Discussion Do you fit the profile?

[Lo$t95]

Single, isolated, mental or physical health issues, substance abuse, prior attempts, various forms of abuse, non-hispanic White male etc

This is the most common profile of suicides in the Western Hemisphere. A lot of you won't fit but those who live on this side of the planet how much do you deviate from the norm?

 

[mysticatedwine]

Single, isolated (kinda), mental health issues, prior attempts, abuse and white here... Damn, I fit almost all of the criterias

 

[dragonofenvy]

Every single one. Maybe some day I'll add to the statistic too.

 

[tartvinegar]

Single, isolated, mental or physical health issues, substance abuse, prior attempts, various forms of abuse, non-hispanic White male etc

This is the most common profile of suicides in the Western Hemisphere. A lot of you won't fit but those who live on this side of the planet how much do you deviate from the norm?

I def have mental health issues, some physical issues, prior attempts. But nothing else. I do feel isolated, but I do have a couple of friends.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I've had some prior attempts but that's about it. I have no history of trauma, abuse, mental health issues, or physical health issues (outside of a few very mild things), I have a bf, I have my family so I'm not isolated, and I'm a woc

 

[locked*n*loaded]

I'm single and isolated. White. Male. No substance abuse issues, though, including alcohol (I don't drink). No serious physical issues thus far. My only mental issue is depression. No real attempts except when I was 16 I threatened to blow my brains out with a handgun because a girl broke up with me (I actually fired the gun).

 

[Michi_Violeta]

Single? Yes, it's 65% of the reason I'm considering to ctb. Isolated? Not really, I have good family and friends. Mental or physical health issues? Physically healthy, but I've been struggling with depression for almost a decade now. Substance abuse? Nope. Prior attempts? Nope, I've always thought that if I'm going to do this I'm gonna do it right. Various forms of abuse? Just one, emotional abuse, particularly in my childhood: I thought I'd escaped from it, but my ex found a way to reopen that wound. Non-hispanic White male etc? Nope, hispanic male that would call himself non-binary if I gave a shit about labels.

 

[Lo$t95]

I'm single and isolated. White. Male. No substance abuse issues, though, including alcohol (I don't drink). No serious physical issues thus far. My only mental issue is depression. No real attempts except when I was 16 I threatened to blow my brains out with a handgun because a girl broke up with me (I actually fired the gun).

Yeah man, breakups hit hard. I couldn't help but get attached. No ties to blood relatives from adoption made it hit harder. Loss of a girl hits hard man. I feel for you.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Yeah man, breakups hit hard. I couldn't help but get attached. No ties to blood relatives from adoption made it hit harder. Loss of a girl hits hard man. I feel for you.

Thanks, but that's when I was 16. Young and dumb. It was 43 years ago. I'd NEVER kms over a breakup, or threaten to, either. I didn't even do it then. I hope I'm a bit wiser for wear now. There aint no girl worth killing yourself over.

 

[Aloneandinpain]

No mental health issues except for situational depression. No abuse or substance abuse either, but everything else 100%

Great post

 

[genie]

All lol

 

[Lo$t95]

Thanks, but that's when I was 16. Young and dumb. It was 43 years ago. I'd NEVER kms over a breakup, or threaten to, either. I didn't even do it then. I hope I'm a bit wiser for wear now. There aint no girl worth killing yourself over.

Same age for break-up, I am younger than you (30 today) but agree to disagree on that last point. A chance at starting a family of my own was everything to me. I miss her every day. I am pathetic I guess. It is what it is.

 

[tartvinegar]

I wonder how many of us here have substance abuse problems. It doesn't seem that way? At least no one has mentioned it?

 

[Michi_Violeta]

Same age for break-up, I am younger than you (30 today) but agree to disagree on that last point. A chance at starting a family of my own was everything to me. I miss her every day. I am pathetic I guess. It is what it is.

