Help Does anyone know how if anyway to pad the blow for family

[merlinghost]

Whenever I think about my plans I run into the roadblock of the potential of my grieving family. I know I've read in several people saying they don't feel sympathy for leaving their family behind, but I don't feel the same. In a moment of weakness I was reading the Suicide Bereavement subreddit, the only thought I could muster was how I could pad the blow for my own parents. I know I can't stop the grief entirely but I want them at the very least to move on.

 

[woodlandcreature]

write them a note so they're not wondering why. that's all i can think of, honestly. not much you can do to make it less painful for them. maybe others can think of other things tho

 

[unbelievablydead]

Whenever I think about my plans I run into the roadblock of the potential of my grieving family. I know I've read in several people saying they don't feel sympathy for leaving their family behind, but I don't feel the same. In a moment of weakness I was reading the Suicide Bereavement subreddit, the only thought I could muster was how I could pad the blow for my own parents. I know I can't stop the grief entirely but I want them at the very least to move on.

i completely understand. i hate leaving my family in this way, but i also know i can't stay. it's a fine line to walk for sure. my plan is to write personal letters to each of my immediate family members, basically telling them not to blame themselves for what happened and also my hopes for them to live long, beautiful, and happy lives while also acknowledging the pain that i'll leave them with. that way, i get to kinda say goodbye from the other side. i also found some resources for bereaving families online that i'll leave them with. it's def not enough, but hopefully will make things at least a fraction easier.

 

[woofwag]

write them a note so they're not wondering why. that's all i can think of, honestly. not much you can do to make it less painful for them. maybe others can think of other things tho

Seconded on the note. Maybe leave them some kind of personalized gift to hang onto as well? Ik a lot of people who are grieving have said that having something small to remember them by has helped a lot. Make sure your goodbye to them is a warm one. As long as it's not too sus. But leaving them with the knowledge that you loved them up until the last moment is probably going to help in the grieving process.