Discussion Do any of you long for someone?

[Seven]

It feels awful, I know that it will never workout, that they wont talk to me ever again. I know the good times wont come again but I long for them so bad. Right now they completely hate me and are dating someone else, I just wish it could of worked out. I finally allowed myself to love, but I think that might of been the biggest mistake I ever did. I wish I could go back to being cold and detached, to being robotic almost and not caring. The pain is too immense, love is truly one of the worst feelings in the world. I still care for them no matter what I do, I can try to forget them or demonize but I cant bring myself to do that. I think about them alot. Chasing girls brings me no pleasure, i still think of them all the time. I dont know what to do but maybe time will heal me. I wish it could of worked out.. at least see them once

 

[Arbie]

Do you get any comfort in the old cliche, that if it's meant to be it will come to pass? I don't...i think it's horseshit. Love hurts so badly. Makes you wish you could drill that whole section right out of your skull.
It does pass...the intensity of the loss and pain do fade with time and self care. I hope it gets better for you.

 

[Etherealdignity333]

Me too.
It's the worst.
You're not alone.

 

[bacardirum]

Absence makes the heart grow fonder, if it was meant to be, it will be, if not what will happen is you find someone greater and then they regret it, it's how the world works...

 

[vulturecyclop]

Allowing myself to love was also the biggest mistake for me...the pain is absolutely unbearable.

 

[bacardirum]

Allowing myself to love was also the biggest mistake for me...the pain is absolutely unbearable.

Not heard that song before but love the lyrics :)

 

[cryptic_cynic]

I'm tired of hearing the "if it was meant to be, it would be" bullshit. Sounds like more empty platitudes and ex post facto justification.

I also made the mistake of allowing myself to fall for someone, and I still wish it could work out. Things fell apart with that person because of the shitty world we live in, not because it "wasn't meant to be." There are concrete reasons why things couldn't work out between us, and if we lived in a better world, perhaps things could have turned out differently for the relationship.

 

[bacardirum]

I'm tired of hearing the "if it was meant to be, it would be" bullshit. Sounds like more empty platitudes and ex post facto justification.

I also made the mistake of allowing myself to fall for someone, and I still wish it could work out. Things fell apart with that person because of the shitty world we live in, not because it "wasn't meant to be." There are concrete reasons why things couldn't work out between us, and if we lived in a better world, perhaps things could have turned out differently for the relationship.

It just wasn't meant to be :)

 

[ElderlyJackson32]

Love is overrated

 

[Etherealdignity333]

Love is overrated

I don't think I believe this. I've never been truly seen and loved, and I don't think I would be so desperate to die if I had been.

 

[Nihil]

I have tasted it, and it was the happiest two years of my life. I miss having that kind of love and warmth. Deep down, I'm alone and also somewhat dead on the inside, but I also yearn to be able to hug and snuggle with someone. Just to be able to feel warm, to listen to a heartbeat, and to feel all safe cuddled up in someone's arms. Maybe it's just basic human contact I'm missing. Haven't had a real physical hug in I don't know how long. I know I might sound crazy, but just even having a basic physical hug would legit be medicine to my soul.

 

[IchIsGone]

I do. I'm just not sure what kind of relationship I want with that person.

 

[Meg]

It feels awful, I know that it will never workout, that they wont talk to me ever again. I know the good times wont come again but I long for them so bad. Right now they completely hate me and are dating someone else, I just wish it could of worked out. I finally allowed myself to love, but I think that might of been the biggest mistake I ever did. I wish I could go back to being cold and detached, to being robotic almost and not caring. The pain is too immense, love is truly one of the worst feelings in the world. I still care for them no matter what I do, I can try to forget them or demonize but I cant bring myself to do that. I think about them alot. Chasing girls brings me no pleasure, i still think of them all the time. I dont know what to do but maybe time will heal me. I wish it could of worked out.. at least see them once

I'm right there with you bud. I let my ex go so that he could find happiness and I wouldn't bring him down. He moved on like REALLY quick and now won't even speak to me. I had hoped he would be there for me through this at least but he's completely done with me. I'm also now pretty sure he's a total sociopath with no empathy for others.

 

[Architect]

I'm going through the same thing...
Either I'm a failure or life is just downright awful.

 

[k75]

I do. And it's so hard, because they're very much still in my life, and there's a weird duality to our relationship. Somehow, we're closer now than we've ever been, while at the same time drifting farther and farther apart....

 

[Bazinga]

I really liked this girl. Still do. She doesn't like me back. A few months ago i ended up telling her about my suicide plan. She ended up reporting me. So I decided to stop talking to her after I got out. It's ok because she never really messaged me after telling her.

