Discussion Dating. Ugh.

[LuzurPhagget]

Anybody got back into the dating scene after entering "recovery?"

Ugh, I don't even know where to go from here. I don't even think I've actually BEEN on a date before in my life. Jebus Christ. How do I even mingle in with the normies? What do they even talk/bond about? Food/ tv shows/ gossip etc? I KNOW I'll never be normal. I know suicidal thoughts won't ever be too far away in my mind and ultimately, that's probably how my life will end. Whatever, I'll try to go as far as I can in life, but I don't think I should be fooling myself. Anyway, it'd be nice to get SOME enjoyment out of this life, but I'm not even entirely sure if dating is even the way to go about that lol. So many nasty, unkind people out there (men AND women). Maybe I'd be saving myself the heartache/headache by not even entering that world. Maybe I would actually feel better just avoiding the dating realm altogether. I dunno.

Honestly, it would be nice to date someone I could actually be frank with. Just be like, "yo, you're the first person I've ever played mini golf with!" etc (I wouldn't exactly open with that line, but you get the picture). Just somebody who wouldn't make THAT big of a deal if that truth were to present itself, because honestly, I don't think it's THAT big of fucking deal, contrary to dating coaches and Cosmo and GQ etc telling me otherwise. Society is so weird like that. Why should shit like that even matter?!? Such an unkind place. I've already accepted that idea, but it would just be so motherfucking frustrating trying to convince/find others with that same shared thought.

Anyway, I have a few dating apps (stupid Tinder, OkCupid) and I've actually gotten a couple likes, but I've been pretty selective in who I like back. If I don't even feel like I'm even going to talk to the person, I'm not even going to like back. Haven't had a single online conversation yet though lol. I dunno, am I doing this right?!? Am I overthinking the shit out of this and just need to plunge myself into the waters or am I simply sparing myself other people's bullshit / heart/headache etc? Honestly, at this point in my life, I actually kind of prefer my own company over just ANY company. Not to be too discriminatory/ mean, but I believe no company is better than bad company.

Any tips/advice?

 

[FreedomInDeath]

I think you have to go into dating knowing it could turn out really badly. Not expecting it to, but not letting it suckerpunch you or make you not want to try again.

 

[Final Escape]

Just be yourself seriously. That's all u can do. Do not try to impress those people. With dating apps be very careful. There's some really fucked up people on there. If someone seems decent after much vetting than maybe try and meet them. Don't have high expectations. I think if you're very physically attractive u might do well on dating apps, also if they think u are successful.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

I agree that no company is better than bad company.

I don't think you're overthinking it. It's good to think things through.

In general, I think when it's the right person, things will flow more naturally.

Talking about ctb early on, even though it's a big deal to you, is of course probably something to hold off on until you've gotten a feel for what kind of person they are and how safe it feels to make deeper disclosures. Kind of like not immediately venting about exes. Or mental hospitalizations. But then again, those are things that would hopefully be in the past, not so immediate, so impactful upon the present. Bonding quickly over mutual instabilities is, in my experience, likely going to result in an unstable relationship. But the idea of ctb is something you don't see as going away, as always being a possibility, not something in the past. So you have to consider if you really want a healthy relationship, because another person can't save you, and, personally, I'd be concerned about someone who could end up being not just a partner but a potential future ctb partner.

I get wanting to share the things that are most important to you and feeling accepted, and suicidal ideation is not a rare thing, but if I were dating someone for whom that was still a possibility, I would stop dating them. Decades ago, I was left behind by an unexpected suicide, it was hell to recover from, and I wouldn't want to lose someone to suicide again.

Tinder, though? My disappointing experience was that it's an app for getting laid more so than a dating app.

 

[dandan]

Come visit mexico and date me :)

I'm in a dating frame of mind :)

Not a normie? Hahahha me neither


I do like to laugh now

 

[ManWithNoName]

Any tips/advice?

Isn't everyone essentially putting their dating / romance life on hold during this COVID-19 bs? I guess virtual dating might be a new short term trend, but virtual is not reality.

That said, I'd recommend you proceed with caution. It's bad enough under normal circumstances to be reaching out to meet that special someone, but stresses are über high during the pandemic.

