Do you think having no friends can be a good thing?

[WrongPlaceWrongTime]

I would personally say yes.
In middle and high school, I talked to people and knew their names, sometimes even got familiar with their habits, but I never bothered 'connecting' with them outside of school, as in going to each other's house (or whatever friends do with each other). I joke to myself about being lonely, but in all seriousness, loneliness has never actually bothered me.
Now that I'm on this site, I feel like loneliness is for the better. If friends truly care for each other, they would experience pain at the loss of one of them.
If a friendless person dies, the 'damage' done to others by their death is minimal; the same applies to those who don't have a family (a caring family anyway).

 

[lobster salad]

I would say it is a good thing if you don't mind being lonely and is gonna ctb soon. But for some of us, loneliness bites really hard.. and it can be difficult to just keep quiet and hold in all the problems. talking to people that understand can be a healthier way to feel less miserable. Of course there are other ways like alcohol and drugs but those create new problems

 

[Snake of Eden]

Yes it can be at certain times like you have mentioned. I dont think life can be as fulfilling with no friends though. Good friends can spice up life and make it more tolerable

 

[lofticries]

It can if you have something of interest to dedicate your life to. I always envy those talented genius loner types.

But imo if you have at least one good/real friend then you are pretty much set for life.

Nothing more depressing than having a lot of friends that are all fake. Fuck even being forever alone>that because at least you don't have to entertain anyone but yourself.

 

[Lifessocruel]

Absolutely! Sometimes when we make friends with people especially from school we are naive and don't realise what impact it has on us and sometimes these people develop into narcissistic cunts who have nothing better to do than bring you down. I've had some good friends too it's the toxic ones that always overshadow everything so i just wish i had no friends at all. I made some horrendous friend choices when i was younger and it does haunt me that i wasted too many years with these people and whilst i got rid of them i still have too many regrets. The saying goes the best things in life are free but also they worst things are too.

 

[TheHatedOne]

Yes, it can be a good thing if you want to avoid being hurt or betrayed.

 

[FuneralCry]

In my case, certainly. I am very introverted and people are tiring to me. People can disappoint you and let you down. Having arguments with friends and dealing with a friendship ending can be both tiring and painful. I would rather just not have to deal with people at all.

 

[Darkmoon Queen]

I think most people would be horrified at the idea of having no friends and I confess that the concept hurts me.

That said, I'm free. No one is bugging me and I can't deny that I value that.

My resentment regarding friends is that I give this up as part of the price of friendship just to end up completely screwed over and/or abandoned. I was alone during Covid and every 'friend' I had treated me like dirt or disappeared. I've come out of 2020 with more trust issues than ever. I can't do the same old shit of being idealised and then devalued over and over again.

 

[Snake of Eden]

I was alone during Covid and every 'friend' I had treated me like dirt or disappeared. I've come out of 2020 with more trust issues than ever. I can't do the same old shit of being idealised and then devalued over and over again.

I went exactly through the same process. Now That really opened my eyes that I am truly just alone in life

 

[Darkmoon Queen]

I went exactly through the same process. Now That really opened my eyes that I am truly just alone in life

For me, everyone who was 'allowed' to leave (i.e. not blood) did. I don't think you forget that.

I've learned I'm basically too negative and that every good time I had with anybody, they were wishing they were elsewhere. Yeah, I don't feel like signing up for another round of mindfuckery, thanks...

I might get depressed sometimes (not that I confessed to it anymore) but I don't psychologically abuse people.

 

[Sprite_Geist]

Yes it can. Over the past 2 years I have started to believe that friendship is a waste of time. People arrive in your life, and at some point, eventually, they will depart - just like a busy train station. It is difficult (from personal experience) to find individuals who will stay around. What is the point in spending energy to build a connection that will inevitably weaken on a long enough timescale? Yes you could argue that it is the memories which are important, but I do not think they matter too much considering that those who hold said memories will eventually pass away, and so too will their conscious experiences.

 

[Seafoam]

I'm on the fence about this. I have 2 pretty good friends and I'd like more but making friends as an adult is so freaking difficult. Also managing relationships is hard. At least I can say that having someone to talk to that you just want to share your day with is irreplaceable. At least in my opinion.

 

[UseItOrLoseIt]

Yes it can. Over the past 2 years I have started to believe that friendship is a waste of time.

Lately I started to feel that way too. Besides 2 old friends that I have, I've completely given up on forming new friendships. If someone new likes me enough to want to spend time with me, fine. I'm always up for a cup of coffee. I won't avoid hanging out. But I also won't get attached to them. I somehow lost the ability.