Discussion Do you care if other people think your reason to want to CTB is adequate? Poll

[Forever Sleep]

I'm aways kind of curious about this. How important is it to you that other people agree that your reasons to want to CTB are adequate?

Do you hope that everyone will agree? Even the relative 'normies'? Are you ok with just people say here agreeing? Or, do you not care at all whether people think your motives are enough?

I think I probably fall mostly in the- I don't really care what other people think. I feel old enough (I'm 44) and feel like I'm experienced enough living my own life to know what I want. What I'm willing to do and not do. What my chances of success are if I were to try and make a real go of living. Mostly from experience I suppose. I've already done a bunch of things to try and help. Surely- if I thought there were more things I could try or re-try- I'd be doing them!

I suppose I don't talk too much about my motives here because I know they probably wouldn't seem adequate for some people. But then- I don't feel the need to have them questioned or to have to even defend them. I suppose because I think we are all the greatest experts on our own lives, our own minds, our own limitations.

That's not to say I hate outside offers of help, support, guidance or whatever but- I think a person needs to be in the frame of mind to be open to accept all that. What are your thoughts?

 

[lizzywizzy09]

Other people can kiss my ass. They never cared about me, so I don't care about their feelings over why I do the things I do. Ultimately, our reasons to ctb are what matter to us and we won't be around to face judgment from others either way so why even care?

 

[LaVieEnRose]

It doesn't matter because it wouldn't stop me regardless. I have some invisible problems that are such that everyone has and always will underestimate what I've gone through.

Besides, I really don't care what any single neurotypical person has to say about how I should view my life.

 

[lizzywizzy09]

It doesn't matter because it wouldn't stop me regardless. I have some invisible problems that are such that everyone has and always will underestimate what I've gone through.

Besides, I really don't care what any single neurotypical person has to say about how I should view my life.

Yup. The way I see it is nobody would understand anyway. Let them think whatever the hell they want.

 

[Vicolo cieco]

I care. However, I think my reasons are objectively valid. I'm sure nobody would want to live my life.

 

[timetodie24]

It somewhat bothers me now that some people don't as it makes my remaining time feel more lonely. But at the end of the day, I know what matters the most is what I want and what's right for me . People can think whatever when I'm dead. My family will want to believe I was worth saving as it'll make them feel better . But deep down they'll know I wasn't.

 

[golta]

Nah, they treat me like shit

 

[eatantz]

My reasons are stupid and vain, but it doesn't matter what other people think. Death scares people, they try to talk me out of it with insults and hateful comments but inevitably it's my choice wether I want to live or not

 

[LJ85]

No. My reasons are my own. People will either accept them or they won't.

 

[Naetoh]

Other people don't care about me. No reason for me to care about them.

 

[Sprite_Geist]

I want to say that I do not care, because mostly I do not; other people will likely berate my suicide regardless of whatever reasons are given, and also I think that (almost) any reason for suicide does not need to even be accepted by others. Though having said this: there is always a small, lingering thought that sometimes appears which gives me doubt, but I try to ignore it.

 

[Felodese]

Kind of wish someone would understand and see it from my point of view, but I'm not counting on it and it doesn't really matter.

 

[vitbar]

I care somewhat. I hope that understanding would make my suicide more bearable for those I love.

 

[sserafim]

I don't care what other people think at all. This is my life. My experience is what counts

 

[lovedread]

I don't really care anymore. Nobody knows what it's like to have two narcissistic parents who genuinely think you should kiss their feet just because they feed and house you. They don't know what it's like to have your only friend abruptly leave you, sending you into a mental breakdown/spiral that leads you to do just stupid stupid idiotic things. They dont get it. Youd want to kill yourself too.

 

[Mi Mi]

I'm aways kind of curious about this. How important is it to you that other people agree that your reasons to want to CTB are adequate?

Do you hope that everyone will agree? Even the relative 'normies'? Are you ok with just people say here agreeing? Or, do you not care at all whether people think your motives are enough?

I think I probably fall mostly in the- I don't really care what other people think. I feel old enough (I'm 44) and feel like I'm experienced enough living my own life to know what I want. What I'm willing to do and not do. What my chances of success are if I were to try and make a real go of living. Mostly from experience I suppose. I've already done a bunch of things to try and help. Surely- if I thought there were more things I could try or re-try- I'd be doing them!

I suppose I don't talk too much about my motives here because I know they probably wouldn't seem adequate for some people. But then- I don't feel the need to have them questioned or to have to even defend them. I suppose because I think we are all the greatest experts on our own lives, our own minds, our own limitations.

That's not to say I hate outside offers of help, support, guidance or whatever but- I think a person needs to be in the frame of mind to be open to accept all that. What are your thoughts?

Nope
Don't care at all
It should be expected actually
I always said my life would end by my hands
And I've been through alot this last year
I don't want anything but to cease

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I mostly don't care at all what other people would think about my needing to CTB but of course there's always that tiny bit of doubt in the back of my mind that other people who want to CTB might still be jealous of my situation somehow or that they could at least do better with my life than I could in which case they'd be right.

 

[Artemisia]

I care somewhat, but the truth is, to many people no reason will ever be valid enough. So, in the end, it doesn't really matter much.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I don't care at all. My experience is what counts. I know that my reasons are valid and that's enough for me. I am not going to deal with pro lifers who are incapable of understanding that life isn't meant for some people to begin with. Nor will I let a normie tell me that I should always choose life over death because, in the end, I'm not pro suffering and pro hardship unlike them. I am in the right for not wanting to suffer more and, logically, the only way to achieve that is by death

 

[Lost in a Dream]

I don't care anywhere near as much as I used to, but I still care enough to be pissed off at all those assholes who want to ban peaceful methods and force people to live. I care on behalf of others like me who are being guilt tripped or are currently being forced into hospitalization just because they want out.

If we lived in a society that actually cared about freedom, death with dignity and MAID would be fully legal and everyone would respect the choice to live or die in peace. Since most people are sadists and want to force others to suffer it probably will always be this way. I care about everyone else's reasons because they are personal and I have no right to tell someone else what they are allowed to do with their own life.

Other people might have problems that I wouldn't want to kill myself over because I'm not experiencing those problems myself or as severely as they are. Maybe if I was it would be different. I just know what my own reasons are and that's enough for me.

 

[glossble]

I feel like no matter how adequate your reason is, most people will still criticize your decision and blame you for choosing "an easy way out". As if they think they have a right to control your life and decide for you. It's also funny how taking someone's life is a crime, but forcing someone to live against their will is not

 

[pthnrdnojvsc]

I couldn't care less what another bunch of cells a programmed machine thinks about "my" reasons or anything for that matter. I'm just a bunch of cells , a programmed machine too which is just another reason to suicide for "me" . biology evolution neuroscience 101 imo and molecular cell biology 101 ... more

 

[Crash_Bash_Dash]

Why should I care? The ultimate thing I can decide is my death and it would be up to someone else's reasoning/feelings about my situation that should change my mind? The only thing that should be stopping me is for me to find a way out of this situation and there seems to be none because I am incapable of coping/doing things. I do care about my parents and friends though but they can't judge me by my reasons.

 

[TheLastBoyOnEarth]

I care about my family a lot so I hope that even though they will not accept my decision, that they will be understanding because of the circumstances. In my case, my chronic pain condition.