I really empathize with your point. Loving and being loved by a romantic partner has been a lifelong desire of mine, one that has been traumatically and constantly denied. I met her at a crucial point in life in which I was ready to build an adult life after a series of disappointments and I was giving it my everything only for her to leave me when I needed it the most and in the worst way possible. Maybe I am pathetic too. But it is what it is and I feel what I feel and if some women have the right to say they dream about having children then why shouldn't be allowed to dream about having a girlfriend/wife?

Also, for what it's worth, happy birthday (?) Here's hoping whatever you wished for becomes a reality, either in this world or beyond it.

 

[Lo$t95]

I wonder how many of us here have substance abuse problems. It doesn't seem that way? At least no one has mentioned it?

I do ~ Coke and Oxys in my teens never beat it just replaced it with cutting and psychedelics for a while before relapse. OD,d a few times but "good samaritans" love to resuscitate people.

 

[BlazingBob]

Everything except substance abuse and prior attempts. Hopefully I'll become a statistic soon.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Same age for break-up, I am younger than you (30 today) but agree to disagree on that last point. A chance at starting a family of my own was everything to me. I miss her every day. I am pathetic I guess. It is what it is.

You mean you're still pining for someone from when you were 16? Dude, that's not healthy. In those 15 years since, you couldn't have met someone else and started a family with them? May I ask if you even tried?

 

[Lo$t95]

You mean you're still pining for someone from when you were 16? Dude, that's not healthy. In those 15 years since, you couldn't have met someone else and started a family with them? May I ask if you even tried?

1- Idk what "pining" means but yes as I said I got attached to her. 2- Nothing about me is "healthy". 3- no I didn't meet anyone since I am a loner who does his job, works out and sleeps nothing else ~ unless cutting, drinking and taking drugs count. 4- No I gave up on life a long time ago. It is what it is.

 

[grapevoid]

-I am single
-Not very isolated most the time.
-Obviously I have mental health issues- mainly PTSD and anxiety
-No physical health issues
-Never had an issue with substance abuse
-Have 1 failed prior attempt
-experienced abuse in the form of an abusive marriage which is what led to my PTSD but not prior to that
-I am white, however I am not a male.

 

[whywere]

I 100% agree with @locked*n*loaded as there is NEVER a gal or guy worth dying over EVER period! Same with grades and the Like, NEVER EVER period.

I have had 2 attempts, used to drink some beers and gave that up.

I have opioids, BUT they are prescription for a bad car crash. I am from back in the 1970's and saw ALL the street drugs that anyone would want. NEVER EVER tried any, as I saw too many folks completely destroy their lives and their families lives. From LSD, to, shrooms to everything, nope. Saw folks od and freak out and kill themselves while on street drugs, hell no is my answer.

Massive depression, BPD, heavens all mental health issues is me. Oh, yes, have been locked up by having the cops come grab me and haul me off.

I am white, male 68, turning 69 in 1 week, and we are ALL the same and should help each other out and help to make a smile and some sunshine.

Walter

 

[whyDoesItHurtSoMuch]

Last time I was in the psych ward, one of the nice nurses observed that I always had so many visitors and was like, "You have so many people who love you, how did you end up here?" And I just burst into tears.

I don't _look like_ I fit the profile -- I'm single, but I have a lot of friends. I've experienced abuse and I have prior attempts, but I'm also a woman of color and have experienced some success in my career and have never had a problem with substances ... From the outside, I seem normal.

On the inside, I am totally broken.

 

[Lo$t95]

Last time I was in the psych ward, one of the nice nurses observed that I always had so many visitors and was like, "You have so many people who love you, how did you end up here?" And I just burst into tears.

I don't _look like_ I fit the profile -- I'm single, but I have a lot of friends. I've experienced abuse and I have prior attempts, but I'm also a woman of color and have experienced some success in my career and have never had a problem with substances ... From the outside, I seem normal.

On the inside, I am totally broken.

Can I ask why a "woman of color" has made a difference in your opinion assuming you live in the Western hemisphere?

(Idk how to word this better than I have.)

 

[whyDoesItHurtSoMuch]

Can I ask why a "woman of color" has made a difference in your opinion assuming you live in the Western hemisphere?

(Idk how to word this better than I have.)

Just that I don't fit the "white male" part of the profile.

