Do you think your dream job could make you happy?

[noname223]

Sadly the dream job often remains a dream.

When I was a young teenager I dreamed to become a politician. I had no idea. It would not fit my desires in any way except having a lot of power. I am clearly not the kind of person who would fit into that position.

My wish would be to have no money issues anymore and being able to retire in order to lessen the risk of a relapse.

I am not sure which would be my current dream job: maybe scientist, journalist or consultant. I am obsessed what other people think of me. I think that will never change as long as I live.

I think the job could give me satisfaction. Though I have strong doubt that I will ever be able to hold a job. I am too high at neuroticism and I am not resilient enough. I lack the fantasy for imagining a job that I could do on a regular basis.

However I think a job that is really interesting for me could solve some issues. Money my main issue. Moreover maybe self-esteem and social contacts. But I hate "experts" who say mentally ill must not be unemployed they need a job to have a fulfiling life. That is extremely paternalistic and an arrogant/ stupid generalization.

 

[whatevs]

Having a job I don't loathe has helped me to cope with my lot and to meet people that have very appealing/enjoyable side to them. It's not the same as actually being happy but it's certainly one largely effective way of gaining some self-esteem and acquiring social (which also means sexual and emotional) contacts.

I'm sorry but these shrinks that offend you are right in my opinion, the right occupation is a much better treatment that any psychiatric medication.

 

[hamvil]

I had my dream job but I just did not realise how lucky I was and kept sabotaging myself at every turn, making enemies, pissing off supervisors... at the end I lost fdue to a mistake on a social network. Well the mistake was maybe the last straw... it was 2020 and I really never recovered from that. My current job suck, boss is abusing me all days, i just live in regret for what I had and will never come back... yeah maybe having the money for an early retirement would be good but I do not have it. I am 43 and I have still several decades of work in front of me before I can retire. Depression is getting worse with time as well instead of improving. I will i will gather the courage to end this, i really had enough of this silly life.

 

[nopointinlife]

Dream jobs or not, every job can be very stressful….especially if you get fired

 

[DominionMinion]

No. Just more stress and fear.

 

[lionetta12]

Sadly the dream job often remains a dream.

When I was a young teenager I dreamed to become a politician. I had no idea. It would not fit my desires in any way except having a lot of power. I am clearly not the kind of person who would fit into that position.

My wish would be to have no money issues anymore and being able to retire in order to lessen the risk of a relapse.

I am not sure which would be my current dream job: maybe scientist, journalist or consultant. I am obsessed what other people think of me. I think that will never change as long as I live.

I think the job could give me satisfaction. Though I have strong doubt that I will ever be able to hold a job. I am too high at neuroticism and I am not resilient enough. I lack the fantasy for imagining a job that I could do on a regular basis.

However I think a job that is really interesting for me could solve some issues. Money my main issue. Moreover maybe self-esteem and social contacts. But I hate "experts" who say mentally ill must not be unemployed they need a job to have a fulfiling life. That is extremely paternalistic and an arrogant/ stupid generalization.

I had several dream jobs and my friends and family would envy me for it, but it didn't make me happy.

 

[ButterflyDream]

I really doubt it. Like obviously your dream job is gonna be way better than a job you hate, but you aren't your job. You'll still be you at the end of the workday. And then what?

 

[WorthlessTrash]

Me personally? Yes. My dream job is being a female kpop star or a gamer girl, which means i'd have to be female in the first place to get there, and me not being female is why i'm very unhappy and depressed.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

Happier, yes. Hell, even being able to support myself, even if modestly, would improve things. It's funny though because someone on here does in fact have my dream job. Goes to show about perspective.

 

[ferny]

I really hope so, but im not really sure. so much of my life has focused on working towards the career i desire (in molecular biomedicine), but i'm starting to realize it probably won't fix things getting there

 

[Celerity]

No, I acquired my dream job at one point, and I learned that work is, in fact, work. I am aiming now for a comfortable and stable living.

I really doubt it. Like obviously your dream job is gonna be way better than a job you hate, but you aren't your job. You'll still be you at the end of the workday. And then what?

