Hecuba
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- Dec 24, 2021
- 12
Hey! I am wondering if this is a (somewhat) common experience:
I have no power over the one aspect of my life that I find to be the most, and perhaps only, meaningful part of who I am and what I aspire for. Currently, the odds are evenly divided between the best and worst possible outcomes. The perspective of suffering has made me dysfunctional for a long time, and has steadily turned into a self-fulfilling prophecy. However, the more I become comfortable with and determined on CTB'ing if things go in that direction, the more at ease I feel living right now. It makes me fight with dignity for myself, take care of myself, and try to live as well as I can now, knowing that I don't have to fear that suffering, that although I have very little power in that meaningful aspect of my life, I have power over my life as a whole. In short, being set on CTB'ing if it gets to that has improved my life and self-worth in so many ways. I feel whole and more independent, I have power over my emotions, and I don't obsess over the future. It feels calm and safe, because what lies ahead is either happiness or death, which makes me fight for the happiness all the more while feeling secured from suffering that might be outside of my control. The only major downside is that I always choose to be as honest and direct as possible, and trying to talk to people in my life about this has resulted in losing most of those people because they either couldn't handle it or couldn't respect my decision without feeling like I need to understand that "there is something wrong" with me. Although thinking that there is something wrong with my outlook on my situation has made me miserable for a long time until I accepted CTB as a pragmatically reasonable possibility.
Please share thoughts and any similar experiences!
I have no power over the one aspect of my life that I find to be the most, and perhaps only, meaningful part of who I am and what I aspire for. Currently, the odds are evenly divided between the best and worst possible outcomes. The perspective of suffering has made me dysfunctional for a long time, and has steadily turned into a self-fulfilling prophecy. However, the more I become comfortable with and determined on CTB'ing if things go in that direction, the more at ease I feel living right now. It makes me fight with dignity for myself, take care of myself, and try to live as well as I can now, knowing that I don't have to fear that suffering, that although I have very little power in that meaningful aspect of my life, I have power over my life as a whole. In short, being set on CTB'ing if it gets to that has improved my life and self-worth in so many ways. I feel whole and more independent, I have power over my emotions, and I don't obsess over the future. It feels calm and safe, because what lies ahead is either happiness or death, which makes me fight for the happiness all the more while feeling secured from suffering that might be outside of my control. The only major downside is that I always choose to be as honest and direct as possible, and trying to talk to people in my life about this has resulted in losing most of those people because they either couldn't handle it or couldn't respect my decision without feeling like I need to understand that "there is something wrong" with me. Although thinking that there is something wrong with my outlook on my situation has made me miserable for a long time until I accepted CTB as a pragmatically reasonable possibility.
Please share thoughts and any similar experiences!