 

[Emilyismew]

Being depressed and wanting love is hard. I still fantasize about the happily ever after. But I hated myself because I didn't feel worthy. A major issue was I had social anxiety and couldn't even make a friend. None the less a significant other. I actually found comfort in online dating. Falling for people before even seeing them. Just talking. Liking their personality. I fell in love with someone not knowing what they looked like. It was a long distance relationship that lasted four years. It didn't end happily ever after. And I was left heart broken. But I had my soul mate I would never go back and regret those moments. I will always cherish them. Love is a hard game. You will get hurt. You will be depressed and cry and wish to die. And it takes a lot. ALOT. To get through it. In this last year of dating after my last relationship. I was abused mentally and physically. Taken advantage of and manipulated. I tried tinder and dating sites. I went through one busy after the other. But my fault was chasing after people who didn't want what I wanted. I didn't listen. They didn't deserve me. They were good looking and just wanted sex. They didn't want a relationship with me.. they didn't even want a friend ship. But out of the blue I found a guy that has made me see the light again. No he isn't the type I would go for. He's short and goofy and loud oh my gosh. But he's caring and nice He wants me he's attracted to me. He has a list in his phone about me so that he can remember what I like. And looks don't matter. It's how your treated. This man that I'm falling in love with deserves what I have to offer. He has proven that. It took a lot to get there.. a lot of heart break a lot of tears. I don't know how I managed. I do have depression. And he's very positive and may not understand. But he listens. Even when I keep it inside. Instead of feeding into my depression. I tell myself I can't. I don't want to die. I have someone who is there for me.
date for fun. And get to know somebody's personality before you judge their appearance. Sure they don't look like your type. But they treat you like the king or queen you are. They will give you the world. look for friends. Be wise and if you can't handle the journey step back. And when you're ready try again. You make mistakes you learn and grow.

 

[porfin1234]

Everyone here has some great insight. My only suggestion is go slow. And actions speak louder than words. Also, you can't change anyone. And make sure you're on the same page (relationship potential vs just hook up, exclusive non exclusive, etc). Do not settle. Also I would say don't limit yourself until you know for a fact you found someone willing to be just with you. "I am starting to have feelings for you" is also no guarantee you're the only one they are talking to. Trust me. I fell for that one, stupidly. And be aware people dating are probably talking to a bunch of other people so be wary of getting too invested unless you see they are doing the same.
Don't rush or open up too soon. You are more susceptible to being taken advantage of too if you're too much an open book. Some people will use that stuff to manipulate you to get what they want.

Good luck.

 

[a.n.kirillov]

I gave up on it after I had the chance to become intimate with several women on the past and always froze up. Nowadays I gladly don't have much of a sex drive anymore (mid twenties) and I think I will dodge many bullets living a celibate life.

Sure, I had no choice tbh, but I can live with it. At least I won't have to go through horrible divorces and so on. And my bloodline will end with me, which is great, because my family sucks.
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Sorry, I've made this all about me. No tips. My only successes came through a sudden flash of not giving a fuck; and then I fucked it up by giving way too much of a fuck, which generally isn't well appreciated nowadays.

 

[PaYo]

My only successes came through a sudden flash of not giving a fuck; and then I fucked it up by giving way too much of a fuck, which generally isn't well appreciated nowadays.


pls do give a fuck, to escape from society. : ) When you escape.theeeen maaaaan, you will show them how you dont give a fuck about them and you will still live great life

 

[LuzurPhagget]

I think you have to go into dating knowing it could turn out really badly. Not expecting it to, but not letting it suckerpunch you or make you not want to try again.

Yeah, just gotta take that risk. I mean, what kind of life can you live if you don't take risks in living it, amirite?

Just be yourself seriously. That's all u can do. Do not try to impress those people. With dating apps be very careful. There's some really fucked up people on there. If someone seems decent after much vetting than maybe try and meet them. Don't have high expectations. I think if you're very physically attractive u might do well on dating apps, also if they think u are successful.

Word. As cliche as it sounds, being yourself, I feel, truly is the best way to go about it. I mean, why put on a front and try to be something you're not; you're not going to get something back that's agreeable with you. Well, unless you're blatantly lying about yourself JUST to get some nookie for chrissake lol.