I deserve it tbh. Recently i just used her as an emotional cumdump so i realized basically if i want to talk to people it's important not to mention depression ever as it will end up taking 99% of the conversation. Although it usually is the only thing i can ever think about so it's all i want to talk about because the rest of my interests like 100% completing video games are too rare (less than 0.2% of people who own a game often)

My psychiatrist won't give me new meds and basically just blames my depression on not having friends. Shocker, i know. She's a resident though so i guess she had to have her first suicide someday right?

 

[Painted Bird]

I do not long for anyone anymore. Relationships are over for good. I'm permanently single now, free as a (painted) bird, the way it should have always been. I was stupid to have more than one relationship in my life, I should have learnt after the first one. The last one ended some time ago but I had to deal with that psycho stalker ex-girlfriend until she finally lost interest (probably got a new victim).

 

[Seven]

I'm trying to forget them and move on but I cant, I feel like I'm being choked all the time. I dont know anymore, to them I'm just some crazy unstable stalker ex. I never stalked them, I'd avoid them, still I just hope for one day they come back but they wont. Forever I'll be Villian in their eyes. Just like that, I was promised so much, we were going to have a future. They told me they would never leave, yet here I am damaged and alone. I would have rather died then deal with this pain. I keep trying new things, obsessing over self improvement but it just doesnt feel good. I dont know maybe I just need to keep walking. Even if I'm not living just keep walking. Noone else matters, maybe I was meant to be alone. Alone forever, maybe it was a lie, a convenient lie.. I guess it's better I close my heart, close it forever and become ice cold. I feel it in my body a coldness I cant get rid of

 

[Pistolero114]

Yes. But she's on the other side of the "feckin' planet" as she puts it.

 

[inconsequential]

Technically.

I long for who I was before physical illness and pharmaceuticals ravaged my body, destroying it from the inside out. I miss being able to run for miles. I miss being able to climb. I miss being able to do MMA. I miss being able to win fights against larger opponents.

We're allowed to miss ourselves, right...?

 

[Saga]

It feels awful, I know that it will never workout, that they wont talk to me ever again. I know the good times wont come again but I long for them so bad. Right now they completely hate me and are dating someone else, I just wish it could of worked out. I finally allowed myself to love, but I think that might of been the biggest mistake I ever did. I wish I could go back to being cold and detached, to being robotic almost and not caring. The pain is too immense, love is truly one of the worst feelings in the world. I still care for them no matter what I do, I can try to forget them or demonize but I cant bring myself to do that. I think about them alot. Chasing girls brings me no pleasure, i still think of them all the time. I dont know what to do but maybe time will heal me. I wish it could of worked out.. at least see them once

sounds like me..nothing ever worked out..I was always the problem......if only i didnt have dual personality then maybe things wouldve turned good and i wont be thinking of ctb...but i am shattered pieces put into one and became a toxic fume in their lives.. I wished so bad that i was easier to love...but i am not

 

[Chalken]

Yes. I'm so goddamn lonely. I don't have any friends, let alone a girlfriend. I crave for intimacy but I know I'll never have it because I'm socially incompetent, stupid, boring and would just bring them down. When I sleep, sometimes I get good dreams where I'm with someone or have friends and those kind of dreams hurt more than nightmares, waking up just to realize it wasn't real.

 

[Mr2005]

I long for the past

 

[k75]

Technically.

I long for who I was before physical illness and pharmaceuticals ravaged my body, destroying it from the inside out. I miss being able to run for miles. I miss being able to climb. I miss being able to do MMA. I miss being able to win fights against larger opponents.

We're allowed to miss ourselves, right...?

I understand completely. I grieve myself every single day.

 

[wanttodie.nz]

I long for my ex wife. I desperately want her back but she doesn't. My have three kids together and were together for over 10 years. It is so painful

 

[thx1138]

It hurts my heart to see so many people are struggling with this. Sadly, no words of comfort can be sufficient.

Anyone else long for someone who wasn't a romantic partner? I had a friend/mentor/soulmate I haven't had any contact with for 7 years. I still see them in my dreams and think of them constantly. "Time heals everything", such bullshit. My life keeps moving on, now empty and purposeless, fully aware that I fucked up my only chance at a meaningful connection with a person who was one in seven billion.

 

[Icarus]

It hurts my heart to see so many people are struggling with this. Sadly, no words of comfort can be sufficient.

Anyone else long for someone who wasn't a romantic partner? I had a friend/mentor/soulmate I haven't had any contact with for 7 years. I still see them in my dreams and think of them constantly. "Time heals everything", such bullshit. My life keeps moving on, now empty and purposeless, fully aware that I fucked up my only chance at a meaningful connection with a person who was one in seven billion.

Hi IdIzrs! I feel your pain((( To make it even "better", I had a second chance and totally destroyed it because of my immaturity, selfishness and fear of commitment.