We often say this to each other. That everyone is deserving of love. I definitely think everyone deserves respect. We have the right to feel safe and comfortable in a society we most likely pay towards.
I also think parents ought to love their children. They are the reason that person is here. They ought to at least care about them.
For everyone else though- I think love/ connection/ friendship tends to be quite transactional. Maybe that's not a great thing but- it's just how it is. We simply don't love or like everyone to the same extent. It isn't like an equal opportunities set up. We have preferences.
Maybe we need to have enough in common. Or, we need to be able to give as much as we receive. I suppose I have this hope that there's someone for everyone. But, I think it's somewhat down to the efforts we make to meet people and somewhat down to luck. Whether we connect to the people we meet.
As to whether we 'deserve' it though. I don't really know. It's almost like trying really hard at an exam but still failing it. If life were fair, we would achieve varying success according to how much work we put in. But, it doesn't work like that. Some people seem to be more naturally gifted, more cool headed under pressure. Plus, the exam questions may have luckily coincided with what they are good at. I think relationships and friendships are somewhat like that. The hope is we'll be naturally gifted in what the other person needs- a good listener, enthusiastic about the same things, funny, whatever and, vice versa.
Maybe we do actually deserve love and friendship. It would be cruel to say some people don't deserve those things. But, I think it's both luck and effort that creates our chances of getting them.
I also think parents ought to love their children. They are the reason that person is here. They ought to at least care about them.
For everyone else though- I think love/ connection/ friendship tends to be quite transactional. Maybe that's not a great thing but- it's just how it is. We simply don't love or like everyone to the same extent. It isn't like an equal opportunities set up. We have preferences.
Maybe we need to have enough in common. Or, we need to be able to give as much as we receive. I suppose I have this hope that there's someone for everyone. But, I think it's somewhat down to the efforts we make to meet people and somewhat down to luck. Whether we connect to the people we meet.
As to whether we 'deserve' it though. I don't really know. It's almost like trying really hard at an exam but still failing it. If life were fair, we would achieve varying success according to how much work we put in. But, it doesn't work like that. Some people seem to be more naturally gifted, more cool headed under pressure. Plus, the exam questions may have luckily coincided with what they are good at. I think relationships and friendships are somewhat like that. The hope is we'll be naturally gifted in what the other person needs- a good listener, enthusiastic about the same things, funny, whatever and, vice versa.
Maybe we do actually deserve love and friendship. It would be cruel to say some people don't deserve those things. But, I think it's both luck and effort that creates our chances of getting them.