 

[Lo$t95]

Just that I don't fit the "white male" part of the profile.

Yeah the obvious reason - I thought there might be more to it. (Curiosity). Thanks

 

[whyDoesItHurtSoMuch]

Yeah the obvious reason - I thought there might be more to it. (Curiosity). Thanks

Now that I think about it, there might be more. I live in the US, so yeah, being a person of color here right now feels more scary than usual. The current political climate here has definitely exacerbated my ideation.

 

[Lo$t95]

Now that I think about it, there might be more. I live in the US, so yeah, being a person of color here right now feels more scary than usual. The current political climate here has definitely exacerbated my ideation.

Trump hates black people or non-Whites?

 

[locked*n*loaded]

1- Idk what "pining" means but yes as I said I got attached to her. 2- Nothing about me is "healthy". 3- no I didn't meet anyone since I am a loner who does his job, works out and sleeps nothing else ~ unless cutting, drinking and taking drugs count. 4- No I gave up on life a long time ago. It is what it is.

Pining means still longing for that same girl. Still thinking about her. Still desiring her. Still missing her. You're only 30 years old. You can still have a family if you desire.

When I was 31, my fiance and I split up after 6 years. I was in pretty bad shape for a while. It took me a good 1-1/2 years to get completely over her. I worked a lot and had to help my parents out who were divorced, especially my mother. I dated some in my 30s, but nothing worked out. I kept working a lot and just doing whatever. Time kept going on, but I wasn't noticing. One day I noticed and I was in my early 50s. I wanted a family just like you, but I never put any real effort into making it happen. Let me tell you that it hits you pretty hard when one day you realize that it's really just too late. I think I was kinda waiting for something to just happen naturally for me, for someone to just enter my life without me even trying. It doesn't work that way. You have to go after what you want. You have to do something to make something happen. You also have to put the past in the past. You still have time to chart a new course. Or, if you're around when you turn 50, you may look back with a lot of regret wishing you would have done something differently when you were in your 30s.

 

[Lo$t95]

Pining means still longing for that same girl. Still thinking about her. Still desiring her. Still missing her. You're only 30 years old. You can still have a family if you desire.

When I was 31, my fiance and I split up after 6 years. I was in pretty bad shape for a while. It took me a good 1-1/2 years to get completely over her. I worked a lot and had to help my parents out who were divorced, especially my mother. I dated some in my 30s, but nothing worked out. I kept working a lot and just doing whatever. Time kept going on, but I wasn't noticing. One day I noticed and I was in my early 50s. I wanted a family just like you, but I never put any real effort into making it happen. Let me tell you that it hits you pretty hard when one day you realize that it's really just too late. I think I was kinda waiting for something to just happen naturally for me, for someone to just enter my life without me even trying. It doesn't work that way. You have to go after what you want. You have to do something to make something happen. You also have to put the past in the past. You still have time to chart a new course. Or, if you're around when you turn 50, you may look back with a lot of regret wishing you would have done something differently when you were in your 30s.

I appreciate that.
I have made my decision.
Thanks for your honesty but I have signed out.

 

[NonEssential]

Single: yes
isolated: yes
mental health issues: not officially diagnosed, but I'm suicidal so...
physical health issues: I'm diagnosed with epilepsy if that counts
substance abuse: I've got alcoholic tendencies, but fortunately I'm too poor to act on them often
prior attempts: idk, I once spent half an hour to get to a bridge to jump off of, but my SI stopped me
various forms of abuse: not really, some bullying in middle school though
non-hispanic white male: yes

Fun quiz

 

[Lo$t95]

Single: yes
isolated: yes
mental health issues: not officially diagnosed, but I'm suicidal so...
physical health issues: I'm diagnosed with epilepsy if that counts
substance abuse: I've got alcoholic tendencies, but fortunately I'm too poor to act on them often
prior attempts: idk, I once spent half an hour to get to a bridge to jump off of, but my SI stopped me
various forms of abuse: not really, some bullying in middle school though
non-hispanic white male: yes

Fun quiz

Thanks for sharing