Does anyone else feel like they are a bad person?

[Untimely]

I am objectively a terrible person. At least I feel this way I can go into more detail if people ask. Wondering if others felt the same.

 

[Cyc]

I've done bad things for sure. I've hurt a lot of people, whether it be intentionally or unintentionally.

However, I believe very few people are fully good or fully bad. Sure, objectively they might seem good/bad but deep down most people aren't good or bad, they're somewhere in between. Humans are naturally flawed, if we don't make mistakes then we can't learn how to improve ourselves

And to answer your question, no I don't see myself as a bad person but I don't see myself as a good person either even though others may disagree. What have you done to feel this way if I may ask?

 

[wine is fine but]

there is good and bad in everyone

who is a good person and who is a bad person normally depends entirely on the perception of others, not on the acts and words of the individual they are judging

if you feel you are a bad person, then do your best to be a good person

 

[Viranamari]

At least youre self aware of it. most people guise under the cover of being good. This makes you better than the majority. Personally, I dont really care which label of 'good' or 'bad' i fall into. what would even define as being good or bad? anyways, if you want, you can try to be a better person or you could just be yourself. after all, you dont own anyone anything.

 

[itsgone2]

I am a bad person. I don't know why. I don't think I always was, but I definitely became one.

I hate myself. I am a terrible person and I should die. That's it.

I could hang myself tonight if I had the guts. But I'm a terrible person and I probably don't.

It's going to happen soon, though I need to get it over with

 

[inconclusivesorbet]

Yup. absolutely irredeemably so.
time to go soon.

 

[Zvetok26]

Yeah, I am a bad person. Always was. Always was isolated.
Even my father told me when I as little, that I was a mistake and that I ruined his life.
Even in kindergarten other children refused to play with me, it was like they sensed something was off about me.
The few times I managed to find a friend, I was horrible to them and pushed them away.
And now, I could not even fathom seeking out other people because I know I would be horrible to them. It's quite ironic because I desperately wanted to be a good person...but it's better to accept so I will not hurt other people anymore.

 

[Asya]

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[dirkw83]

All I know is being in a very hard situation makes you less of a person than you could be, and that's not your fault.

 

[msds]

I don't even feel like a person.

 

[Scorpio moon gal]

I definitely feel that way. It's so hard to live with myself even... sometimes I keep sleeping hoping i don't wake up and experience myself but oh well here we are.

 

[Apathy79]

I dunno where the line is. Everyone is part good, part bad. Some swing more one way than others. But the criteria are so hazy and vary from person to person, as does the harshness of the judgment. I think people that know me would differ on whether I'm good or bad even with the same facts. I tend to think I've done more bad than good so far and I have a debt to make up, but to be fair, if I was in almost anyone else's shoes, I would probably think the same. It might be as much my personality as anything else.

That said I think the recognition of having done bad things helps. To a point. Everyone needs a decent regret. That's how we learn and improve. But it can go too far. Wallowing in guilt about it forever isn't much help.

 

[aesthetic]

i am a bad person, at least that's what other people say about me.

 

[spiders.in.my.head]

I don't think I'm a bad person in terms of morals or anything, but I do think I am very unlikeable. I'm pessimistic and cynical, besides being unable to contain my depression or hide it, and i'm seemingly too stupid to stfu and keep my shit to myself. i'm a downer and just drag others down with me. so yeah, i doubt anyone would consider me a good person, i'm just way too unpleasant to deal with for that.

 

[Captain laser]

I am objectively a terrible person. At least I feel this way I can go into more detail if people ask. Wondering if others felt the same.

yeah, i was someone willing to help and hear my friends out, now i cant stand hearing them tell me about their problems, and i judge everyone for the smallest things

 

[CatLvr]

You guys are making me feel very philosophical today.

A few things I have noticed since joining SaSu:

1. As a whole, this place has the kindest, most empathetic membership a forum could ever ask for.

2. The essence of the human experience, at least so far for me, has been the journey to find both the good AND the evil in myself, and then work to settle on a balance I can live with. For example, I was horribly abused as a child -- by EVERY adult I knew. My mother, her enabling husband (because let'a face it -- if he had been an actual MAN with ANY morals he would NEVER have let her do the things she did), a couple of uncles. You get the picture.

I learned VERY early in life that the best protection against evil was to be more evil yourself. Did it work?? Not all the time but often enough that by the time I got out of high school and left home I had absolutely no moral base to work from. It was a hard period of time in my life, but I survived. And learned a lot about myself in the process.

Anyway, I see the same journey playing out for so many of the younger members here. Please do not be too harsh with yourself when you do something you feel is unreasonable, or hateful. I would be willing to bet that very, very few of you actually enjoy being mean and/or cruel, and that the vast majority of the time you are just trying to survive. There is not a damn thing wrong with that.

3. We ALL have the ability to get better. And, quite frankly, worse. It is a journey. You don't get to make all the choices, unfortunately, but you DO get to make enough of them that over time you CAN become what you wish to be.

Some people enjoy being cruel. I feel like that backfires on them but hey! Who am I to say?? Just try not to be that person. I really do think it doesn't make anyone happy in the end. Even if, in the short term, it might feel good. Or justified.

4. People are always saying that "people are social creatures". Not iny experience. I am MUCH happier alone, than I have EVER been when I have been in relationships. So, consider that if you are unhappy because you don't have anyone, maybe we as a society, are looking at "it" all wrong. Maybe if you focus on YOU and doing things you enjoy by yourself you might find the peace you have always craved. Not saying I am right -- just saying "maybe" you will find what you have been craving -- stranger things have happened.

 

[Untimely]

I've done bad things for sure. I've hurt a lot of people, whether it be intentionally or unintentionally.

However, I believe very few people are fully good or fully bad. Sure, objectively they might seem good/bad but deep down most people aren't good or bad, they're somewhere in between. Humans are naturally flawed, if we don't make mistakes then we can't learn how to improve ourselves

And to answer your question, no I don't see myself as a bad person but I don't see myself as a good person either even though others may disagree. What have you done to feel this way if I may ask?

There's a lot of things, but generally, I feel I used to always put myself first and generally that's considered to be a negative trait

 

[nummie]

There's a lot of things, but generally, I feel I used to always put myself first and generally that's considered to be a negative trait

it can be seen as selfish and negative but i wouldnt see that as being a bad person lol. Humans are all sorts of things but one thing theyre not is perfect and you gotta remember that. We're all just trying to get by and survive

 

[Cyc]

There's a lot of things, but generally, I feel I used to always put myself first and generally that's considered to be a negative trait

I don't think that's necessarily bad in a lot of scenarios. This world is quite cruel and in order to succeed you have to be selfish to an extent in my opinion

It's far better than being a people pleaser because nobody is happy when you try to be on everyone's side.

 

[thelostautistic]

My mind constantly tries to make me believe that I'm a terrible person. I know i'm not but I beat myself up for every mistake I've ever made and it's exhausting. I lay awake at night and my brain goes "remember when you did this" or "remember when you hurt this persons feelings"

 

[c4bomba]

Feel like? No I am a bad person. Accidentally hurt people's feelings
Intentionally hurt people's feelings
Neglecting things
Prioritizing personal comfort than people's feelings
Tried to control people