Story Do you get support of your family?

[ICD-DEAD]

Hey everyone,

I am interested in the question if you get support of your family or friends espacially during bad times and how the aid looks like.
Are the even privy in your tale of woe? How did they react after informing them about your feelings?

I've made the experience that friends even the closest one are either overstrained completely with the situation or just downplay the seriousness of it.

 

[TAW122]

I do get support in terms of financial and housing support, but as far as the issues that I'm dealing with (mental anguish and all the shit IRL, internal and external), not really. I also cannot discuss the things I discuss here IRL as it's simply too dangerous and risky, plus no one outside of this place really understands it. This platform/forum is really the only place where I feel safe enough to discuss certain manners with the threat of consequences or judgment.

 

[silent staring void]

When I'm feeling good I get along with my parents, when I'm feeling bad they laugh at me and shun me and pity me in an extremely dehumanizing way lol.
However I get financial support as well, so there's that.

 

[Deleted member 1465]

I was living in the house that my brother, sister and myself inherited after our mum died. I had nowhere else to go after l was made redundant.
After I got Ill and because I didn't get better but deteriorated, my siblings forced me under duress to give them power of attorney so they could sell the house. They were entitled to a third of it each.
They bullied me into getting whatever place the chose for me with my share. I chose a place in a panic because they threatened to abandon me if I didn't.
It's a shithole. I hate it. I'm lucky I have somewhere but I still hate it.
My brother helps with some practical stuff as he is close by but doesn't do emotions and won't deal with me unless I pretend I'm okay.
My sister lives far away. I'm afraid to call her and she rarely calls me. She comes up every few months and gets angry that I'm not coping here alone and makes me feel bad that she's taking a night away from her own life.
I still love my siblings, they are all I have and I understand why they did what they did. But I don't trust them and I fear that when the chips are down they will abandon me.

 

[Green Destiny]

The 2 times I had enough nerve to tell my mom that I've thought about suicide she simply brushed me off saying "I shouldn't be thinking of it as an option". Even is she's right it didn't make me feel any god damn better about it. She doesn't wan't to acknowledge my problems much like how she doesn't wan't to acknowledge her own issues.

 

[netrezven]

Parents - if someone is about to die, they can provide me the contacts and try to fix the problem with the highes propability of good outcome. This alway comes with a price and is acceptable only on real life/death situation about someone i care, no just anyone.
Friends - let go of their support not so long ago, it's just like i can't make my mess or do my stuff knowing that if something goes wrong i can ask them for help and make them risk too much. We do usual stuf as advice, information (again i avoid this) and having a good time.
People i do business with - when i pay for something i get what i paid for, if there might be a possible problem in 5 or 10 years we say goodbye
Me - i can do it all, beat them all years before they even begin to think to enter my world
Usual personal contacts - we just have fun, make some little favors, i like the people around me
How i feel - i think i wrote some stuff on this site, nowhere else.

 

[Wayfaerer]

I get financial support but not much else.

 

[Final Escape]

No I'm estranged from what little family I do have. Mentally ill and alone, barely surviving. It's a shit life.

 

[Jessamine]

My partner yes.. the rest of my family no way. Anything I tell them about my mental health struggles they try to avoid the subject or just act like it's me being weird or causing trouble as usual. Definitely no support.

 

[Élégie]

I get financial support from both my parents. As for emotional support, I will sometimes talk to my mom about some of my struggles... but that's pretty much it.
I have very little contact with my extended family and I have zero friends.

 

[notjustyetagain]

i'm very lucky compared to most members here... my parents try to emotionally support me, but after ~25 years of being in and out of hospital/self-destructive behaviour, their goodwill is prefixed with ineffable resignation. they've both openly stated that they'd understand my decision to commit suicide.

 

[silvermoon]

I get enough food to stay alive. I don't ask for money. Coz it won't be easy . Nothing else.

 

[Moonomyth]

I try to actively avoid their support if I can. My parents are emotionally supportive but I've never been the kind of person to have a serious conversation with them about my emotions, so they don't really know how to do that, on my part or theirs. The most supportive they've been was to help eliminate a lot of short-term debt I'd accumulated. I don't mean to trivialize that; it was a big help. But I don't tell them about my problems because they will look at them clinically.

My wife's support is counterproductive. A lot of my medical bills are the result of a chronic illness she developed early in our marriage. That debt among others is the cause of my state of mind. Going to her for emotional support about how we are so broke it would be more cost-effective to pull a Willie Loman is effectively going to her to tell her "I want to kill myself because of these problems your body has caused." As she is unable to work because of her illness, there's nothing she can do to make it better. Reaching out to her only frustrates and depresses both of us. It's meaningless.

I avoid talking to my friends about my problems because I don't want to handle the crying of some and I'm uncomfortable with the lovebombing of others. I don't feel their sentiments, even if they're true.

 

[Epsilon0]

One of the biggest tragedies for me personally is the realization that no matter how much my family loves and supports me, they cannot do anything to alleviate my suffering.

It kills me every day to see them so powerless, when I know they would give their limbs to make me feel better.

Their helplessness hurt me deeply for their sake, not mine. Their love cuts me, because I see how impotent it is, and how much pain it causes them to witness my illness.

I wish they didn't love me this much, so they would suffer less. But, what do I know? I have never been unloved, so I am most likely an idiot and a brute for saying it.

 

[Thereisnothing]

Not anymore, lost last family member who loved/cared about me in December-heartbroken and totally alone now. I do have other family members but all estranged. One niece does send a message now and then, but its not support in the real sense of the word obviously. I am so scared being alone.

 

[ForensicallyAware]

My mother is dead, my dad is elderly but in good health, he helps me in various ways but emotionally has been a poor father which he probably can't help.

 

[Phill]

I don't wanna be a burden on my family. They've been through a lot in the last years, so since I don't have many friends, I keep my feelings to myself.

 

[Jessamine]

No.. my sister has literally stopped contacting me since I told her of my mental health issues! Fucking joke

 

[Alpha_Drama]

I'm scared to. I confined to tell my video game partner who I accidentally stumbled upon on the web. I only told this friend because he shared first, he constantly mentioned how sick he is of society and how he wishes to die in sleep. He then disappeared and I looked for him, found him, and then he shared his struggles and explained why he said all those things before. He made it a rule to never bring his own grief into conversation.

And when I told him about me, he broke that rule. Turned out he wasn't suicidal, but he did understand how I felt. We had a long chat and finally decided to get to colonia together before I attempt anything, but now I think I'm lying to myself and won't make it. My family will only stop me, and I'm afraid to lose my freedom.

 

[Mr2005]

Fuck my family