NSFW do you try to avoid thinking about sex?

[lamargue]

ive adopted various coping strategies in order to try to eliminate any nascent sexual desires in me

sometimes i frequent threads wherein sex is the main topic; a lot of them seem to be vent posts related to how such and such finds sex disgusting or insipid or that they seek love above all else. viewing these to me is almost a form of self-harm. it acutely increases my suicidal ideation. i often try to eliminate sex from my mind by engaging in something mind-numbing. this is pretty much the reason why i bedrot all hours of the day. i feel like if i consume content which reminds me of sex for long enough, i will fall into some libdinal gulf in which i will substitute longing for self-arraignment

do you generally take measures to avoid allowing sexual desire to bleed into your thoughts? i'm assuming this would only be the case if you're someone who is acutely hypersexual and bereft of all companionship. does thinking about it upset you?

 

[whywere]

Heavens at the age of 68 I do not even know what sex is any more. It is a faded memory far off in the distance.

Thinking about sex? I have a hard time thinking about whether to have an ice cream sandwich or a cookie.

Walter

 

[Forever Sleep]

It used to upset me when I had crazy limerent crushes on real life people. A whole lot of hopeless longing, pining, feeling like I was in love. Now, I try to limit my (still limerent) crushes on fictional characters/ actors/ people I know I'll never meet. I know full well it's all fantasy.

I've also kind of realised that the real life thing would be unwise for me. I would attach too many deep felt emotions to sex to do it casually- even if I got the opportunity! (Which is unlikely seeing as I'm not attractive.) An actual relationship seems highly unlikely too and again- very unwise with suicide feeling likely some day.

So, it's simply a nice distraction now. I have nice crushes on people. I can imagine all the physical stuff just fine. Sometimes I still get upset when I wonder if I had the potential to be in love and be really happy but again- realism tells me- it would have been too risky. It's actually now one of the more pleasurable things about being alive. Just another distraction to try and get me through.

 

[lamargue]

I've also kind of realised that the real life thing would be unwise for me. I would attach too many deep felt emotions to sex to do it casually- even if I got the opportunity! (Which is unlikely seeing as I'm not attractive.) An actual relationship seems highly unlikely too and again- very unwise with suicide feeling likely some day

i relate to this a lot.

 

[BecomingTired]

ive adopted various coping strategies in order to try to eliminate any nascent sexual desires in me

sometimes i frequent threads wherein sex is the main topic; a lot of them seem to be vent posts related to how such and such finds sex disgusting or insipid or that they seek love above all else. viewing these to me is almost a form of self-harm. it acutely increases my suicidal ideation. i often try to eliminate sex from my mind by engaging in something mind-numbing. this is pretty much the reason why i bedrot all hours of the day. i feel like if i consume content which reminds me of sex for long enough, i will fall into some libdinal gulf in which i will substitute longing for self-arraignment

do you generally take measures to avoid allowing sexual desire to bleed into your thoughts? i'm assuming this would only be the case if you're someone who is acutely hypersexual and bereft of all companionship. does thinking about it upset you?

I honestly don't think much at all about things sexually or romantically outside of cute novels/manga I sometimes read; it might be that my mind got numb from the whole thing with how horrible my last relationship was lmao, but at the same time even before I think I felt this way.

Ig just someone who ik will be there for me no matter what without me having to severely fake my personality like I do with people irl; not as a romantic partner but as a genuine friend I can trust.

But I struggle with trusting people online with some of my bigger life events even, as well as I can't trust myself with not getting too attached to them and start annoying them if I don't purposely put a distance so ig that wont be happening anytime soon.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

The only time I really actively try to suppress any sexual desire or thought is whenever I have an inopportune boner. In these moments I try to flood my mind with as many unsexy thoughts as possible and that usually does the trick.

 

[Gangrel]

I literally can't, think about it everyday because i'm a hypersexual annoying bitch. It's a love/hate relationship at this point.

 

[nihilistic_dragon]

Why do this to yourself? Unless you are super religious or something?

 

[Eole2.0]

Didn't think about it during day but sometimes I dream about it. Doesn't had sexual relation since 2 years

 

[derpyderpins]

Nah, sex is healthy and great imo. Natural part of life and makes that love/connection all the more powerful when it is with the right person for the sake of love.

 

[ham and potatoes]

Na, it's a completely normal, natural, thing to think about.
As long as it's not interfering with your life, like being addicted to porn or something, I see no reason why one would try to not think about it.
Humans have been thinking about sex as long as there have been humans, why would I want to stop that streak now? Haha

 

[mikuhappy]

I don't like thinking about sex because of traumas

 

[DefinitelyReady]

Nah, sex is healthy and great imo. Natural part of life and makes that love/connection all the more powerful when it is with the right person for the sake of love.

"for the sake of love"
(Yeah, I have sex with her with, regularly. You know, for the sake of love and all.)

 

[JoysoftheEmptiness]

I'm happily asexual, so don't really think about sex.

 

[amnesia999]

My wife's in her mid-80s and has apparently decided that sex is just not for her any more. It's not a big surprise, since in years past getting her to be intimate would often lead to arguments. I am 24 years younger than her and have never ever taken a vow of chastity, so I'm kind of left in the lurch right now. It's been maybe a decade since we've had sex and she's actually told me she wouldn't mind if I went and found a partner on my own.

No, I don't try to avoid thinking about sex; in fact it's really hard difficult for me not to think about sex. Oy vey.

 

[dune_dweller]

I've had what's called limerence since I was 13, many times with people who didn't even know I existed.

This limerence would be co-opted with lustful fantasy/maladaptive daydreaming.

Which also spawned a porn addiction that I have tried to knock on and off for the past five years.

Overall, over the course of my life I have teetered between sex repulsion and outright lust.

Spoiler: TMI

Though I think my repulsion comes from deep-rooted envy at other people's experiences + knowing I'll never be able to have the kind of sex I want (I'm AFAB, but have always wanted to be a man having sex with another woman, not just a lesbian)

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[lamargue]

Why do this to yourself? Unless you are super religious or something?

because the very thought of it reminds me of how utterly inhuman i am for being too socially unfit to ever have it. the desire for sexual intimacy is crippling. i would do anything to become asexual so that i wouldn't be burdened by the reality of my failure as an asocial being

 

[derpyderpins]

"for the sake of love"
(Yeah, I have sex with her with, regularly. You know, for the sake of love and all.)

lol. First, yes, that is a big reason. Second, I tried to anticipate answers a little bit. I assumed someone would say "but it's just a temporary feeling in the endless misery that is this hellscape planet" so I specified that it's part of the long-lasting relationship. Third, there was some talk above about casual sex just leaving bad feelings so I wanted to specify I'm not talking about casual hookups.

Fourth: yeah that wording is cringe af and now I want to crawl in a hole haha.

 

[Reflection]

Sex...never had it, and I don't mind dying a virgin... perhaps I don't see it as completely necessary in and of itself as much as it would be nice, but goddamn it does it still hurt to think that my former girlfriend will be with someone else and have kids with them while I rot.

 

[Plentiful_Despair]

No.