Did you grow up fast?

[FireFox]

I am jealous of people who grew up fast becuase they can cope with life better and more mature than me.
When i mean grew up fast i mean taking on adult responsiblites much earlier than excepted
Ie being a young parent, moving out early or working a lot earlier .

If i grew up fast i will be a functional adult as the maurity is imposed upon me.
I am emotionally immauture and it sucks.
- I cant stop crying when i cant figure out what to do
- cant pay a bill or dont even pay any bills .. i feel gulity for not having responsiblites.
-I dont have a place of my own
- i dont how to live or enjoy life anymore
I am a stupid little girl in a world full of adults
Did anyone her grow up fast ,?
Do you regret it?

 

[Despondent]

I think in a way, yes.. mostly because there were a lot of experiences that forced me to mature at an early age from exposure to circumstances. As I got older, I was expected to take on more responsibilities that were too much to handle for someone who was my age at the time

 

[rebelsue]

I am jealous of people who grew up fast becuase they can cope with life better and more mature than me.
When i mean grew up fast i mean taking on adult responsiblites much earlier than excepted
Ie being a young parent, moving out early or working a lot earlier .

If i grew up fast i will be a functional adult as the maurity is imposed upon me.
I am emotionally immauture and it sucks.
- I cant stop crying when i cant figure out what to do
- cant pay a bill or dont even pay any bills .. i feel gulity for not having responsiblites.
-I dont have a place of my own
- i dont how to live or enjoy life anymore
I am a stupid little girl in a world full of adults
Did anyone her grow up fast ,?
Do you regret it?

Nope I'm like you...never grew up at all. It's the main reason i want to CTB

 

[nomoredrama]

I had to deal with a lot of adult stuff starting from a very, very young age.

It didn't end up doing me much favors in the end. Growing up too fast can fuck you up too.

 

[willitpass]

i was raped at four, grew up with a mother with borderline personality who neglected me and my sibling while also fighting with us every day. i got blamed for everything and learned to walk on eggshells. i lived in fear of coming home after school every day. i started self harming at 10 and attempted suicide for the first time at 13. i also developed an eating disorder at 13. growing up fast is why i want to ctb. i had no childhood and because of that adulthood just feels like a worse version or growing up in which i have even more responsibilities but no happiness to accompany it

 

[Dnz4ever]

People who mature early on usually didnt do so by choice in my experience

It isnt all its cracked up to be....I read here often people want to go back to a time that "life was simpler/happier"... I dont have that time to look back on my childhood for. There isn't a time i can recall where I wasnt working to buy my own clothes (paper routes, pulling weeds -so on and so forth.)


Ignorance is bliss and those who matured early didnt get to indulge in that blessing- just imho

 

[LMLN]

I did grow up fast. My parents had mental and physical disabilities. But that has been hard too. I had to figure things out for myself, and really take care of them from a young age. As a result, I feel very responsible for everyone and everything. I feel like everything is my fault.

 

[Myforevercharlie]

Yes. Being abused does that to a child...
Then I became a mom before my 18th birthday.
So never was a child or a teen really.
But that made that i miss some very basic things a child should learn.
Im very childish, don't really get along with people of my own age, because of that.

 

[Broken Chimera]

I can relate. I grew up sheltered but I had to grow up early. I was ahead in some areas but behind in others. Ended up having to take on problems when I should have been able to enjoy my life. After losing the best years I really don't care about getting older.

 

[Good4Nothing]

I'm also emotionally immature.
I have the emotional maturity of a teenager. And I'm almost 50!
Fuck my life...

As far as growing up fast, yes and no. I got to be a kid, but my dad was emotionally and psychologically abusive, so I learned to hate myself far too young.

 

[Vault of Memories]

Physically speaking, far too fast.

I think I still enjoy being the comedic one and can be really childish. Certainly don't think I was/am prepared for adulthood and what it holds. However, in my soul I feel as if I'm quite old, ancient almost.

 

[Oyoy]

I feel like a bonafide kidult.

 

[SleeplessSoul]

My mum has BPD so I was a young carer my entire childhood. One of my first moments is my mum being sectioned. My dad worked a lot so I was in charge of cooking, cleaning, my mum's medication and looking after my younger sister. I was the only 'adult' in the house really, especially after my dad had a mental health crisis in my teens. My mum was really emotional neglecting but it wasn't really her fault. I was self-harming at 7 and attempting suicide from around 13. I had an eating disorder and spent a lot of my time on pro-ED websites.

