Depression and boredom

[JustHeckinKillMe]

I'm too depressed to the point that I have no will to do anything so I end up being bored AF. Only recalling traumatic memories and suffering waiting for the day to end. Help

 

[Istanbulite]

Same...

 

[Marine]

Sometimes I just force myself to do things I usually love when I don't feel like doing anything : for instance going out for a walk or to a café / bar, listening to music, watching videos / series, gaming, reading... Just try getting past the initial resistance, it's usually worth it. Finding something that makes you laugh can break the negative spiral sometimes. Connecting with someone remains the most effective thing but it's not always possible unfortunately.

 

[JustHeckinKillMe]

Sometimes I just force myself to do things I usually love when I don't feel like doing anything : for instance going out for a walk or to a café / bar, listening to music, watching videos / series, gaming, reading... Just try getting past the initial resistance, it's usually worth it. Finding something that makes you laugh can break the negative spiral sometimes. Connecting with someone remains the most effective thing but it's not always possible unfortunately.

I tried. I can't

 

[timf]

Someone once described boredom as the borderland between suffering and happiness. This idea was that as a person solved problems and reduced pain in their life, they begin to approach boredom. Often the pursuit of indulgences can bring someone back into suffering and they may try to escape again, but still end up in the realm of boredom.

How to gain entrance into the realm of happiness can be a mystery. Some have suggested that if the realm of suffering is often dominated by selfishness, that entrance to the land of happiness might be defined by selflessness. For example, parenthood often requires setting aside personal desires for the sake of children (sadly many parents do not want to give up their own selfishness).

If there is any basis for the idea that the realm of happiness can be entered through selflessness, one might explore volunteer work to see if this portal may be found.

 

[Marine]

I tried. I can't

I'm sorry about that Have you tried envisaging positive developments in your imagination ? Can you just appreciate the sunshine and nature maybe by turning your focus on what you can feel that's nice, even the smallest things ?

 

[Why Me?]

I'm too depressed to the point that I have no will to do anything so I end up being bored AF. Only recalling traumatic memories and suffering waiting for the day to end. Help

OMG, this exactly describes what I've been going thru everyday.

 

[Istanbulite]

Someone once described boredom as the borderland between suffering and happiness. This idea was that as a person solved problems and reduced pain in their life, they begin to approach boredom. Often the pursuit of indulgences can bring someone back into suffering and they may try to escape again, but still end up in the realm of boredom.

How to gain entrance into the realm of happiness can be a mystery. Some have suggested that if the realm of suffering is often dominated by selfishness, that entrance to the land of happiness might be defined by selflessness. For example, parenthood often requires setting aside personal desires for the sake of children (sadly many parents do not want to give up their own selfishness).

If there is any basis for the idea that the realm of happiness can be entered through selflessness, one might explore volunteer work to see if this portal may be found.

good post

 

[us_1999]

I like to watch films (quite ones, lack of plots, with lots of full-length shots) and documentaries when I'm depressed and bored... Because it's quite passive, you just sit there and stare at it. Things go slow there, so does the mind...

 

[JakeFlake]

I like to watch films (quite ones, lack of plots, with lots of full-length shots) and documentaries when I'm depressed and bored... Because it's quite passive, you just sit there and stare at it. Things go slow there, so does the mind...

Do you have any to recommend?

 

[motel rooms]

Do you have any to recommend?

 

[us_1999]

Hahahaha

Do you have any to recommend?

Two films by a Japanese director Takeshi Kitano, Hana-Bi (firework) and Sonatine:

Sonatine (Sonatine) 1993 with English subtitles

Sonatine is a 1993 Japanese yakuza film directed, written and edited by Takeshi Kitano, who also stars in the film. It won numerous awards and became one of Kitano's most successful and praised films, garnering him a sizable international fan base. Kitano plays Murakawa, a Tokyo yakuza tiring of...

asian-movies-online.com

Two Taiwan films, The Time to Live and the Time to Die:
Rebels of the Neon God: https://freeseries.watch/watch-movie/watch-rebels-of-the-neon-god-2602.5506021
Ingmar Bergman's Cries and Whispers:
Thomas Riedelsheimer's documentary on an earthwork artist, Rivers and Tides: https://tubitv.com/movies/595077/rivers-and-tides
A fun documentary titled The Social Life of Small Urban Spaces: https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV1op4y167Av
Another documentary, hard to describe, good for having a trance, Sans soleil:
And a geology documentary series that I like a lot, BBC's Earth Story.

