Does anyone else get sad when a member leaves?

[DreamEnd]

I don't know why but some goodbye threads make me tear up

 

[WorthlessTrash]

Kinda, but i have to remember it comes with the territory. They either recover and flourish, stay and suffer in limbo or CTB and are no longer suffering.

 

[lionetta12]

I don't know why but some goodbye threads make me tear up

I know what you mean, even though I don't know you all, I feel sad about it and it hurts to see that people have to do all of this to find peace. But at the same time, I understand and respect their desicion, I hope they find peace and rest.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Yes, definitely. It's a mixture of emotions really. I'm relieved for them that they hopefully will be at rest soon. I'm sad that their life was filled with enough trouble to get them to this point.

I'm also selfishly sad though- especially if I felt at least like I 'knew' them a little. I was chatting privately with a member a lot and I think she may have gone in December. I know she was getting closer to doing it. I am happy for her if she did it and is free of her suffering but I also miss her.

We're human at the end of the day. We may be pro choice but it's still a loss when you lose someone you made a connection with.

 

[tilly17]

It breaks my heart honestly to even hear people's stories and the amount of suffering going on out there. So many people hurting without anyone rally knowing and
Understanding the pain and how bad it is that this is the end result … people wishing they could curb but so many of us not having what it takes to actually achieve our end goal.
It'a nice to know someone out there cares right! Even if it's strangers -maybe we'll meet on the other side. Im Planning on ctb. tomorrow night I'd all goes as planned. But being with my family tonight and thinking of them without me and having to plan my funeral is killing me inside. If I want in shear agony inside 24/7 and I knew I could physically get better there's no way I could do this to them, however I've given it another year and only gotten worse. So hopefully tomorrow will be the end for me. Still not sure I can go through with it but I'm gonna do everything I can to override my SI as life will only become more painful for me and I have no life being primarily bedridden now.
So yes so too get so sad watchimg
People leave and wish I could save them deep down inside but I know
How much we are all hurting one way or another.

 

[Raven2]

Yes I find it very sad and that sasu'ers are in that much pain and they have to CTB alone with no loved ones around. If only assisted dying was an option. But I also understand the struggles that people go through and what leads them to that point. All I can do is wish them a peaceful exit and hope they dont suffer too much with their choosen method.

 

[damaged_soul]

I feel sad for them that they had to suffer so much to get to that point, but I feel happy for them that they can finally find peace and relief from their suffering.

 

[Jadzia]

Yes, I experience several emotions and sadness is one of them

 

[Rational man]

There's been many wise souls in this forum, some still here and some gone so theres some sadness that our world has lost some very special people.ive learned not to connect to humans so much because in the end, impermanence takes everyone. Other than that, ive been shafted by some ' friends ' and in particular, my dysfunctional family betrayed my trust.

 

[FuneralCry]

No, I only envy and admire those who ctb. There is nothing sad about suicide, in fact suicide is a wonderful thing as it's the one way to permanently end all suffering. Those gone are no longer trapped in an existence not worth enduring, so they are lucky. The sad thing is when people are stuck in this world, being tortured endlessly by this existence instead. It's tragic to deny people options of peaceful methods and make it so they have to suffer so much in finding ways to die.

I hope people on here don't become pro lifers wishing to save people from suicide because it's so, so 'sad' when someone dies. No, death is the most normal thing ever, if only people realised this and stopped glorifying and placing so much value on something as useless as existence, then maybe suicide wouldn't be such a stigmatised subject.

 

[TAW122]

I do feel a little bit of sadness (not to the point of tears or really crippling, but some melancholy) knowing that they end up going that path (because losing someone does feel painful, emotionally so I can somewhat understand it from that perspective), but also I feel that they are free and no longer suffering. In a sense, I'm somewhat relieved for them (not in an offensive manner) that they are able to overcome their SI, and will no longer have to suffer in a world that is unjust, cruel, and full of problems.

