Discussion Do your parents have destroyed your life?

[Spiko]

In my case, my parents have destroyed my mental health.
Do you would also say, that your parents have destroyed your life?

 

[NoDream]

Yes, they destroyed everything.

Nmother is a sadistic narcissist and Edad very violent.

Im old now and understand what they did. Exactly every word, every violent act, every manipulation was intended to harm for the rest of my and my childrens life.

 

[RememberWhatUCameFor]

they gave me their garbage genetics so yes

 

[CornerE]

Yeah . and they still do , my siblings as well .
they will never stop .
So long I'm still reachable to them , I'm never safe .

 

[seekingoblivion]

Yes they did so first by having me. Then by not knowing how to raise a kid. Fucked us all up my siblings and I. But it's not their fault at all. It's nobody's fault.

 

[pleasethistime]

they fuck you up, your mum and dad.
they may not mean to, but they do.
they fill you with the faults they had
and add some extra, just for you.

but they were fucked up in their turn
by fools in old-style hats and coats,
who half the time were soppy-stern
and half at one another's throats.

man hands on misery to man.
it deepens like a coastal shelf.
get out as early as you can,
and don't have any kids yourself.

 

[21Neberg]

I'm actually the opposite. My parents have given me every oppurtunity I could have ever asked for, which is why I don't feel like I 'should' be mentally ill/ It also makes me feel like my issues are 'fake'. My therapist says thats just a voice in me, but I believe it.

 

[Ssrejisser]

For me it's not the parents but my ex of 6 years.

 

[Gray Wounds]

Partly. Just partly.

 

[ScarsAndStitches]

My mom didn't ruin my life, but she has never done anything to make it better.

 

[Umbra]

No, if anything they were great parents who always prioritized me over themselves.

 

[N-IsMyHope]

Yes.

 

[deathplease]

Definitely. My dad is was an abusive prick to me who gave me many of the mental illnesses I deal with now. My mom means well, but can be a real bitch when she wants to be. She also fails to understand my mental illnesses and gabs about it to everyone she knows. She's honestly one of the reasons why I haven't bothered to receive any help for my mental health in a very long time.

 

[TAW122]

Only my childhood and partly my adolescence, but I don't harbor any resentment towards my parents because they were doing what they believed to be best, and they didn't really know better. The other part, well it was my damn fault and my insecurities that fucked my own life over, so I blame myself for that. In fact, I'm not really dwelling on that anymore, I have moved on, and nowadays I'm just making the most of my shitty existence as possible before I ctb (I sure as hell don't plan to live to old age and die of diseases or other causes, or having to depend on others to take care of day to day basics).

 

[SadGirl]

I grew up seeing my mother drunk, my absent father only working, when he arrived, he attacked my mother in front of me, I never lacked any material goods, but I did not have much love and affection, this resulted in anxiety, depression and suicidal tendencies. I wish I had had a slightly different life, but I think how horrible the world and other children have suffered worse, is it selfish to think so?

 

[Zamolxes]

This is a hard one but good one my mom had a ton of anger Wich would always end on me somehow crazy bitch they say and dad got schizophrenia when I was like 12 poor bastard I saw that crazy mother of mine abuse him verbally as I grew up .........
But now my dad is gone and she is still alive and well so I asked her wtf was wrong and I eventually found out that her dad had raped her as a kid and also she was pushed out of the family they taught she was crazy. Karma .....

 

[Mess]

they killed my self esteem, and im sure they are proud of what they did

 

[JSRF]

Yes definetely. Any potential I may have had was destroyed by abuse and neglect.

 

[Quinlor]

Mom and dad have mental problems too, neurose, anxious crises, etc. In this sense, I didn't blame them for what they did to me. Even knowing that they fucked me and I want to die part because I have conscience about this shit.

 

[Final Escape]

Yes they did so first by having me. Then by not knowing how to raise a kid. Fucked us all up my siblings and I. But it's not their fault at all. It's nobody's fault.

Lol!

 

[KiraLittleOwl]

My mother was emotionally cold, my father is alcoholic. But no, I ruined everything myself. Genetics.. I can't blame them, it's just bad luck.

 

[letmeseethedeath]

In my case, my parents have destroyed my mental health.
Do you would also say, that your parents have destroyed your life?

they destroyed everything and they still do, i don't wanna live anymore

 

[Numbtopain97]

yes and they still not done ruining it.

 

[c824767]

My parents were mentally ill because they went through WWII as children. My city, Osnabrueck, was bombed heavily. It was wild. Escalating violence. I loved my life when I finally got away from home. Now that I am in my 50s and some idiot doctors put me on some medication that screwed up my brain, I just want to die. My mom is still alive but I cannot get myself to contact her after we had a fight. I feel bad dying without talking with her one more time. It is her birthday today. She is 78 or something.

 

[RealLostSoul]

No not at all. I want to make that clear just in case anyone in the future reads this when I am gone. They did everything they could! It's not their fault at all!!

 

[MeltingHeart]

Yes I would say so. A big resounding YES!

 

[Wayfaerer]

My parents had destroyed my life. Not intentionally but they were careless, ignorant and irresponsible.

 

[n0505]

Yes,100%.

 

[Mr2005]

They didn't help

 

[Reyki6667]

Ya.