And ugh, some dating profiles are SO cringe! I mean, it's truly baffling/mesmerizing how SO out of touch some people are with themselves; they lack such self-awareness. They have such skewed perceptions of themselves; of course NOBODY thinks they're a selfish asshole (I'm sure Jeffrey Dahmer thought himself a real catch lol). Ugh, this supervisoring girl I was working with, she thought herself "flexible and adaptable." OMGGTFOutta here. Such a nazi. HATED change. Even beneficial change. It's mind-boggling how people perceive themselves. That's why I'm kind of preferring Tinder. Those other dating apps, it allows too much room for people to ASSUME things about themselves. Tinder on the other hand has a pretty narrow window to express yourself; pictures speak a thousand words and you can get a pretty succinct image of who someone really is: they're kind, can actually smile, funny etc. I dunno, just my opinion. Not looking down on anybody, I just feel some people fit and some don't.

 

[I want to end it]

I found that dating destroyed any little confidence I had. Girls won't even talk to me online. In real life it's no better.

Sorry I can't be much help. If your confidence is low already, I would stay clear of dating.

 

[LuzurPhagget]

I agree that no company is better than bad company.

I don't think you're overthinking it. It's good to think things through.

In general, I think when it's the right person, things will flow more naturally.

Talking about ctb early on, even though it's a big deal to you, is of course probably something to hold off on until you've gotten a feel for what kind of person they are and how safe it feels to make deeper disclosures. Kind of like not immediately venting about exes. Or mental hospitalizations. But then again, those are things that would hopefully be in the past, not so immediate, so impactful upon the present. Bonding quickly over mutual instabilities is, in my experience, likely going to result in an unstable relationship. But the idea of ctb is something you don't see as going away, as always being a possibility, not something in the past. So you have to consider if you really want a healthy relationship, because another person can't save you, and, personally, I'd be concerned about someone who could end up being not just a partner but a potential future ctb partner.

I get wanting to share the things that are most important to you and feeling accepted, and suicidal ideation is not a rare thing, but if I were dating someone for whom that was still a possibility, I would stop dating them. Decades ago, I was left behind by an unexpected suicide, it was hell to recover from, and I wouldn't want to lose someone to suicide again.

Tinder, though? My disappointing experience was that it's an app for getting laid more so than a dating app.

Yeah? That's good to hear. I honestly don't think I CAN'T overthink. And I CAN'T make things feel right if they don't.

Yeah, sharing that shit is more of a second or third date kind of thing lol. But yeah, really. Sometimes I feel like even just TALKING about all that negative shit just further perpetuates that shit; you can talk endlessly about that shit and really get NOWHERE. It's pretty frustrating. I think you just might have to find some kind of balance or just TRY to leave all that behind and pretend to be normal??? I dunno.

Yeah. People can help, but really you gotta "save yourself." You have to be your own hero. Your own Enrique Iglesias, so to speak.

And fuck, hopefully you don't feel too guilty about that still. I don't know how to feel about THAT. Some people are just too far gone? But then again, I thought I was too far gone at some points (maybe I still am? lol). But naw man, you didn't freaking kill that person, so it's not on you. Really sucks though :(

Aha. I honestly don't think that would help me in the long run. Might have some fun once in a while, but nothing more. There's this kid I worked with at work. Fascinating fella. Still "grieving" this girl he lurved years ago that he broke up with. He's got a pretty impressive track record on Tinder, but it's crazy how he's still overall pretty miserable. I'm sure he would trade ALL the tinder sloots he's banged just to be back with that one girl; even if he doesn't know it or not. Damn matters of the stupid heart.

And ugh, at this point, I'd feel more comfortable if people in my life could help introduce me to somebody, but everyone in my life sucks ass!

 

[Fizzel87]

I do reckon you're overthinking it... But everyone does, most blokes on a first date are a mess, a mishmass of different personalities trying to see what sticks. This is why people go for drinks, to lower inhibitions.

As for online dating... it's rough if you're not photogenic or know how to take a good picture. Girls imo tend to be naturally better at this as they understand lighting, angles... and through sheer volume of pictures taken lol. So I always prefer meeting people naturally or in a group setting, that way my laugh, smile and cheeky sense of humour comes through.

 

[LuzurPhagget]

Come visit mexico and date me :)

I'm in a dating frame of mind :)

Not a normie? Hahahha me neither


I do like to laugh now

Mexico, eh?

Maybe after all this COVID business simmers down ;)

And lmao, can you imagine hooking up on a suicide site?!? What a life!