 

[brokensea]

I feel sad for people who die by CTB. I think it's sadness that their life was so horrific. Some of the stories they're just so unfair, so much abuse and cruelty. Some people just didn't even have a chance. They had no one who loved them. Suffered in horrible physical and mental pain. Experienced abuse after abuse from parents, partners, friends, strangers. Horrible violations, betrayals, abandonment, social ostracizing, poverty, etc. So reading their life and that they went through so much and then ended up committing suicide it's just sad as hell. Why does life have to be such a horrible, awful place filled with so many vile people? I think the people who aren't vile people are the ones monsters abuse. I think it's hard to survive in this world if you aren't a sociopath these days. It's just the norm. So yes the fact that you have to be born into this world and suffer so horrifically until you can't take anymore and kill yourself is very sad. I think this world just shouldn't exist in this way. This whole reality and consciousness into such a world of despair and cruel survival. Where you're existing on borrowed time and anything happy or good will be gone and dead anyway. The whole concept of life itself is horrible. We humans have made it worse. So I feel sad for everyone for all their pain and suffering that they had to exist in this world and that this was the only way out of it all. No one should have had to experience any of it.

 

[hellispink]

I feel respect only. They were able to leave from this nightmare. They were courageous.

 

[Wannagonow]

I feel a bit sad. I do try and remember that this is something they desired (or at least thought they did).

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

If I knew them better I might be sad …

 

[LookingOverTheEdge]

Yeah I do. I read peoples stories and sometimes I just can't believe what life throws at people. Even still I think it's always going to be a sad thing when someone goes through with it.

 

[leaf23]

Yes, even if they were strangers I never had a conversation with or they were happy and at peace going. I feel sad at all goodbyes

 

[Euthanza]

It's sad because all adults deserve their own nembutal at time and place of their own choosing with their loved ones around, but we know that's not what happening in real life

 

[Silent.Tears]

All of the goodbye threads make me sad, it never gets easier to read them. But at the same time, there's a relief that they don't have to suffer anymore. Life just never gets easier for some people. I want to go badly, first day of the year has been hell.. I wish I was gone. To those who said, I should live because there's so much to live for, I hope you enjoyed your first day of the year because I had to tolerate my pain on my own.

 

[WorthlessTrash]

All of the goodbye threads make me sad, it never gets easier to read them. But at the same time, there's a relief that they don't have to suffer anymore. Life just never gets easier for some people. I want to go badly, first day of the year has been hell.. I wish I was gone. To those who said, I should live because there's so much to live for, I hope you enjoyed your first day of the year because I had to tolerate my pain on my own.

Those people who claim there is so much to live for are only projecting their own circumstances onto us. They don't know what it is like to have dysphoric, trauma, mental illness, homelessness, etc.

 

[FieCher]

Mixed feelings. Sad - when they are just so traumatized from things in the past and never got a fair chance living this life without triggers. Respect - for choosing what they think is best for them and hoping that it will give them that piece.
..And also some jealousy- because I think I'm to chicken to do the same
..which goes with being ashamed as well- because most people come to this because of much worse situations than me.

 

[buyersremorse]

I get mixed feelings I guess. I feel so sad inside it actually physically hurts for every single goodbye thread I've read, but at the same time part of me is extremely relived, or a little more at peace with the thought someone out there is allievated from what must have been immense suffering.

 

[WonderingSoul]

A lot of them nowadays make me feel very sad. I'm happy that their suffering has ended, but it just sucks how life treated them so harshly and CTB might've been their last option.

 

[Unwr!tten]

I share so many of the same feelings as those who've posted. The short of it is that yes, I get really emotional but I also respect the choices of adults who can't handle their suffering anymore.

 

[Death is my goal]

not at all

 

[waRmblanket]

losing members is never easy, close or not. i've definitely cried reading goodbye threads, it's very normal. knowing they're real people with real struggles hurts on a whole other level. so many amazing people who didn't deserve to feel the way they do.

i can say with confidence, i'd be dead by now if it weren't for helpful sasu members. i thank every single person that's helped, even the gone members, i thank.

death isn't always an easy topic, i feel a bit desensitized to it, unfortunately. i wish no one had to deal with it or struggles, but it's reality:( as sad as it is to see members go, i understand and respect their decisions. we always have a right to miss them, just be glad they're resting and are gone from any and all struggles.