It's been helpful in that I'm good at cooking and saving money I guess

 

[NekoNomNom]

Don't be jealous.

 

[FireFox]

Don't be jealous.

Why?

 

[idontevenknowanymore]

I feel like I've matured much earlier than other people because of my traumatic experiences. But also my mom can't let me be an adult at the same time, it's hard for both of us to let go, which makes me kinda immature for my age now?

 

[itsamadworld]

i was raped at four, grew up with a mother with borderline personality who neglected me and my sibling while also fighting with us every day. i got blamed for everything and learned to walk on eggshells. i lived in fear of coming home after school every day. i started self harming at 10 and attempted suicide for the first time at 13. i also developed an eating disorder at 13. growing up fast is why i want to ctb. i had no childhood and because of that adulthood just feels like a worse version or growing up in which i have even more responsibilities but no happiness to accompany it

Sorry to hear,..Sounds similar to my mother, and i had similar sexual experience around the same age. I grew up fast. Left home at right when I turned 17, two jobs, and very independent in all ways. Growing up fast, it's hard to learn how to process adult issues.....i lost my shit......Grow up fast/Grow up slow! Bad to both, imo. The best is the Goldilocks zone, whatever that is?.

 

[BPD Barbie]

I had to deal with a lot of adult stuff starting from a very, very young age.

It didn't end up doing me much favors in the end. Growing up too fast can fuck you up too.

This. I was abused sexually as a child and I had to grow up fast and people always told me I was mature for my age. It isn't always a good thing, I would have loved to have actually been a child and had my innocence.

 

[Deleted member 10475]

I was grew up fast, but I had to deal with sexual abuse, rape, seeing my parents physically abusing each...i was forced to act older but at 25, I'm definitely not functioning like a normal adult.

A lot of that stuff I dealt with was really traumatizing and still effects me. I can't keep a job, I can't deal with people raising their voice, can't deal with criticism, I hear a door slam and I start freaking out. I wish I grew up like a normal kid and teenager. It was all robbed from me and definitely wasn't worth it.

 

[Mr2005]

No I remained a child well into my twenties

 

[NekoNomNom]

Why?

I've always been mature for my age, even as a child. However, things that have happened in my life forced me to grow up even faster. This, along with lack of guidance, led me to make poor decisions (because teenagers make poor decisions anyway, but this was exacerbated by feeling more "grown up" than I actually was).

With all of that stacked against me, I feel that I was robbed of my childhood. I spent the majority of my young adult life just wishing that I could go back to my childhood, and try to do something to change it. I held myself back from enjoying the things that I worked hard to achieve; I was always unhappy.

This also stunted me emotionally. I repressed a lot of emotions growing up, because it was the best way to protect myself. Now as an adult, it's difficult for me to feel appropriately in important situations. I either feel too much, or too little; there is no in between, or grey area.

 

[SpareWheel]

Not me. I don't think I became an adult til around 30. I mean I was a wise kid, but responsibilities and other grown up stuff were just a foreign concept to me in my twenties. Even now in my 40s I have to remind myself at times that I'm an adult.

 

[GoBack]

It's hard to say, in some ways I did, left home early, learned how to be resourceful and look after money rent and bills and all that. Emotionally though I didn't grow up much at all and now I think I've regressed a lot.

Maybe tried to grow up too fast and now it's caught up with me and I can't handle it

 

[FireFox]

This. I was abused sexually as a child and I had to grow up fast and people always told me I was mature for my age. It isn't always a good thing, I would have loved to have actually been a child and had my innocence.

Child abuse is a worst crime a human can do to another humanbeing.
I am sorry to hear that. Did you get help from the abused you experinced.
You have a come a long way you should be proud of yourself. At 23 you lived at great life from what you written on one of my threads. You have achieved me more than at 23.
i feel so immature for my age which is why i sometimes wished i grow up fast .

I've always been mature for my age, even as a child. However, things that have happened in my life forced me to grow up even faster. This, along with lack of guidance, led me to make poor decisions (because teenagers make poor decisions anyway, but this was exacerbated by feeling more "grown up" than I actually was).

With all of that stacked against me, I feel that I was robbed of my childhood. I spent the majority of my young adult life just wishing that I could go back to my childhood, and try to do something to change it. I held myself back from enjoying the things that I worked hard to achieve; I was always unhappy.

