Do you find venting a bit too satisfying?

[CoolGuy9]

I used to vent to this one woman all the time. Eventually she said she couldn't take it anymore and told me to stop. I didn't. It was too satisfying to stop and I'm a piece of shit for that and now she is gone. Now I like to vent on the internet.

I feel kind of guilty though as it's like all I want is attention.

 

[Santiago]

I hardly vent anymore. I've realised it is pointless for me. Doesn't make me feel better and nobody can help anyways.

As for other people venting, I personally think it's fine to a certain degree.

It only annoys me when people make thread after thread about why they want to ctb and their methods. Like no hard feelings, but we really don't need a daily update on your methods and feelings.

 

[CoolGuy9]

I hardly vent anymore. I've realised it is pointless for me. Doesn't make me feel better and nobody can help anyways.

As for other people venting, I personally think it's fine to a certain degree.

It only annoys me when people make thread after thread about why they want to ctb and their methods. Like no hard feelings, but we really don't need a daily update on your methods and feelings.

For me it does make me feel better, but I fear that I become the annoying venter that you speak of.

 

[Morgana]

I feel such guilt every single day for venting. I vent to every person who asks, every chance I get, and then I immediately regret and apologize for it. It's awful. Ughhh I can't stop.

 

[yami9292]

Yeah I never vented to anyone until recently and damn its like you get to finally tell people how you feel but then its regretful because they look at you differently or the friend dynamic changes. Happened to me the two times I have but they made feel comfortable and I was sick of lying and not telling people how I feel in way but I do regret it or I wish I didn't share too much. Especially because one of them made me see a counselor and damn do I regret that haha but venting I believe can be good though. Just to say all your thoughts out there but even taking up diary or blog could be good too.

 

[FTL.Wanderer]

I used to vent to this one woman all the time. Eventually she said she couldn't take it anymore and told me to stop. I didn't. It was too satisfying to stop and I'm a piece of shit for that and now she is gone. Now I like to vent on the internet.

I feel kind of guilty though as it's like all I want is attention.

I do feel guilty for the reason you mentioned. But I don't talk about myself in real life. And I'm isolated as it is. A therapist once told me to use online chats as a therapy, so... I figure if others don't like what you're sharing they can effortlessly scroll or click away...

 

[Dead beat dad]

I used to vent to this one woman all the time. Eventually she said she couldn't take it anymore and told me to stop. I didn't. It was too satisfying to stop and I'm a piece of shit for that and now she is gone. Now I like to vent on the internet.

I feel kind of guilty though as it's like all I want is attention.

It's sort of in our nature to seek attention, to feel justified, respected and validated, just a degree of measurement and moderation could be applied.
I don't vent IRL, and even venting on here makes me feel guilty (except the times when something funny happens, in which case we can all have a laugh with a bit of gallows humour).
I once hear that;
'A problem shared is a problem halved. Therefore by venting you are dumping half your problem on someone else.'
I reflect on that a lot.
Good luck everyone
Peace
DBD

 

[Memento Mori]

I used to vent to this one woman all the time. Eventually she said she couldn't take it anymore and told me to stop. I didn't. It was too satisfying to stop and I'm a piece of shit for that and now she is gone. Now I like to vent on the internet.

I feel kind of guilty though as it's like all I want is attention.

♥

we all want something. if you're important to her you should try to build her up as an alternation and try to stay back with your running mind, or let it out elsewhere. and don't except too much from it, just do it for the smiles. i was so busy with venting and making accusations that i totally forgot to do that :(

 

[Koal]

I hardly vent at all, it makes me feel silly when I try and explain stuff. Usually I just open a text file and type "fuck this person you are scum" and so on.
It's weird because I am always well mannered and nice to people in real life but I've written some really toxic stuff in some of those text files. I guess that's just the form my anger takes.

 

[Circles]

After a while it gets tiring trying to explain how shit life is and I get exhausted with 'what's the point' thoughts everytime I want to share something. Crying or talking about it help at times but it doesn't solve the fucking problems. I'm trying to get to a point of acceptance that this is how things are and this is what I've got to do. Anything else just feels like a waste of time at this point.

 

[DrownedOctopus]

I always feel like it's a massive burden, even on my husband.
I tend not to say anything unless I'm in a really really bad place mentally for an extended period of time. Even then I'm more than too apologetic, and I try to make it seem way less than it is so he doesn't have to worry.
I don't know how to just come out and say I'm not okay and I need your help, please just talk to me and hold me until I don't have this feeling anymore.
He says it isn't a bother, but god it sure feels like everything about me is a nightmare to deal with.

 

[Xaphous]

My situation is very bad and hopeless in every area of life. I vented more in my early 20s but now it will just be sometimes because there are no solutions at all. It only helps because I have zero social contacts in my life for almost my entire life - not even my own family have anything to say to me. I live with my parents and it's just complete silence all day and night while they watch tv, then if my sisters visit it's endless conversation that I'm not a part of, until they leave then back to silence or one sentence a day at most. I'm completely mentally destroyed so venting is all I have.

 

[CoolGuy9]

Before that woman I would talk to nobody about these problems. She did open me up to the idea of speaking about them and I wouldn't be here telling you about these problems without her.

I always feel like it's a massive burden, even on my husband.
I tend not to say anything unless I'm in a really really bad place mentally for an extended period of time. Even then I'm more than too apologetic, and I try to make it seem way less than it is so he doesn't have to worry.
I don't know how to just come out and say I'm not okay and I need your help, please just talk to me and hold me until I don't have this feeling anymore.
He says it isn't a bother, but god it sure feels like everything about me is a nightmare to deal with.

If I was you then I would just go to your husband and tell him to hold you. As a guy I would love if a woman would want to be held by me, because she was feeling down and saw me as someone who could make her feel better. Ofcourse i'm a completely different kind of guy than your husband and it most likely isn't even my place to give you this advice so maybe you shouldn't listen to my advice.

 

[ZixivaldYrxes]

I feel like most of the stuff I say when I vent is batshit ridiculous, and I usually feel worse for it. There's a push and pull between the urge to express myself and the anticipation of being forced to realize that this part of me that I'm expressing will never be acceptable or anything short of imperfect and ugly. It's a deal with the devil where I get short-term satisfaction and a lottery ticket that promises that if I win, I might solve something or find some meaning. In exchange I get later regret.

And so I want to turn my brain off to solve the problem. You can't compare something to nothing.

 

[Bedlamb]

For me it's not just venting but any form of expressing my feelings or experiences, even though I know they're stupid and insignificant. Like I'm doing now. I'm mostly guilty of it when high

 

[seekingoblivion]

I keep all venting to a minimum. Never vent in real life. First off no one wants to listen and then it's like they're just waiting for me to finish so they can give me advice or "words of encouragement" which generally amount to be happy and don't be sad. Online I feel like it's pointless cause no one gives a crap anyway and in general it's not like it solves anything.

I feel like most of the stuff I say when I vent is batshit ridiculous, and I usually feel worse for it. There's a push and pull between the urge to express myself and the anticipation of being forced to realize that this part of me that I'm expressing will never be acceptable or anything short of imperfect and ugly

This is me all my life.