Do silent moments between you and another person always feel awkward to you?

[Kain10th]

Or can you handle those moments without feeling awkward?

 

[mathieu]

Most people I feel awkward around, maybe other than immediate family.

 

[Brick In The Wall]

It depends on the person, group of people, or situation I suppose. I try to break the silence with meaningless bullshit if it goes on for too long.

 

[Evermore]

I really depends on who it is , some people i can be silent around and feel comfortable but with others there's always the need to fill the silence . I don't tend to talk to people that much in person anymore though as I don't have much to say and what I do have to say they don't want to hear .

 

[Deleted member 17949]

They're always awkward for me personally. I struggle dealing with and reading people, and when things go silent I get uncomfortable because I feel like I did something wrong that killed the conversation.

 

[BPD Barbie]

Depend on the person, a lot can be said without saying anything. Most people though, I just don't talk to them to begin with or make an excuse to leave/hang up the phone etc.

 

[Deleted member 1465]

Depends entirely on the person, the relationship you have with them and how adept each of you are at reading each other's verbal and non verbal social queues.

 

[GoBack]

It depends. The silence these days is deafening though, so quiet out there it's eerie

 

[I_love_to_bake]

Never.

But I grew up with silent parents so I'm okay with silence. I have to remind myself that other people don't like silence and to think of something to say.

Silence is definitely less akward than answering invasive personal questions.

 

[Reiraku]

I'd like to reference that date scene from Pulp Fiction. It describes my stance pretty accurately:
"Don't you hate that? Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable? That's when you know you've found somebody special. When you can just shut the fuck up for a minute and comfortably enjoy the silence."

 

[TheSoulless]

They're always awkward for me personally. I struggle dealing with and reading people, and when things go silent I get uncomfortable because I feel like I did something wrong that killed the conversation.

Exactly how I feel.

 

[Epsilon0]

In the words of Depeche Mode "words are very unnecessary".

Sorry, I am not actually answering the question you posed, I just love the song it reminded me of: Enjoy the silence. Both the song and video - Dave Gagan with a royal mantle on him atop a snow-covered mountain.

 

[RepressedMind]

Sometimes. But most of the time I am so intertwined in my own thoughts and mental issues that at this point it's just another occurrence happening and I don't feel much. You know how you're feeling a lot of pain and it jusy numbs everything else out? It is sort of like that

 

[Cosmiq]

I'm completely fine with silence as my parents and other adults highly valued a quiet child. I can sense if someone else feels uncomfortable in silence, and depending on the amount of energy I might engage with them a bit.
However, people, that can sit in silence without coming off uncomfortable I feel closer to. Also I kinda just get lost in my head and enjoy people that don't interrupt me with words.

In the words of Depeche Mode "words are very unnecessary".

Sorry, I am not actually answering the question you posed, I just love the song it reminded me of: Enjoy the silence. Both the song and video - Dave Gagan with a royal mantle on him atop a snow-covered mountain.

love this song and a big Depeche Mode fan, and also one of those that have the violator rose tattooed on them lol

 

[faraway_beach]

Sometimes. I'm from New York, and so are most of my friends. I guess we speak quickly. I once had a friend from Florida (later moved again). She would wait for what she thought was a decent pause in the conversation, but by then one or another of us would have felt it was an awkwardly long pause, and start to speak over each other. People's sense of timing can just feel different.

 

[suicidebabyseal]

Sometimes I can handle it if I feel safe with the person I'm with. Silence is not too scary when you trust one another.

 

[Mr2005]

They feel awkward to everyone. Witness the scene in Pulp fiction where it's addressed

 

[raindrops]

Sometimes I can handle it if I feel safe with the person I'm with. Silence is not too scary when you trust one another.

I'm sat here reading threads and usually I don't say anything but what you said there made me cry a little...
3 months ago I was with the person who I thought loved me forever, we were together 11 years, 15 when we met. I'm so heartbroken.
This is what I loved the most we could talk for hours about anything or sit in silence with no awkwardness.

I just realised after typing that I am now that person who will go on and on about their ex, I'm sorry

 

[a.n.kirillov]

I once feared these moments and was very uncomfortable with them, but I have learned to enjoy these moments. This space of being silent is actually an intimate space, where both you and the other person are left to your imaginations ... I am bad at describing what I mean to say ... mutual silence seems to breed a feeling of familiarity and closeness. There is also a tension that can make itself felt in those moments.

Sorry it's hard to describe.

I also enjoy watching the other person get a little uncomfortable sometimes