This also stunted me emotionally. I repressed a lot of emotions growing up, because it was the best way to protect myself. Now as an adult, it's difficult for me to feel appropriately in important situations. I either feel too much, or too little; there is no in between, or grey area.

I feel so immauture for my age. Seeing people around me having relationships and careers and moving out of thier family homes.
At 23 i should be settled at my age
I feel i like have failed to be an adult it so humilating. I wished i grew up fast because maybe i wouldnt be the mess that i am.
I feel gulity for not having any responsibliites

 

[NekoNomNom]

Child abuse is a worst crime a human can do to another humanbeing.
I am sorry to hear that. Did you get help from the abused you experinced.
You have a come a long way you should be proud of yourself. At 23 you lived at great life from what you written on one of my threads. You have achieved me more than at 23.
i feel so immature for my age which is why i sometimes wished i grow up fast .

I feel so immauture for my age. Seeing people around me having relationships and careers and moving out of thier family homes.
At 23 i should be settled at my age
I feel i like have failed to be an adult it so humilating. I wished i grew up fast because maybe i wouldnt be the mess that i am.
I feel gulity for not having any responsibliites

Honestly. I would say don't feel that way, although I know how difficult it is to do so, otherwise. If there's one thing I've tried to learn and accept, is that everybody comes into their own in their own time. There isn't a set "schedule" for everybody to achieve the same things at the same time.

I WISH that I didn't have any responsibilities, although that's probably just me still wishing to go back to my childhood. Let me tell you, having bills and responsibility just exacerbates my depression. I would rather have one or the other, rather than both.

I'm 27, and while I have a job and nice things, I have yet to move out and be on my own. I'm incredibly stubborn about being as independent as I can, because my mom made me feel like I'm nothing but a burden on people. I insist on paying my own way as much as possible, even if it breaks the bank. I also have a child, and supporting the both of us on a single income is hard as hell, and so I have no choice but to still be at home. I moved out of my mom's and into my grandparent's house a year and a half ago. We do what we have to to survive for the time that we're here. There's no shame in that.

 

[Suez]

I am jealous of people who grew up fast becuase they can cope with life better and more mature than me.
When i mean grew up fast i mean taking on adult responsiblites much earlier than excepted
Ie being a young parent, moving out early or working a lot earlier .

If i grew up fast i will be a functional adult as the maurity is imposed upon me.
I am emotionally immauture and it sucks.
- I cant stop crying when i cant figure out what to do
- cant pay a bill or dont even pay any bills .. i feel gulity for not having responsiblites.
-I dont have a place of my own
- i dont how to live or enjoy life anymore
I am a stupid little girl in a world full of adults
Did anyone her grow up fast ,?
Do you regret it?

I grew up fast and there was nothing remotely fun about it. I never had the chance to be a child. To know what it was like to laugh and giggle with my girlfriends and have fun, have sleepovers or playdates. To play dress up with your friends and make tree huts or play houses, go to the park on your bikes. Birthday parties. To be allowed to be vulnerable, to be allowed to cry or be upset, to ask for help or hold someones hand when your scared or hop on someones lap for a cuddle.

I learnt what a blowjob was when i was far too young to know. When a cuddle with an adult was never just that, it was usually alot more sinister. I never had the opportunity to know what it was like to have my first boyfriend or girlfriend, that was taken from me to. I knew way too many adult things as a child, took on too many adult responsibilities as a child. I would give anything to know what it is like to have been a child. Sometimes i enjoy just watching a young girl with her mum, the way they interact. I like watching the things they do with eachother, how they smile at each other, touch each other,the closeness that they share. I could sit and watch for hours sometimes. I just enjoy watching that closeness and for that moment imagining myself in that little girls shoes. To this day I find things like crying very difficult because its not something ive been allowed to do as a child. Enjoy the fact that you had your childhood, treasure it. If you feel like you lack maturity or could learn to be more responsible, then thats something that you can learn to do. The fact that you realise those are two things that are difficult for you means that you are already half way to resolving the problem. So dont give up now. You know what the problem is, so find someone that you think will be able to help you in getting through the next stage and before you know it, youll have it all worked out. You said you feel guilty for not having any responsibilities, well this task, to find someone to help support you through this, will be your first responsibility. Your next responsibility will be to yourself to ensure that you continue to face these problems with the help of your support person until such time as you feel you have gained a level of emotional and personal maturity that you are happy with. What do you think?