Do you wonder how other people will remember you?

[sserafim]

Do you wonder how other people will remember you after you die? I wonder how my high school and college classmates would react to the news. Honestly I don't think anyone would remember me or care that I died, but I think that it would be unexpected because everyone thought that I was really nice and kind. I remember that in high school, I was once voted as the nicest in the grade.

 

[R_N]

Idc tbh. I did in past because I thought things mattered more than they do to me now.

Memories don't make a person and after enough time is gone most people are not even mentioned anyway. People you knew will also die.

I am indifferent on this topic. I also feel in general, we take this fleeting life too seriously when it is not.

 

[ABSOLUTION]

Not really, I wouldn't care what they think if I was dead.
But aside from my family, no one would really care anyway.
It'd be as if anyone other person did it. A bit of pity felt, but something not very consequential to them.
Overall, my worth and direct influence on this earth is miniscule. Nothing of value would be lost.

 

[Kundalini Guy]

Don't really care much, 100+ years from now nobody will even remember most celebrities. Some person could be reading this exact post 100 years from now and everyone posting will either be dead or old as heck.

 

[NewtBoy]

It's an interesting thing to think about. Oftentimes I think people's opinions of themselves and how other people see them is at the very least slightly incorrect. I could definitely be wrong, but it makes me constantly question how accurate my self perception is, and in turn how others see me now, and how they'll remember me. Realistically, I think people would remember me as a bit mopey, lazy, but well meaning.

 

[BeforeYouFallAsleep]

Do you wonder how other people will remember you after you die? I wonder how my high school and college classmates would react to the news. Honestly I don't think anyone would remember me or care that I died, but I think that it would be unexpected because everyone thought that I was really nice and kind. I remember that in high school, I was once voted as the nicest in the grade.

yes, a lot. I'm just so curious if anyone would care. And what they would do if they found out one day.
In a weird way, it encourages me to ctb just to find out.. it makes no sense ik
I can remember having these thoughts from a fairly young age on
I might have an attention problem qwq

 

[WeDontKnowTheFuture]

They will remember that i was a sensitive, creative and atypical person but no one will understand why i did it. I can imagine the different kind of reaction: saying it was selfish, that my death is tragic ( when it is the only think i'm asking for ), saying"he had so much potential why did he do that ?"
Some peoples i was close to will remember that i was internaly tortured since my early teenage so they will not be surprised. Some will think that it was possible to help me ( but it is not, my existential non-sens and the way i function are the issue ) so they will regret that i didn't talk to them to get help wich is absurd. Some will say " he was so young, this is sad, everything could have worked out".
Some will have guilt for nothing.
I'm sure of one thing, almost everyone will see my death as a tragedy and nobody will think it was better for me.
I'd like to talk freely to my wish to die to anyone but it is just not accepted in society.

 

[sserafim]

yes, a lot. I'm just so curious if anyone would care. And what they would do if they found out one day.
In a weird way, it encourages me to ctb just to find out.. it makes no sense ik
I can remember having these thoughts from a fairly young age on
I might have an attention problem qwq

Same, also I've always wondered how people would act at my funeral and if they would be sad if I ctb'ed.

 

[Beyond_Repair]

I wonder about that a lot actually. I think my view of myself is probably way off from how other people see me.

I haven't kept in touch with anyone from high school or college, but I doubt they would really care. I was just kind of there, not really important enough to make an impact in anyone's life in any meaningful way.

My family will probably be angry at me for doing this to them. My sister probably won't care, she has always disliked me.

Don't really care much, 100+ years from now nobody will even remember most celebrities. Some person could be reading this exact post 100 years from now and everyone posting will either be dead or old as heck.

I find that really comforting.

 

[sammiechzxv]

Yeah I guess but I'm sure I can figure it out. I'm pretty quiet. Nobody knows me that well. Doubt they'll be that affected.

 

[sserafim]

I wonder about that a lot actually. I think my view of myself is probably way off from how other people see me.

I haven't kept in touch with anyone from high school or college, but I doubt they would really care. I was just kind of there, not really important enough to make an impact in anyone's life in any meaningful way.

My family will probably be angry at me for doing this to them. My sister probably won't care, she has always disliked me.

I find that really comforting.

Yeah, I was also kind of just "there", so I was surprised when I was voted as the nicest person in the grade. I didn't think that anyone even paid attention to me. I always tried to blend and fade into the background and not draw attention to myself, I think this was my coping mechanism which made me feel safe.

Yeah I guess but I'm sure I can figure it out. I'm pretty quiet. Nobody knows me that well. Doubt they'll be that affected.

Same

 

[ClaudeCTTE]

I'd prefer to be forgotten forever.

I detest when people start idolizing individuals when they pass away, as if they were the best people in the world.
I remember when my paternal grandfather passed away. He was a very abusive person to my father, my grandmother, and my uncles, but when he died, my father and uncles were idolizing my grandfather as if he had been the best father...

I think this applies when you're depressed.
If you're a normal person, you're completely ignored or mistreated...
If they realize you're depressed, they'll start saying you're the best person in the world...