This. Wish I had known it before chasing my dumbass dream.

 

[Zegers]

You'll still be you at the end of the workday. And then what?

This. I think having a dedication is important on a mental level but if you have a lot of other problems it won't help.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Yes. Although it wasn't perfect, I have had my dream job the past 5 years. It's a creative freelance job though and it's becoming impossible to sustain financially. If only it would keep going- enough to support me- so would I most likely.

 

[je.suis.prêt]

You'll still be you at the end of the workday.

I think having a dedication is important on a mental level but if you have a lot of other problems it won't help.

I think the job itself would be a secondary cause of such 'happiness'. Growing into the kind of person who would have my dream job would make me happy. Being happy with yourself > being happy with external things.

 

[mirror_mind]

To those worried/upset about getting/not getting your dream job:

I didn't get the job I really wanted, and now I have a job I'd never heard of a few years ago which I like even more than I probably I would have liked my dream job.

Basically, be open to the possibility that there are jobs even better than your dream job, and realize that your dream job has flaws just like anything else. If you are willing to try, you might find something great where you least expect it.

 

[Kualk]

Don't think so, even if it were possible to find your dream job, doing the same task repeatedly for the majority of your life will eventually turn any job into a boring one.
If you are an unhappy person unless you find treatment for your fundamental problems your happiness would change very little in the long run.

 

[Heartaches]

I don't know. I'd love to meet people who appreciate my job enough to pay me, I think that'd be a confidence boost, but I don't know if I'd enjoy the process or the labor in the long run. I've already had bad experiences that discourage me from going forward. I'll try eventually, but it makes me so anxious.

 

[Himalayan]

I don't even know what a dream job is tbh

 

[lili]

This is an interesting question.

I want a very specific dream job that is very hard to obtain, I've wanted it all along since childhood. And have directed my life towards it. However, striving for a dream job that is very specific and great can also at times be a lonely path, and I've found I am a person that seeks love in life. I have no family close to me. And many friends but not intimate enough to discuss personal matters, because they are all related to the career I've tried to seek.

I think life is too complex to say whether it's a dream job, a lover, or money that will ultimately satisfy my emptiness. There's always going to be unexpected turns that make things seem better, and then suddenly some situation happens.

 

[stilhavinightmares]

Unfortunately no. For me at least.

 

[Jojo81]

I had my dream job but I just did not realise how lucky I was and kept sabotaging myself at every turn, making enemies, pissing off supervisors... at the end I lost fdue to a mistake on a social network. Well the mistake was maybe the last straw... it was 2020 and I really never recovered from that. My current job suck, boss is abusing me all days, i just live in regret for what I had and will never come back... yeah maybe having the money for an early retirement would be good but I do not have it. I am 43 and I have still several decades of work in front of me before I can retire. Depression is getting worse with time as well instead of improving. I will i will gather the courage to end this, i really had enough of this silly life.

Me as well.. had a dream job, travelled a lot for work, travelled 20 countries, got headweight.. pissed off my supervisor, they fired me..

 

[my_sundown]

But I hate "experts" who say mentally ill must not be unemployed they need a job to have a fulfiling life. That is extremely paternalistic and an arrogant/ stupid generalization.

This - 100%. Such flawed narrow minded logic.

 

[stermc]

It would make me less sad, for sure.

 

[LivideLamb]

When I was a child, I wanted desperately to be a veterinarian. That dream kind of disappeared somewhere in me and got replaced with another "dream job", I wanted to do autopsies, work in a morgue, etc. I can't really imagine myself holding a job, even if it was slave waging. I'll never be able to obtain this dream job, but like the title implies, it will always be in my dream.

 

[Ultracheese]

I think it could have the potential to make me happier. It would mean I probably wouldn't have to worry about money, and I would have enough prestige for my unrequited beloved to love me. It certainly wouldn't solve all my problems, and probably wouldn't stop me from feeling suicidal, but it would be an amazing thing. It's unlikely to ever happen though

 

[symphony]

God, I can't imagine having a dream job. Best I hope for is a tolerable job. Best I can imagine is a tolerable job. There's nothing at all I want to do in this world.