Do your parents love yelling?

[Cashewmilk]

Do you have a parent, probably a mother, who just seems like she loves yelling and can't go a day without yelling or frowning, or being toxic and hateful? Why are parents like this if they claim to love their kids so much? My mom has been yelling at me and my older sister since we were tiny babies, and we learned how to yell like her and she *hates* it so much, but totally denies being the major influence. She forgets that she's the leader here and that we're actually her kids, she treats us like we're her peers. She had a baby when I was 11 and she was 39 and doted on her and made sure to never yell at her, and my younger sister turned out flawless pretty much. She still never yells at my younger sister who is now 21, but she screamed her fucking head off to me and my sister when we were toddlers. Basically she screwed up and failed the first 2 times, and nailed parenting on the third try. The only decent thing about my mom is that she's never kicked us out and abandoned us... I know in some western cultures it's really common to abandon your child if they do something bad (like drugs or illegal activities), but my mom has always told us that she's never wanted anything more in her life than to be a mom, and deep down she has a maternal bond... she's an antinatalists dream, she feels guilty and feels a duty to be there for her kids no matter what, forever. When she felt disrespected, she would yell "I'm a MOTHER!" As if being a mother is some big accomplishment. I feel both lucky and cursed.

Basically the way I live my life is that I endure constant emotional abuse in exchange for a stable home. People tell me I should get out of my abusive home but the alternative isn't better at all, it's homelessness, or prostitution, or worse. I'd much rather stay in the luxury of my original place and endure screaming women from time to time. Unfortunately it won't last forever. Hopefully I can find a way to ctb before I'm in deep shit. Anyways, anyone else have constant yelling parents? I know there's a ton of young people on here who still live with their parents hehe.

 

[DeadButDreaming]

You'll have to fogive me for not replying to your post.

My father was a raging, alcoholic asshole who made my life a living hell.

 

[lostangel]

Do you have a parent, probably a mother, who just seems like she loves yelling and can't go a day without yelling or frowning, or being toxic and hateful? Why are parents like this if they claim to love their kids so much? My mom has been yelling at me and my older sister since we were tiny babies, and we learned how to yell like her and she *hates* it so much, but totally denies being the major influence. She forgets that she's the leader here and that we're actually her kids, she treats us like we're her peers. She had a baby when I was 11 and she was 39 and doted on her and made sure to never yell at her, and my younger sister turned out flawless pretty much. She still never yells at my younger sister who is now 21, but she screamed her fucking head off to me and my sister when we were toddlers. Basically she screwed up and failed the first 2 times, and nailed parenting on the third try. The only decent thing about my mom is that she's never kicked us out and abandoned us... I know in some western cultures it's really common to abandon your child if they do something bad (like drugs or illegal activities), but my mom has always told us that she's never wanted anything more in her life than to be a mom, and deep down she has a maternal bond... she's an antinatalists dream, she feels guilty and feels a duty to be there for her kids no matter what, forever. When she felt disrespected, she would yell "I'm a MOTHER!" As if being a mother is some big accomplishment. I feel both lucky and cursed.

Basically the way I live my life is that I endure constant emotional abuse in exchange for a stable home. People tell me I should get out of my abusive home but the alternative isn't better at all, it's homelessness, or prostitution, or worse. I'd much rather stay in the luxury of my original place and endure screaming women from time to time. Unfortunately it won't last forever. Hopefully I can find a way to ctb before I'm in deep shit. Anyways, anyone else have constant yelling parents? I know there's a ton of young people on here who still live with their parents hehe.

My mother does. It's hilarious sometimes how she erupts in a fit of rage when something small happens. She can't handle her emotions and loves taking her anger out on other people. Unfortunately, that person was me. I'm sorry you had to go through that though. I have found r/raisedbynarcissist. on credit to be very helpful in terms of healing. I wish the best.

