Do you enjoy any kind of conversations/socializing?

[Debbie Northampton U]

I only feel comfortable if there is a drama. I can't do chit chat/small-talk etc. No idea why. It just bores me rigid and that's my major issue. If I found social stuff/chatting enjoyable, I wouldn't feel suicidal.

Now, if there's a flood on the street and all the neighbours are panicking, I'm in my element trying to help and I just feel included/a part of something. But the banter people do with each other? I can't do it. You know for example you bump into a neighbour and you exchange a few sentences and all those random chats leave both laughing cos someone has cracked a weak joke/observation. I'm not quick enough or interested enough to be able to do that. I'll just be really dull and say. ok, bye. WTF.

I am socially inept.

So, do you feel socially inept and do you enjoy any kind of interaction?

 

[Asylum]

I am a social reject

 

[FuneralCry]

I just think small talk is the most pointless thing ever. I don't understand why people always feel the need to fill silence. I'm honestly very introverted and I find it exhausting being around people for a long amount of time. I always feel the need to isolate myself and I hate the sound of my own voice. It just isn't enjoyable to me.

 

[Superdeterminist]

Yes, sometimes. It depends entirely on how well I gel with the other person/people. There are people I hate interacting with, and others who I love interacting with.

 

[JustAMatterOfTime]

I'm socially retarded … Really shy, most days I say out loud maybe 10 words. I fear people too much now I always think I will do something wrong. It is torture when a neighbour tries to talk to me, I guess my Mum protects me now and explains. I used to have friends but I'm so out of practice now it just kills me and fills me with anxiety. I can talk on the internet because that is different but if you talk to me face to face I just try and get out of it as soon as possible even though inside I crave attention and affection.

I think the anxiety is just too much now, if I keep to myself I don't have to worry about dumb things I have said. I get practice on this website and appreciate it a lot when someone talks to me it makes me feel happy. I wish I could do it irl but oh well if you lay in bed for years you can't get up and start walking straight away.

 

[RedHarlequin]

Yeah, I can't do social interactions too that's why avoid people. The only person I can talk to is my partner because he knows I get drained easily and he doesn't take it personally.

 

[AloeGarten]

only social interaction i have is with my few irl friends on discord. if its with anyone but these then its more scary and stressful than fun, and just not worth the effort. id love more friends or a gf but at this point its more effort than i have energy to put in

 

[BottomlessPit]

I'm socially retarded … Really shy, most days I say out loud maybe 10 words. I fear people too much now I always think I will do something wrong. It is torture when a neighbour tries to talk to me, I guess my Mum protects me now and explains. I used to have friends but I'm so out of practice now it just kills me and fills me with anxiety. I can talk on the internet because that is different but if you talk to me face to face I just try and get out of it as soon as possible even though inside I crave attention and affection.

I think the anxiety is just too much now, if I keep to myself I don't have to worry about dumb things I have said. I get practice on this website and appreciate it a lot when someone talks to me it makes me feel happy. I wish I could do it irl but oh well if you lay in bed for years you can't get up and start walking straight away.

Incredibly relatable. For the longest time I tried to put myself out there in an attempt to fight my social anxiety, but to no avail. Not long ago I stopped trying because it isn't worth all the stress afterwards when I obsess about my weird behavior and social fuck ups.

 

[Debbie Northampton U]

Incredibly relatable. For the longest time I tried to put myself out there in an attempt to fight my social anxiety, but to no avail. Not long ago I stopped trying because it isn't worth all the stress afterwards when I obsess about my weird behavior and social fuck ups.

This. Is. Totally. Me. I've also given up. I can't do it anymore.

 

[sadbadpsychogirl]

not anymore

 

[WornOutLife]

I'm an expert at chit-chat with random people, my students, family, etc but I don't enjoy it.

However, talking to people like you all about my real feelings, suicide, depression and so on is EPIC!!!!

Especially when I get drunk and start having my existential crisis (like I will in 2 hours lol)

 

[Sprite_Geist]

Yes and no.

In most instances I am quiet and keep to myself, and do not really enjoy casual conversations; plus I am not good at idle talk anyway. The only times in which I do like talking is when I am with close friends, because those are the only individuals I feel comfortable knowing what goes on in my life - not that anything much does go on, but still. Also being with those who you are close to opens up the chance to discuss long and in-depth topics which I think is fun. The problem: I do not have close friends anymore - not for a while.

The closest I experience to "real" interaction in the present is online - over Discord and on this forum. Edit: and I like talking to people here; even if I am not the most sociable.

 

[Debbie Northampton U]

Is Discord another forum? Ahh, it's ok, just Googled it.

 

[PressEnterToExit]

Yes, I love talking to @JustAMatterOfTime

 

[Debbie Northampton U]

Are you together?

 

[lanax09]

I like it with certain people, about certain topics, though most of the time I find it a nuisance

 

[ArawenSilvenstar]

I am head over heels for my roommate so the moments when she is home from work I cherish deeply. Other than that im an extremely social person, people describe me as charismatic but im also incredibly socially anxious. I never think people like me or see anything in me no matter what they say. Its bittersweet.

 

[nightnightnitrite]

If i'm with any of my friends, it's an unspoken agreement that we sit in silence for hours with occasional words. I get really worn out from all other social interactions and I try to avoid them because I'm awkward and my voice cracks if I get to worked up:,) I do enjoy being around others at times but only if there is mostly silence with occasional chit chat or meme sharing:)

 

[Debbie Northampton U]

If i'm with any of my friends, it's an unspoken agreement that we sit in silence for hours with occasional words. I get really worn out from all other social interactions and I try to avoid them because I'm awkward and my voice cracks if I get to worked up:,) I do enjoy being around others at times but only if there is mostly silence with occasional chit chat or meme sharing:)

I like this. I need things to be slower lol as I just can't keep up with regular chit chat. I don't know if it's because I'm thick or because I just can't relax.

 

[nightnightnitrite]

I like this. I need things to be slower lol as I just can't keep up with regular chit chat. I don't know if it's because I'm thick or because I just can't relax.

It's always a pleasant feeling knowing someone is there without the pressure of conversation:) I always loved silence because my thoughts were constantly racing since I was a kid and it gets too much when having to focus on a certain topic especially one I'm not really into:,)

 

[Marktheghost]

I find it very difficult but I long for more opportunity to do it! I'm so lonely!

 

[Meditation guide]

It depends on the person I'm talking to. Based on them I can either love it or hate it. I do enjoy small talk and socializing, although I don't require it.

 

[Bat 17]

At work and when I was at college I was told that I'm very outgoing. I do like to plan social events and I do like people, I'm not a misanthrope. I like the stories and differences between people. I'd like to think I'm empathic. I can usually strike up a conversation with anyone.

But the secret truth is that I am something of a loner. I feel that socialising wears down a battery in my brain that then has to be recharged with quiet time, walking, reading.