I was abused physically and mentally by my "dad" from an early age until I was 12. For me it was reason enough to fight. That son of a bitch doesn't deserve my death. Hell no! It's not been easy, still isn't , I have multiple diagnosis I developed because of the abuse. But I'll never give him that satisfaction.
I learned through therapy to deal with a lot of things from the past.
Don't get me wrong, I get and respect your choices. And I'm so sorry you are a victim of your upbringing aswell. Big hug to you!