 

[Arrow]

My mother does. It's hilarious sometimes how she erupts in a fit of rage when something small happens. She can't handle her emotions and loves taking her anger out on other people.

relatable except basically the rest of my family does this as well

 

[Green Destiny]

My mom is a very toxic person to be around a lot of the time. She gets pissed off at everything most days and slave drives me to help her with literally everything she does. She is a caring mother but at the same damn time she has no clue how much of a full time job it is to be around her 24/7. I'm in the exact same situation living wise, either put up with her shit constantly or be homeless since it's fucking EXPENSIVE to just rent a one bedroom apartment where I live. Oh and yes she LOVES to raise her voice, she yelled plenty when I was growing up. Be it over the phone or arguing with my step dad, had a handful of police visits during my childhood. Never a dull moment with her around.

 

[WitheringAway]

Count my mom in. Sometimes I think the genes are contributing to the horrible personality since I have a vague memory of her family being crazy. Sometimes I think it's her ocd and bipolar. Nonetheless, not a day goes by without her screaming at trivial bs.

 

[Theresa Riot]

Oh yeah. She spent every day of my life from when I was 5 to 25 screaming at me, and now when I scream at her she gets mad. Tough luck bitch, I learned from the best. She also has borderline personality disorder, which she never bothered to tell me so that I could try relating to her differently instead of resenting her for being hateful. Oh well. Too late now.

 

[idontwannadothisanym]

my mom pretty much brain dead and my dads bipolar as shite my mom in care home my dad I live with my mom barely know who I is and it's awkward to text her and stuff never see her erm my dad shout a lot when he has episodes he's horrible NSFW coming up stop reading if you no likey he tell me he will slit my throat I got voice note of if it so I don't want people think I lying thank you sir erm also he say oh yeh if you gone kill yourself don't do it in this house will leave burden and last night he say you're 18 not fucking 4 just because I asked for hug and I cried so much cried all night not slept forever I am baked like fried egg in brain this prozac make me crazy I'm sorry for ranting so much I feel like idiot
please someone hug me

 

[Cashewmilk]

Oh yeah. She spent every day of my life from when I was 5 to 25 screaming at me, and now when I scream at her she gets mad. Tough luck bitch, I learned from the best. She also has borderline personality disorder, which she never bothered to tell me so that I could try relating to her differently instead of resenting her for being hateful. Oh well. Too late now.

Exactly that's what I say, we learned it from the best!

relatable except basically the rest of my family does this as well

Same my sister does it too but she does it worse, she's the next generation louder and cringeworthy

My mother does. It's hilarious sometimes how she erupts in a fit of rage when something small happens. She can't handle her emotions and loves taking her anger out on other people. Unfortunately, that person was me. I'm sorry you had to go through that though. I have found r/raisedbynarcissist. on credit to be very helpful in terms of healing. I wish the best.

Yeah I'm sorry too! Yeah my mom has zero control over her emotions and same with my sister. It's disgusting like they're so dumb, calm down they act like it's the end of the world if there's a mess, or something stupid. When I was a little kid my mom screamed so loud when I dropped a fork on the ground. Now she's learned to ignore because my little sister does it, and she never yells at her. She nailed parenting with my little sister, she's like every parents dream.

relatable except basically the rest of my family does this as well

Same my sister does it too but she does it worse, she's the next generation louder and cringeworthy

my mom pretty much brain dead and my dads bipolar as shite my mom in care home my dad I live with my mom barely know who I is and it's awkward to text her and stuff never see her erm my dad shout a lot when he has episodes he's horrible NSFW coming up stop reading if you no likey he tell me he will slit my throat I got voice note of if it so I don't want people think I lying thank you sir erm also he say oh yeh if you gone kill yourself don't do it in this house will leave burden and last night he say you're 18 not fucking 4 just because I asked for hug and I cried so much cried all night not slept forever I am baked like fried egg in brain this prozac make me crazy I'm sorry for ranting so much I feel like idiot
please someone hug me

My sister is the same tells me to go kill myself if I want to and to stop talking about it. Ugh. *hugs*