense it. It's more ike a cry to help that person in any way I can. For instance, my trigger of seeing a child begging on the street willl completely encapsulate me and make me feel the need to CTB. I feel like it's a curse. I just can't help be kind to people and then my heart gets broken into a million pieces hearing and seeing everyone's story. It's like I want to just ease their suffering.

 

[Lovelorn]

I don't think you're alone. Usually, people point to the less fortunate "Be glad that's not you and enjoy life!" But I get this heart-wrenching reminder of the world we live in; not to mention that there's always a chance that person could one day be you. Some kind of vicarious suffering, idk

It comes off as a bit overly-sentimental, I guess, since that's just how reality works. Can't have good without the bad. But we can't help the way we feel about things either.

 

[blackheart]

Omg yes. I feel the same way. It is like I can feel the other person's pain and I can reach into their body and sense it. It's more ike a cry to help that person in any way I can. For instance, my trigger of seeing a child begging on the street willl completely encapsulate me and make me feel the need to CTB. I feel like it's a curse. I just can't help be kind to people and then my heart gets broken into a million pieces hearing and seeing everyone's story. It's like I want to just ease their suffering.

Literally I am the same! Yesterday I was speaking to a guy from Iran, he is an asylum seeker and basically he spends his days waiting for the Home Office to communicate the outcome of his application. He's been waiting for months and months and the only things he can do are to go to church, do some volunteering and read. HIs story and the fact that is life has been hanging for ages made me feel so bad his sadness fed my depression and I did feel the need to CTB :(

It's indeed a bloody curse as we'r constantly tortured.

I don't think you're alone. Usually, people point to the less fortunate "Be glad that's not you and enjoy life!" But I get this heart-wrenching reminder of the world we live in; not to mention that there's always a chance that person could one day be you. Some kind of vicarious suffering, idk

It comes off as a bit overly-sentimental, I guess, since that's just how reality works. Can't have good without the bad. But we can't help the way we feel about things either.

I literally cannot stand the people who say "Be glad that's not you and enjoy life" or "You should be grateful because you have a life". I don't remember when I asked for it! If I could I wouldn't have it!!! The world we live in does suck and we are reminded it every single bloody day of this bloody life!

 

[ThisIsLife]

Yes, absolutely. Empathy is a beautiful quality that is very hard to deal with.
Like you, and many others here, my heart can break when i see suffering or injustice and it gets even worse when i see mean/evil people hurt somebody.

We empaths suffer a lot, but the mad world we live in is what it is because of insensitive persons, so i prefer being as i am even if it's hard because we tend to underestimate how indifference can hurt.

 

[FuneralCry]

The fact that there is so much torment and pain being experienced in this world certainly makes me hate existing even more. This hellish world disgusts me and I view it as being a tragedy how life is even able to exist here. All that life is, is just an endless cycle of suffering that very unfortunately continues to repeat. It's terrifying how there is no limit as to how much we can suffer as long as one exists here, and being aware of what other existing beings have to go through just reminds me that the only real relief from pain could ever lie in non existence.

 

[blackheart]

Yes, absolutely. Empathy is a beautiful quality that is very hard to deal with.
Like you, and many others here, my heart can break when i see suffering or injustice and it gets even worse when i see mean/evil people hurt somebody.

We empaths suffer a lot, but the mad world we live in is what it is because of insensitive persons, so i prefer being as i am even if it's hard because we tend to underestimate how indifference can hurt.

Empaths do suffer much more indeed! When I see people sleeping or begging in the streets my heart literally twists in pain as there is nothing I can do other than give a few pence (if I was wealthy I would help them all). Insensitive people unfortunately exist too and apparently they seem to get all the benefits and live the best life. Unfairness everywhere!

 

[freevoid]

Life already sucks enough I think (mine especially) and unfortunately I'm also condemned to be bloody soft and sensible. When people talk me about their problems I cannot help suffering for them. Their sufferance, their anxieties, their boredom, their sadness all feed into my own hateful and unbearable existence, increasing the darkness surrounding my mind.
I hate all this, I would like to be totally insensitive to others' issues and dramas but I cannot help the way I am I'm afraid. I suffer and I also suffer because others are suffering, this is a such a bloody mean and sickening vicious cycle, the worst torture in the world :-(

Does any of you ever feel the same? Or I'm the only weirdo experiencing these type os feelings towards others' sufferance and issues?

I have the same experience as you. It's brutal

 

[OutOfTheVoid]

you're feeling empathy for others, thats normal. if anything, a lot of other people are just desensitized to others suffering, which is understandable but its just denying reality and looking away. this world is filled with suffering, torture, and oppression, so empathetically sharing in that pain can be very painful to the self as well. its not your fault or a problem with you, the problem is with this world and existence causing so much harm.

if anything, your empathy shows that youre a good person.