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Beachedwhale
Mage
- Mar 3, 2021
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That person has more than me...those people have xyz....I do not have xyz...it's impossible to get xyz now or it'll be uncertain and take an extremely long time and I'm quickly deteriorating.. etc etc
I don't want other men's things, I want their bodies & mindsMy way of thinking is that, beyond the basics, the things you have are a burden, so the more you have the more burdened you are. They're like a 'to do' list in a different form.
You'll have to try and comfort yourself with the knowledge that their bodies and minds will age and fade with time like everyone else's (and their loss will likely be greater).I don't want other men's things, I want their bodies & minds
Nope, that would be too reasonable. Not my style.You'll have to try and comfort yourself with the knowledge that their bodies and minds will age and fade with time like everyone else's (and their loss will likely be greater).
What if it's comparing to someone who has what you want but you can't get itI do, I think we all do; however, the extent to which you compare yourself to others and the reasons why differ among us.
I no longer compare myself to others in order to gauge my relative 'successfulness' or social status in the hierarchy of society. I used to do this constantly but I simply no longer care.
I fundamentally reject the common idea that "success" is achieved by:
• Conforming to popular beauty standards
• Going to school for 12 years and then obtaining a bachelor's degree (but really due to credential inflation, it's more like 1-2 more degrees on top of that now)
• Getting a high-paying job
• Owning a house, getting married to someone who makes an equal amount or more than you
• Having kids so they can repeat the cycle
• Finally retiring after working for most of your life
Since this is typically how "success" is viewed, I can compare myself to others and see that I am not in line with this trajectory. But I don't dwell on it, I don't care to anymore.
Their loss will never be greater, they still got to experience and hold onto more than others can even dream of.You'll have to try and comfort yourself with the knowledge that their bodies and minds will age and fade with time like everyone else's (and their loss will likely be greater).
Not how it happens.You'll have to try and comfort yourself with the knowledge that their bodies and minds will age and fade with time like everyone else's (and their loss will likely be greater).
Their loss will never be greater, they still got to experience and hold onto more than others can even dream of.
Like you said, everything fades for everyone..but that just means what we have and experience before that time comes-is all that's ever worth anything.
And really, the more you have, the easier it is to lose something, as it will just be one thing lost among many.
It was just a suggestion about how you might go about thinking about things differently. Take it or leave it.Not how it happens.
YI do, I think we all do; however, the extent to which you compare yourself to others and the reasons why differ among us.
I no longer compare myself to others in order to gauge my relative 'successfulness' or social status in the hierarchy of society. I used to do this constantly but I simply no longer care.
I fundamentally reject the common idea that "success" is achieved by:
• Conforming to popular beauty standards
• Going to school for 12 years and then obtaining a bachelor's degree (but really due to credential inflation, it's more like 1-2 more degrees on top of that now)
• Getting a high-paying job
• Owning a house, getting married to someone who makes an equal amount or more than you
• Having kids so they can repeat the cycle
• Finally retiring after working for most of your life
Since this is typically how "success" is viewed, I can compare myself to others and see that I am not in line with this trajectory. But I don't dwell on it, I don't care to anymore.
I do, I think we all do; however, the extent to which you compare yourself to others and the reasons why differ among us.
I no longer compare myself to others in order to gauge my relative 'successfulness' or social status in the hierarchy of society. I used to do this constantly but I simply no longer care.
I fundamentally reject the common idea that "success" is achieved by:
• Conforming to popular beauty standards
• Going to school for 12 years and then obtaining a bachelor's degree (but really due to credential inflation, it's more like 1-2 more degrees on top of that now)
• Getting a high-paying job
• Owning a house, getting married to someone who makes an equal amount or more than you
• Having kids so they can repeat the cycle
• Finally retiring after working for most of your life
Since this is typically how "success" is viewed, I can compare myself to others and see that I am not in line with this trajectory. But I don't dwell on it, I don't care to anymore.
Constantly. But not in some envious kinda way. I know that it's my fault I haven't accomplished anything. I know I'm not smart, I'm not beautiful, I'm not determined, no goals or hobbies even. I don't blame anyone. I just know I'm not good enough, so to speak.
I'm able to recognize when someone else has something I would ideally like to have, but I no longer feel any sense of jealousy or envy about it because above all else, the only thing I truly want is to not exist.What if it's comparing to someone who has what you want but you can't get it