Love this man.

 

[ReallyTired]

Someone once described boredom as the borderland between suffering and happiness. This idea was that as a person solved problems and reduced pain in their life, they begin to approach boredom. Often the pursuit of indulgences can bring someone back into suffering and they may try to escape again, but still end up in the realm of boredom.

How to gain entrance into the realm of happiness can be a mystery. Some have suggested that if the realm of suffering is often dominated by selfishness, that entrance to the land of happiness might be defined by selflessness. For example, parenthood often requires setting aside personal desires for the sake of children (sadly many parents do not want to give up their own selfishness).

If there is any basis for the idea that the realm of happiness can be entered through selflessness, one might explore volunteer work to see if this portal may be found.

Good post.
Volunteering did help me in the past.

Unfortunately, this time I crashed badly, and I have no willpower to do anything positive or helpful. Staying in bed all day feels normal.
The depression robs me of all my energy. It's hard to find any willpower left when I have to use it all just to get over the pain of putting my clothes on and the anxiety of talking to the cashier to buy my food. I pushed myself though, I went outside today and I tried to enjoy the warm sun on my face and nature all around. (Something I used to love in the past). But this time, it felt pointless and meaningless and like it's all a cartoon. Actually, my everyday waking reality looks and feels like a dream or cartoon. It's not bad or terrifying at this point, just strange and kind of boring.

 

[onlyanimalsaregood]

Good post.
Volunteering did help me in the past.

Unfortunately, this time I crashed badly, and I have no willpower to do anything positive or helpful. Staying in bed all day feels normal.
The depression robs me of all my energy. It's hard to find any willpower left when I have to use it all just to get over the pain of putting my clothes on and the anxiety of talking to the cashier to buy my food. I pushed myself though, I went outside today and I tried to enjoy the warm sun on my face and nature all around. (Something I used to love in the past). But this time, it felt pointless and meaningless and like it's all a cartoon. Actually, my everyday waking reality looks and feels like a dream or cartoon. It's not bad or terrifying at this point, just strange and kind of boring.

I used to feel exactly like that. A person ceases to be functional. You don't shower, you eat badly, you sleep badly, it's horrible.

What helped me get back to being functional was that I started taking antidepressants and benzos. Have you considered taking something to help you?

Someone once described boredom as the borderland between suffering and happiness. This idea was that as a person solved problems and reduced pain in their life, they begin to approach boredom. Often the pursuit of indulgences can bring someone back into suffering and they may try to escape again, but still end up in the realm of boredom.

How to gain entrance into the realm of happiness can be a mystery. Some have suggested that if the realm of suffering is often dominated by selfishness, that entrance to the land of happiness might be defined by selflessness. For example, parenthood often requires setting aside personal desires for the sake of children (sadly many parents do not want to give up their own selfishness).

If there is any basis for the idea that the realm of happiness can be entered through selflessness, one might explore volunteer work to see if this portal may be found.

Good post indeed. Thank you for sharing these thoughts.

I'm too depressed to the point that I have no will to do anything so I end up being bored AF. Only recalling traumatic memories and suffering waiting for the day to end. Help

Like I said to @ReallyTired, maybe you could consider taking something to help you. Sometimes we just can't do it by ourselves and we need help.

 

[lofi]

When I feel this way I like to lie down in the dark and listen to music on headphones. Sometimes I will fall asleep. That can make me feel a little better.

 

[neitherherenorthere]

Someone once described boredom as the borderland between suffering and happiness. This idea was that as a person solved problems and reduced pain in their life, they begin to approach boredom. Often the pursuit of indulgences can bring someone back into suffering and they may try to escape again, but still end up in the realm of boredom.

How to gain entrance into the realm of happiness can be a mystery. Some have suggested that if the realm of suffering is often dominated by selfishness, that entrance to the land of happiness might be defined by selflessness. For example, parenthood often requires setting aside personal desires for the sake of children (sadly many parents do not want to give up their own selfishness).

If there is any basis for the idea that the realm of happiness can be entered through selflessness, one might explore volunteer work to see if this portal may be found.

An interesting way of looking at it, philosophically speaking. From a practical perspective though, I think that ultimately the cause of boredom in this context is anhedonia, and the remedy, aside from finding a means to be less depressed, is forcing yourself to do things purely for the sake of passing the time, even if you don't find those activities engaging. Sleeping as much as possible can also be a good way to deal with it, since that doesn't really involve doing anything.