Nutshell
I’d feel better dead.
- Feb 23, 2020
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Men should not have to feel ashamed for being raw and open about their feelings. Least of all on a Suicide Forum. Inequality works both ways people, just saying.
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Nutshell
I’d feel better dead.
- Feb 23, 2020
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Considering men have a higher success rate of suicide I'm guessing they're all dying out..
GoodPersonEffed
Brevity is my middle name, but my name was TL
- Jan 11, 2020
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I call this tactic shaming without naming.
I am the member you trying to shame.
I am not ashamed and I won't be, no matter how many people like your post or jump on the bandwagon in comments without even knowing what happened, or even if they do.
The post is also flaming, trying to get forum members worked up. The thread you're referring to is no longer up. You commented to me there, but you're still going with this thread and trying to triangulate power for your position against me.
Or did other people also comment on that thread similarly to how I did? I don't think everything is about me, I only know that the thread was deleted pretty quickly after your comment to me.
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Nutshell
I’d feel better dead.
- Feb 23, 2020
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Okay. (Shrug). I just think that if I had written the exact same post as the person in question I would not have been called a "predator" I would have received virtual hugs and "sisterly" pats on the head. That is not fair and I stand by my opinion. I would prefer to live in a world where humans are treated equally regardless of gender. You're free to do you.
GoodPersonEffed
Brevity is my middle name, but my name was TL
- Jan 11, 2020
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If you had written that exact same post I would have said the exact same thing.
Just two days ago, a female member posted about having random sex with strangers and was lonely. I commented that I didn't think she would be lonely for long, that I anticipated her getting lots of PMs, and that I hoped she didn't become victim to a predator and I hoped she wasn't a predator either.
Nutshell
I’d feel better dead.
- Feb 23, 2020
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I'm not really sure how to reply to this, obviously I understand your point of view here and I don't think it is safe for anyone to be meeting up with people on sites like this and as a woman strongly support a woman's right to feel safe. But that is down to the individuals themselves and I still 100 percent support everyone's right to express their feelings and emotions and censorship or gagging just because of gender is not the answer here. If indeed that was the agenda of the person in question I do not support that one iota but we don't know for certain that that is the case.
I didn't post this to start a war or even target anyone specifically that is just not the type of person I am at all. Probably one of the least confrontational people I know. I do hear you though.
I merely expressed my opinion and I stand by it. I am not trying to get anyone worked up. As I said, I am not confrontational. You have chosen to take this as a personal attack and I'm just sorry that it is affecting you this way. Sincerely.
I didn't post this to start a war or even target anyone specifically that is just not the type of person I am at all. Probably one of the least confrontational people I know. I do hear you though.
I merely expressed my opinion and I stand by it. I am not trying to get anyone worked up. As I said, I am not confrontational. You have chosen to take this as a personal attack and I'm just sorry that it is affecting you this way. Sincerely.
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GoodPersonEffed
Brevity is my middle name, but my name was TL
- Jan 11, 2020
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I appreciate you heard me.
There were multiple red flags in that post and I stand by my assessment of it.
Aside from that, I respect your stance about inequality, and I don't disagree with your premise in the OP, it just wasn't a reflection of what it was in regard to, it was a straw man.
Respectfully, you were targeting me when you shamed me without naming me. It wasn't directly confrontational, it was a passive confrontation. I noticed it in spite of the indirectness, and I responded.
Nutshell
I’d feel better dead.
- Feb 23, 2020
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I appreciate that and I am sorry, it wasn't my intention for you to feel personally attacked but I do see how that could easily have been taken that way and I know that I would have reacted similarly if the tables were turned. I deliberately didn't name anyone as I wanted to avoid the "attack" aspect so to speak I am genuinely sorry I made you feel that way.
I always try to see the good in people, maybe I was too naive to spot them. Sometimes I think I'm too empathic for my own good.
I always try to see the good in people, maybe I was too naive to spot them. Sometimes I think I'm too empathic for my own good.
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MichaelNomad123
Jesus
- Oct 15, 2020
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I assume this thread is about me. I deleted the post to avoid treading on toes. I am acutely aware that there are many people that have suffered abuse at the hands of men on this forum and I am undeniably a man. It also seems as if the user that took issue with my thoughts and feelings simply has an axe to grind. Again, I take no issue with that. It is unfortunate but there is a lot of bitterness in the world. I certainly did not come here expecting anything else. I will admit that I am sad and disheartened, but ultimately it is what it is and as we have already established -- my experience doesn't matter. I have many questions about what the user said in regards to my post, but I'm trying my best to bury it because it makes me a little angry that my attempted emotional catharsis was completely invalidated on what I would argue is discriminatory, extremely subjective and poorly understood grounds. But, I digress. It isn't my first rodeo. If I had more power, the bad guys wouldn't win, but I don't. I am just a man.
GoodPersonEffed
Brevity is my middle name, but my name was TL
- Jan 11, 2020
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Clearly you've answered the questions already. You made me cry my ugly cry face.
With sincere wishes for your well-being anyway,
BadBadBitterPersonEffed
Nutshell
I’d feel better dead.
- Feb 23, 2020
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Okay.. this is getting unnecessarily silly. If you're just looking for me to delete the thread I'm not going to because I believe humanity's way forward is open discussion. If there is something you feel needs to be said, say it.
Am I missing something here? If you don't feel comfortable sharing on this post feel free to PM me any time.
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GoodPersonEffed
Brevity is my middle name, but my name was TL
- Jan 11, 2020
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Nutshell
I’d feel better dead.
- Feb 23, 2020
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I know, hun. You're just coming across as lashing out/ being unnecessarily defensive/ sour and rude. I'm trying to help you out. I just feel that it's getting out of hand.
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GoodPersonEffed
Brevity is my middle name, but my name was TL
- Jan 11, 2020
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Nutshell
I’d feel better dead.
- Feb 23, 2020
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You're the only person that has been rude or "flaming" as you put it. Suit yourself, lovely. Take care. X
MichaelNomad123
Jesus
- Oct 15, 2020
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I would struggle to interpret your actions as anything but bitter. I'm not sure how you can feel so entitled as to attack anyones attempt to make themselves feel better, but I suppose it is the internet and this is the way of the world. I am disappointed that even here at the end of the road this kind of behaviour still exists. I think you should be ashamed of yourself.
I might be able to understand if the trigger was at least obscure, but I was venting some very common complaints -- common to MY life and common to both men and womens lives. You saw what you wanted to see and took time out of your day to smash apart one of only a few attempts I've made here to talk about my feelings. If you took the time to read my previous postings instead of jumping on my back, you would see that I am nothing like what you tried to label me as. The worst part is that you probably don't see the harm in your behaviour.
There is a great irony in you having this as your signature: Watch out for vampires who feed off the life forces of genuine need and altruistic intentions.
I would laugh if I wasn't so frustrated and upset.
Oh, so is this all what @dropdeadfred post was about? I'm sad I missed the origin of all this fun now.
dropdeadfred
Boarding the bus to Everlasting Dreamland ♡
- Oct 19, 2020
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It's been a multitude of comments on varying threads. I hate seeing people be ugly to one another. It is what it is & even if/when those members get rightfully banned, I think they often do/will create new accounts. It's a frustrating cycle for me to witness personally, nonetheless. All I can hope is that I bring a different perspective.
Edit: I am not referring to a specific incident here. There have been many.
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