And both with other mental illnesses. A relationship like that would work? or I'm starting to get delusional?
sleepy dog
Wizard
- Sep 13, 2019
- 624
nitrogen
Schrödinger's cat
- Nov 5, 2019
- 339
You'll either float each other or sink each other.
HereToday
Arcanist
- Dec 27, 2019
- 437
In theory you'd probably relate to each other more and be more likely to make it than a relationship with 1 depressed + 1 'healthy' person, but on the other hand I can just imagine two depressed people would depress each other even more and end up in a joint suicide
sadgirl2002
Fallen Angel
- Apr 9, 2019
- 452
I think it depends on the two people. There is a possibility that it can work since they're able to truly understand each other more than a "normal" person and you've been through similar things. Also, maybe the two can even work towards getting better, for each other's sake. Although, like the user above said, the two depressed people could make each other feel even worse and it'll end up in a joint suicide.
I read this post a while back and it gave me so much hope:
I read this post a while back and it gave me so much hope:
https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/looking-for-a-friend.13308/post-305877
sadgirl2002
Fallen Angel
- Apr 9, 2019
- 452
I loved that story as well. When I first read it, it gave me a lot of motivation. I'm sure there are many stories like that and I think it's a beautiful thing for two people to create a life like that together. It's definitely much better than two "normal" people, that's just my opinion though!
6ixxy
I sank so she could swim
- Apr 26, 2019
- 273
From personal experience, one person or the other will drag you down to the point where you can't take it anymore. It's extremely hard work trying to maintain your own mental well-being as well as being somewhat obligated to help your s/o, partner, whatever you want to call it. It's extremely straining for both involved & very difficult to make work, but like I said, only personal experience, it may differ for you or anyone else.
It's what I have now. And she is also on the same page as me when it comes to wanting to ctb. We dont talk about it very often tho.
Kaczka86
Looking for...?
- Dec 15, 2019
- 52
In my case, sadly, it wasn't working. Two people instead of trying to help each other were too focused on themselves. When you have problems, you want to scream them out, hear a good thing about life, but instead what you get is dragging you down with your own thoughts and your partner's. We probably needed hope for better tomorrow, but well, it ended like it ended. But i'm not saying it won't work for you! All people are different!
Well said!
Despondent
Archangel
- Dec 20, 2019
- 6,777
I'm thinking the same thing. For me, I feel like two people with mental illness, they know what it feels like and will be the most empathetic and protective over each other. But they'll know what each others going through and know that it isn't just a "phase". Maybe it's a different kind of support?
I'm sure there's other reasons also but these came to my head :)
Hollow
Member
- Dec 30, 2019
- 10
This is interesting, I think it all depends on the type of depression and how they are willing to deal with it. Some types of depression are just not compatible to be in a relationship with. Whats comes to mind is crippling anxiety or invasive thoughts. These are things that will cause an imbalance in the relationship and tend to get one sided pretty quick. You have to remember depression isn't just a feeling or a temporary issue which can be fixed by finding someone to love you. It's something you live with, whether you're single or coupled up.
Moonicide
ᴘʜᴀꜱᴇꜱ ᴏꜰ ᴛʜᴇ ᴍᴏᴏɴ
- Nov 19, 2019
- 802
I do believe it could work as long as both individuals are in treatment + therapy, and are working every single day to improve themselves. Because if you aren't working on yourself, if they aren't working on themselves, the relationship won't be sustainable. Even without mental illness, we are all constantly growing. Relationships change, people change, and so it's very important to grow together and be on the same page.
drake4871
The restless
- Sep 10, 2019
- 171
I've done it before, we both ended up just talking about things and making each other feel better. But I'd totally understand how it could also lead to a joint suicide lmao
I guess it's like math in my experience. Two negatives make a positive. Me and my girl openly discuss our feelings, share morbid jokes, cry on shoulders, etc.
I've done it. It is hard sometimes when I feel well, good, happy or whatever but my boyfriend feels sad or wants to die. It affects my mood too. But it helps for the both of us knowing that it's only each other that we have although sometimes when he says he wants to die I wonder if I should say 'so should we just die?' Idk. It can be helpful or not, being in a relationship doesn't mean that your depression will go away. The only thing that's been hard for me since the start is that we're long distance and haven't met each other yet.
