Do you learn from your mistakes?

[WitheringAway]

No matter how small or big the mistake is, I don't. I make the same mistake 2 or 3 times at least.
Sometimes it's a stupid mistake and I shouldn't be mad about it but I get angry because I'm so fucking naive and stupid.

 

[NightmareTour]

I'd say I'm alright at it, but I have to learn by myself. If someone else tries to tell me I'm doing it wrong, I probably won't listen.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

The main thing I learn is how to purposefully cause mistakes to sabotage myself again. Usually when I do learn from something I take it to the worst possible extreme by obsessing over it.

 

[Deleted member 1465]

I try, but often, no. If I wasn't prone to making those mistakes, I'd find it far easier to learn from them:/

"We can't solve our problems by using the same attitudes that created them in the first place."

 

[Sensei]

Not really. I'm a mental wreck who acts on impulse even when I try not to. It's one big downward spiral and it's painful to go through it.

 

[greebo6]

I slowly learnt from the bigger mistakes...but....but to really make that learning process count I need a time machine to go back to those moments.
Sadly I don't have one of those...
So I don't feel much benefit from my learning those lessons.

 

[WitheringAway]

I slowly learnt from the bigger mistakes...but....but to really make that learning process count I need a time machine to go back to those moments.
Sadly I don't have one of those...
So I don't feel much benefit from my learning those lessons.

I know what you mean!!! I made certain mistakes that caused me irreversible changes in my life. Cost me things I could never get back.

 

[signifying nothing]

I know what you mean!!! I made certain mistakes that caused me irreversible changes in my life. Cost me things I could never get back.

Is the mistake then in not being able to let go of something you consider to be a mistake, but which was really inevitable and unavoidable?

 

[greebo6]

I know what you mean!!! I made certain mistakes that caused me irreversible changes in my life. Cost me things I could never get back.

Me too. But its too late now .So CTB is only option I have .Sorry you have similar experiences.

 

[WitheringAway]

Is the mistake then in not being able to let go of something you consider to be a mistake, but which was really inevitable and unavoidable?

I made mistakes on both sides of the spectrum. Holding on to things/people that were wrong for me and letting go of what was good; opportunities/people etc

 

[greebo6]

I made mistakes on both sides of the spectrum. Holding on to things/people that were wrong for me and letting go of what was good; opportunities/people etc

Yes ,I know what you mean.

 

[WitheringAway]

Me too. But its too late now .So CTB is only option I have .Sorry you have similar experiences.

I started to document my mistakes in order to forgive myself instead of throwing the mistakes and the consequences in my subconscious. I need to be aware of them all and let go. I try to remember everything. It's a daily task. A spiritual cleansing kinda process id say.

 

[signifying nothing]

I made mistakes on both sides of the spectrum. Holding on to things/people that were wrong for me and letting go of what was good; opportunities/people etc

Yeah, I've done this too. I've come to terms with it by a realising that not only did I let go of them, but they let go of me too. In every relationship all parties share the responsibility for what happens, you cannot take it all on yourself.

 

[WitheringAway]

Yeah, I've done this too. I've come to terms with it by a realising that not only did I let go of them, but they let go of me too. In every relationship all parties share the responsibility for what happens, you cannot take it all on yourself.

I can and should take it all on myself if it was 100% my fault... which was.. in most cases...

 

[greebo6]

I started to document my mistakes in order to forgive myself instead of throwing the mistakes and the consequences in my subconscious. I need to be aware of them all and let go. I try to remember everything. It's a daily task. A spiritual cleansing kinda process id say.

Does it work at all ?

 

[signifying nothing]

I can and should take it all on myself if it was 100% my fault... which was.. in most cases...

There is subconscious stuff that goes on, believe me. It always involves all sides, no matter how it seems.

To quote a movie - its not your fault.

Its not your fault.

 

[WitheringAway]

Does it work at all ?

I think it made me more aware of it. If you possess a strong Self awareness. It hurts you so bad when you reflect on your mistakes. It's supposed to set you free once you forgive yourself but I haven't reached that stage. I'm still becoming more aware and it hurts.

 

[Nymph]

Sometimes yeah but there's these kind of mistakes that I do on impulse and most of the time is what my anxiety is causing me and I just can't focus on anything else except that problem and then I lash out and I'm rude to the ppl around me:// it's really hard to control and I honestly don't really know how to control it

 

[foxdie]

I do. I learn how to make them oh-so-worse the next time. Self sabotage is one of my greatest skills in life.

 

[greebo6]

I think it made me more aware of it. If you possess a strong Self awareness. It hurts you so bad when you reflect on your mistakes. It's supposed to set you free once you forgive yourself but I haven't reached that stage. I'm still becoming more aware and it hurts.

It isn't an easy process.

 

[MindFrog]

Yeah, it happens a lot to me, mostly because I'm both dumb and extremely stubborn.

 

[sadbadpsychogirl]

generally yes but my mistakes are so bad it doesn't matter

 

[WornOutLife]

I learn from some but clearly not from all of them.
For instance, alcohol is bad but I still love drinking.

Anyway, I hope I've learnt from the mistakes of my failed attempt so as to finally be at peace soon.

 

[Chupacabra 44]

I can and should take it all on myself if it was 100% my fault... which was.. in most cases...

Life and all its variables are extremely complex. I've yet to see any situation, in all my years, where anything was 100% black or white with situations like yours, mine, or anyone else's.

I guarantee if I had been a passive observer, in real time, for your troubling situations, I could find fault, no matter how subtle, that extends beyond you.

 

[UiopQwerty]

For me it has always been the alcohol, I started to drink around 2015... A failed relation and sometimes relatives who helped worsening my life.
Of course. I had to take the wrong and easy path to get out of the situation. Sometimes Ive learned. But it doesnt stay long with me.
So... Its a 50/50 if I learn from my mistakes.
I am right now trying to fix my economic situation. Hopefully with welfare and a tenant who finally will be able to pay me.
If I spend less on beer and shots, my situation would be better.

 

[badgame]

I guess it depends on the mistake, particularly when I didn't know at the time that something was bad until it was too late & the person was already hurt. What comes to mind is that manupulation tactics thread and I just wish I knew all about this much sooner and I didn't even realize it, as someone whose already conflict-averse I just feel further driven away from conflict bc I don't wish for anymore people to be hurt. Part of the reason why I signed up for this forum is because I feel like a lost cause, powerless to try to fix anything

 

[Green Destiny]

I can barely remember where my car keys are when they're literally in my hand. I'm too stupid to learn from mistakes.

 

[Deleted member 94]

I've made mistakes and my body is doing a payback.

It's a case of act in haste repent at leisure.

In a good sense the only harm that came from my mistakes was to myself and not a third party.

 

[Mentalmick]

I'm thick as 2 short planks so I never learn. I'm the type of person that touches a live wire twice.

 

[ioipopo90]

I take accountability for my past mistakes and for every mistake i either do something to myself that i don't want to do but i do it anyway, or i stop doing what i love basically punishing myself which isn't good i know :/