 

[ohyouknow]

No. I wonder who will remember me or be at all impacted by my death, from the potentially horrible impact on my children to the mundane impact on my boss who would have to find someone else to do the job. How will people remember me? If they're good people, they'll remember just as I am--a mix of pros and cons. If they're jerks, I don't care, and I really don't even think about how my death may impact them.

 

[sserafim]

No. I wonder who will remember me or be at all impacted by my death, from the potentially horrible impact on my children to the mundane impact on my boss who would have to find someone else to do the job. How will people remember me? If they're good people, they'll remember just as I am--a mix of pros and cons. If they're jerks, I don't care, and I really don't even think about how my death may impact them.

Same, I wonder *who* will remember me as well.

 

[Spiritual survivor]

Not really.

 

[hermestrimegistus]

Doubt anyone will remember me. Will just resent any and everyone who decides to pity me when its too late instead of trying to get to know me while i'm still alive

 

[scattymessyhuman]

Do you wonder how other people will remember you after you die? I wonder how my high school and college classmates would react to the news. Honestly I don't think anyone would remember me or care that I died, but I think that it would be unexpected because everyone thought that I was really nice and kind. I remember that in high school, I was once voted as the nicest in the grade.

Not many because I'm a recluse. My family would find my death hard though.

 

[FuneralCry]

No, I just want to be forgotten about, I bet that eventually most people won't even exist in the memories of those who continue to stay here. It comforts me the thought of eternally not existing as then existence won't be my concern and I cannot suffer at all, only non-existence is perfection to me.

 

[tiger b]

No.

It's none of my business what others think of me.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

I've worked hard to grow to not care about what happens in this realm after I die. It's very difficult to CTB if you haven't reached that point.

I'm sure it will be a lot of pity and scorn. No different from now.

 

[lionetta12]

Do you wonder how other people will remember you after you die? I wonder how my high school and college classmates would react to the news. Honestly I don't think anyone would remember me or care that I died, but I think that it would be unexpected because everyone thought that I was really nice and kind. I remember that in high school, I was once voted as the nicest in the grade.

I don't really think about it. I've cleared up everything in my life with everyone I've ever had a problem with pretty much as much as possible. Everyone who knows me have good things to say about me and overall positive thoughts & views of me. I'm not worried about people thinking poorly of me.

 

[movinout17]

@ifeelthelight
Would your family care?

I personally wonder about others remembering me all the time. Death is a tragic thing, especially suicide (not that I'm anti-choice), so I'm curious about what people like former classmates would think. I know that most people will feel bad, especially family

 

[SpiritualDeath]

idk, the less people getting to know about my ctb the better I guess.

It's definitely gonna be a shock to my family though lol, and that's bc they don't know shit. I don't look suicidal at all irl and am probably gonna continue appearing "normal" until the day I finally have everything together and go through with it. I'll make sure that I wipe everything clean before I go, especially prevent SaSu from being traced from my device because I know those dickheads are just gonna senselessly lay blame on anything they could find. I've no intention in leaving notes bc they love lying to themselves and no matter what I write they'll just misinterpret it anyways.

I'm like: talk all you want, I'm out of here. That's the win for me haha.

 

[leloyon]

I would prefer to be forgotten about completely, not even leave a single trace.
If I ever got famous or notable in any way, people would just say I'm an asshole, and to be honest they wouldn't be wrong.

 

[sserafim]

No.

It's none of my business what others think of me.

Aren't you kind of curious though?

 

[Deleted member 65988]

They can remember however and whatever way they want, I'll be gone and I won't be here able to pick apart their mind of how they'll retain me in memory, good or bad. I understand going out this way would be tragic considering all the recent difficulties my family has faced over a quite a number of years now so I do know, to some degree, that it'll definitely hurt a few people maybe more than I expect right now even if I don't think it's worth wasting any ounce of energy and emotion on my passing.

 

[noname223]

I hope none of my bullies will find out. They might be glad to have achieved what they wanted. I don't know whether they are still these assholes but I would certainly not be surprised.

 

[tiger b]

Aren't you kind of curious though?

Did that come over cold or abrupt? I didn't quite mean it that way.

I just see life in a different way now than I used to. The people who are closest to me have and will express their feelings on me, and vice versa. Nothing held back there! So, no curiosities in that area to wonder about.

In my main career, I'm sure what I sometimes did and the way I did it will be remembered by quite a few as being helpful for them. That, I'm sure, will recall some happy memories in others. But that's not of my focus. I'm happy not to think deeper on that. I'm happy drawing a line.

Beyond that, it's genuinely not my business. I see it as freeing, and respectful of people's opinions - which can be wide of the mark, or not. I'm sorry if I am being confusing.

 

[KayGee147]

I just want to go, no fuss, no concern from others. I don't want to be someone else's thought, I'm sure my friends have full enough lives without harbouring thoughts or me.

This is my goodbye, for me, by me. However..... without wanting to sound odd..... I do wonder what my cat will think. Perhaps I have life totally wrong lol

 

[tiger b]

I do wonder what my cat will think. Perhaps I have life totally wrong lol

I'm sure your cat would think that was the correct thing to wonder!