Do you find platitudes painful?

[Skallagrim]

Hi everyone.

Whenever I see someone express suicidal feelings on more public social media (such as twit or f-book) I see a plethora of responses that all go along the lines of "Don't give up, there is hope" or "You are not alone" or "Hang on things will get better", and virtually all of these responses typed out by people who have never lived without hope, have no knowledge of what it truly means to be alone, and have no idea if things can get better.

At best I find these sorts of things annoying.

At worst I find them wounding. Speaking personally, if I had to swallow a load of platitudinous tripe from someone telling me that my life isn't the mess it is, and that I have to keep living it in spite of how utterly wretched it is, all from someone who will certainly forget I exist 30 seconds after clicking onto something else, that would push me even further into a depression.

It's ALMOST as bad as suicide helplines with silent listeners who you just know are desperate for you to hang up.

(Sorry everyone here I just REALLY needed to get this out of my system).

 

[mortuarymary]

Get it all out.
we are pro choice here. It's your choice to be here.
Welcome to the forums and ask away.

 

[FuneralCry]

I find that kind of toxic positivity really insensitive and insane honestly, I find it hard to take it seriously. They are just insulting and invalidating people's suffering in an incredibly obnoxious way, it's insane to say that existence gets "better" when there is no limit as to how much one can suffer in this evil world.

 

[deedeme]

Survival is embodied into our DNA. We as a species, want to survive (hence SI).

Everyone has their own perception of life, I know about many people that went through hell but endured and refuse CTB as an option. Personally, I believe we shouldn't judge just as we don't wish to be judged from other people. At the end of the day it is your own choice, but still, we cannot hate against the pro-life. Why? Because they can see hope and there is nothing wrong about that, it's beautiful. Just as we, see the darkness, that's ok too. It's up to one's decision. I don't understand the hate towards pro-life, good for them. (personal opinion, again).

 

[TAW122]

I find them rather annoying and obnoxious. It sometimes makes me angry and pissed off whenever I hear them. It's really cringe when I hear people spew that or flyers and other platitudes plastered about in public. It's a nuisance in my eyes.

 

[straydog]

They bother me in certain contexts. When it feels like it's something being said out of some perceived obligation or disingenuously in an attempt to end a conversation or assuage one's own hurt/guilt/concern at hearing another person is suffering, it can be annoying as hell. Here though, where we generally hold similar beliefs about the right to die as one chooses and we have personal experiences with suicidal urges, it feels very sincere to me when folks wish each other the best. There's no judgment or pressure to act in any certain way, it's just true compassion.

 

[Aim]

Hi everyone.

Whenever I see someone express suicidal feelings on more public social media (such as twit or f-book) I see a plethora of responses that all go along the lines of "Don't give up, there is hope" or "You are not alone" or "Hang on things will get better", and virtually all of these responses typed out by people who have never lived without hope, have no knowledge of what it truly means to be alone, and have no idea if things can get better.

At best I find these sorts of things annoying.

At worst I find them wounding. Speaking personally, if I had to swallow a load of platitudinous tripe from someone telling me that my life isn't the mess it is, and that I have to keep living it in spite of how utterly wretched it is, all from someone who will certainly forget I exist 30 seconds after clicking onto something else, that would push me even further into a depression.

It's ALMOST as bad as suicide helplines with silent listeners who you just know are desperate for you to hang up.

(Sorry everyone here I just REALLY needed to get this out of my system).

These people don't know anything, so they should shut the hell up, unless opinion is asked.

 

[Slow_Farewell]

Let it out, its fine, just don't hate them for it.
We cant really be sure of how they lived their life as well, so we can't assume that they don't know what they are talking about.
It's the same for CTB. No one can really say that they're reasons are the only reasons, nor their method is the only method.
heck, some of us who want to CTB annoy each other too by what we post.
It might be informative if you analyze why you're being triggered by posts by people you dont know, and who have no say about your life.
It happens to me too and it's interesting when I catch myself being annoyed and automatically thinking "this person is commenting out of their ass", specially if I dont know them personally.

 

[StrawberrySuicide]

for me, it really depends on who's saying it and the intentions behind it. for example, if some random ass person online is saying something like "you matter, people care about you" that just feels really empty and hallow, but i'd feel different if it was a friend saying it. however, there are a few that i can't stand at all, like those cheesy "you're life's not a movie, don't end it" type bullshit.

 

[asian.neet]

They're offensive. I just block people who put that shit in my mouth

 

[ijustwishtodie]

Yes, I do. Their platitudes just goes to show how much pro suffering they are

 

[thinvy]

they used to enrage me when I was a kid who had just lost his dad. "he's in a better place" how do you know? "he's not suffering anymore" thanks for reminding me that there's a chance he didn't die immediately. "God decided he needed him up there" I needed my daddy too.

now I'm older and have been through more loss, and I understand that these platitudes are mostly to make the person who says them feel less shit about the situation.

still upsets me to hear them, especially in reference to people I cared a lot about, but I understand now. I do make sure to warn those I know who haven't experienced the brutality of loss that a lot of people don't want to hear it, and advise them on better things they can say and do that can help ease the pain instead