Discussion Do you struggle with self care?

[Raven2]

I find it difficult practicing self care, I've been on a slippery slope for a few years since I've been single.

I only eat once a day normally something I can just chuck in the oven or cook quickly on the hob. My diet is trash, I never incorporate vegetables and rarely have fruit. Sometimes it's not even a meal it's just snacks because I cant be bothered to cook or I just dont fancy anything.

I've stopped brushing my teeth at night and just do it in the morning. I dont really know why I've stopped doing it I've just got into the habit. I hadn't seen a dentist since covid time up until this summer even when I cracked a tooth it took me months to bother to book an appointment to get it seen too. Had to have the tooth extracted. Dentist also found gum disease, I'm guessing because I smoke. So now i have costly hygienist check ups.

I've stopped wearing make up even though it doesn't take me long to actually do it.
I keep my hair long so I dont have to style it and just wear it up in a ponytail. I get it cut about once a year. I wash my hair about once a week.
Nails are long but I dont bother painting them.

I put off doing my clothes washing until I have nothing left to wear. I'll usually let it pile for a couple of weeks.

Exercise, forget it. Hardly ever exercised as always been slim. I know it's good for mental health but I just have no motivation.

I wasnt always like this, I used to always have makeup done and blow dry my hair nearly every other day, wear nice perfume and jewellery and manicured nails. Now I just do the bear minimum. it seems as though since I've been single I've got no one to impress or someone to hold me accountable I know I should be doing it for myself.

A customer at work that I dont recognise serving before asked me if I was okay today be because apparently I looked ill. So yeah that was great lol. I must seriously look like trash.

Do you struggle with self care?

 

[SVEN]

I have to make an effort, shaving everyfew days (I'm male, so this is face shaving) showering most days and letting clothes build up before laundry. I used to iron shirts & stuff, but now I can't really be bothered.

 

[dontwakemeup]

I definitely do. I only shower on the days I work, and I spray perfume and I find it hilarious how many compliments I get. I keep my hair braided so I don't have to comb it or wash it. I barely eat, when I do it's just to survive or I'll start feeling too weak. I sleep my off days so i drink a lot of water while I'm awake. Life has become so meaningless, nothing makes me happy. I'm literally waiting to die.

I purchased some disinfectant wipes and a Swifter so cleaning has become easier for me. I just wipe everything down really fast and vacuum and mop my house, I refuse to stay in a dirty house.

All I've eaten today was some sweet potatoes. I'm too lazy to go get something to eat, I'll make some oatmeal and drink more water and fall asleep again. Life is pointless and I'm so bored in it.

 

[Raven2]

I have to make an effort, shaving everyfew days (I'm male, so this is face shaving) showering most days and letting clothes build up before laundry. I used to iron shirts & stuff, but now I can't really be bothered.

I never iron, not even my work shirts. I found a hack, I just hang them on a hanger wet and they dry nicely so no need to iron!

 

[OptingOutSmiling]

Yip, just no energy to care. Eating poorly if at all. Stopped running and miss it. Even taking a bath is an effort, at least I don't sweat from running.

 

[Raven2]

Life is pointless and I'm so bored in it.

I feel the same

Yip, just no energy to care. Eating poorly if at all. Stopped running and miss it. Even taking a bath is an effort, at least I don't sweat from running.

Yeah I miss having a shower at home we only have a bath here and your right it is effort.

 

[yowai]

It's so difficult. Recently I've been showering twice a week and that's an upgrade for me lmao. I don't change my clothes often enough etc. I also bought a yoga mat with some accessories a month ago because I used to enjoy it a long time ago and haven't used it once since then. I know how relaxed it makes me feel but I've been in such a bad form for a few years, it's definitely going to give me bad cramps in the beginning and so I'm constantly putting it off. I also wanted to sign up for swimming class since summer but I haven't even bought a swimsuit yet. And I rarely do stuff like face masks these days, I hate looking at and thinking about my face for longer than necessary.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I'm bad with self care but this is because of my autism, not because of depression

 

[Namelesa]

I am bad with things like brushing teeth and washing myself. I hate the texture of tooth paste in my month and hate the taste of flavored ones. I also should do it more as I have gingivitis but I absolutely hate doing it. I also hate washing myself cus I hate the feel of soap and shampoo on me. I don't really see the point of why people do it more often as I think it just wastes water and I either don't mind or like what people consider to be "stinky" smells and hate nice smells. I hate showers more as I don't like the force of water dropping on me but I have to do that with washing my hair. I don't like my hair getting wet but I deal with it cus I want my hair to look and feel nice. I am autistic so thats part of why I have difficulties with these things.

 

[NoPoint2Life]

I'm kind of a mix. My OCD would never let me go even one day without a shower. I always feel disgusting by the end of the day… hell I feel gross within an hour of getting up Gotta wash my hair every day too so that feels clean, but I don't really have any style and this year The texture really started changing with some grey hair and my hair has not looked satisfactory in over a year

At least when I was a wage slave, I wore normal clothes and try to use a tiny bit of makeup, but only really for my acne. I still have fucking adult acne and it gives me no motivation to want to wear make up or look nice when I get so broken out. And I just live in the leisure clothes now. Putting on jeans is dressing up for me these days.

I've always been good about brushing my teeth in the morning. I hate doing it as I can't stand the taste and start gagging pretty much every time. But for about a year or so I was really bad about doing it at night. Now I'm kind of forced to as I had to start wearing a mouthguard and the thought of putting it over dirty teeth, grosses me out

As far as eating, I do plenty of that because I am constantly hungry lol. But I rarely eat anything healthy. The other morning I had Doritos for breakfast. I don't cook so I live on takeout and fried stuff you can make in the toaster oven.

 

[ThatRussianDude]

I find it difficult practicing self care, I've been on a slippery slope for a few years since I've been single.

I only eat once a day normally something I can just chuck in the oven or cook quickly on the hob. My diet is trash, I never incorporate vegetables and rarely have fruit. Sometimes it's not even a meal it's just snacks because I cant be bothered to cook or I just dont fancy anything.

I've stopped brushing my teeth at night and just do it in the morning. I dont really know why I've stopped doing it I've just got into the habit. I hadn't seen a dentist since covid time up until this summer even when I cracked a tooth it took me months to bother to book an appointment to get it seen too. Had to have the tooth extracted. Dentist also found gum disease, I'm guessing because I smoke. So now i have costly hygienist check ups.

I've stopped wearing make up even though it doesn't take me long to actually do it.
I keep my hair long so I dont have to style it and just wear it up in a ponytail. I get it cut about once a year. I wash my hair about once a week.
Nails are long but I dont bother painting them.

I put off doing my clothes washing until I have nothing left to wear. I'll usually let it pile for a couple of weeks.

Exercise, forget it. Hardly ever exercised as always been slim. I know it's good for mental health but I just have no motivation.

I wasnt always like this, I used to always have makeup done and blow dry my hair nearly every other day, wear nice perfume and jewellery and manicured nails. Now I just do the bear minimum. it seems as though since I've been single I've got no one to impress or someone to hold me accountable I know I should be doing it for myself.

A customer at work that I dont recognise serving before asked me if I was okay today be because apparently I looked ill. So yeah that was great lol. I must seriously look like trash.

Do you struggle with self care?

You have still a long way to go. I personally cant be botherrd to clean the food that I had near my couch. The trend is not good however.

 

[ShatteredSerenity]

I stopped taking care for myself almost entirely when I fell from mania into severe depression last August. It hasn't killed me yet, but I'm slowly getting there.

I only brush my teeth every few weeks. I can feel the cavities growing, but it's not as bad is it could be because I have a natrually strong oral microbiome according to my dentist (who I saw over 4 years ago).

I rarely shave so I constantly look haggard, and shower weekly or less so my hair usually looks greasy (I hide it with a hat).

I subsist on fast food and candy. I've gained 25 lbs (11 kg) in a couple of months on that diet.

I'm bedridden most of the day, the last time I exercised was months ago and it was AWFUL.

My room is a mess with piles of clothes surrounding a bed with sheets so dirty you can't tell what color they originally were.

It's sad because this isn't the person I used to be at all. I used to keep up my appearance. I had long hair dyed bright red that got compliments from people everywhere I went. I was genderqueer so I wore nail polish, necklaces, earrings, bracelets, and colorful accessories. I had lots of nice clothes for a variety of occasions. I kept active with a variety of sports and household projects.

Now it's all gone, the person I was is dead and all that remains is a sad ghost wasting away in mental anguish.