Isn't everyone essentially putting their dating / romance life on hold during this COVID-19 bs? I guess virtual dating might be a new short term trend, but virtual is not reality.

That said, I'd recommend you proceed with caution. It's bad enough under normal circumstances to be reaching out to meet that special someone, but stresses are über high during the pandemic.

Oh of course! Hopefully I can still hit it off via texting!

Being depressed and wanting love is hard. I still fantasize about the happily ever after. But I hated myself because I didn't feel worthy. A major issue was I had social anxiety and couldn't even make a friend. None the less a significant other. I actually found comfort in online dating. Falling for people before even seeing them. Just talking. Liking their personality. I fell in love with someone not knowing what they looked like. It was a long distance relationship that lasted four years. It didn't end happily ever after. And I was left heart broken. But I had my soul mate I would never go back and regret those moments. I will always cherish them. Love is a hard game. You will get hurt. You will be depressed and cry and wish to die. And it takes a lot. ALOT. To get through it. In this last year of dating after my last relationship. I was abused mentally and physically. Taken advantage of and manipulated. I tried tinder and dating sites. I went through one busy after the other. But my fault was chasing after people who didn't want what I wanted. I didn't listen. They didn't deserve me. They were good looking and just wanted sex. They didn't want a relationship with me.. they didn't even want a friend ship. But out of the blue I found a guy that has made me see the light again. No he isn't the type I would go for. He's short and goofy and loud oh my gosh. But he's caring and nice He wants me he's attracted to me. He has a list in his phone about me so that he can remember what I like. And looks don't matter. It's how your treated. This man that I'm falling in love with deserves what I have to offer. He has proven that. It took a lot to get there.. a lot of heart break a lot of tears. I don't know how I managed. I do have depression. And he's very positive and may not understand. But he listens. Even when I keep it inside. Instead of feeding into my depression. I tell myself I can't. I don't want to die. I have someone who is there for me.
date for fun. And get to know somebody's personality before you judge their appearance. Sure they don't look like your type. But they treat you like the king or queen you are. They will give you the world. look for friends. Be wise and if you can't handle the journey step back. And when you're ready try again. You make mistakes you learn and grow.

Aw, that's sweet to hear.

 

[Emilyismew]

Mexico, eh?

Maybe after all this COVID business simmers down ;)

And lmao, can you imagine hooking up on a suicide site?!? What a life!


Oh of course! Hopefully I can still hit it off via texting!


Aw, that's sweet to hear.

Lol I did hook up on a suicide site. Suicide sanction forum in 2016. I was asking for a partner. And a guy ended up giving me a link to a chat he had. And there's where it all started. We fell in love.

 

[LuzurPhagget]

Everyone here has some great insight. My only suggestion is go slow. And actions speak louder than words. Also, you can't change anyone. And make sure you're on the same page (relationship potential vs just hook up, exclusive non exclusive, etc). Do not settle. Also I would say don't limit yourself until you know for a fact you found someone willing to be just with you. "I am starting to have feelings for you" is also no guarantee you're the only one they are talking to. Trust me. I fell for that one, stupidly. And be aware people dating are probably talking to a bunch of other people so be wary of getting too invested unless you see they are doing the same.
Don't rush or open up too soon. You are more susceptible to being taken advantage of too if you're too much an open book. Some people will use that stuff to manipulate you to get what they want.

Good luck.

Jesus Christ. Why do I wanna do this again?!? lol. The playa gettin' played! lmao

And omglol, "I have feelings for you." That's a good one! You have feelings for me? Aw shucks! All 3 of them?!? lol. And sorry, did guys or gals say that to you? I'm assuming you're a gal.

So overall, if it don't feel right, just don't go for it. I can work with that.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

And fuck, hopefully you don't feel too guilty about that still. I don't know how to feel about THAT. Some people are just too far gone? But then again, I thought I was too far gone at some points (maybe I still am? lol). But naw man, you didn't freaking kill that person, so it's not on you. Really sucks though :(

No guilt whatsoever. There were no signs, no warnings. It was a shock to everyone who knew him. But the recovery was hell.

I later had a friend with BPD who was occasionally suicidal and I didn't get it like I do now, was pretty pro-lifey with her. But that was different from dating, it didn't have the same impact it would in an intimate and committed relationship/partnership.

 

[LuzurPhagget]

I gave up on it after I had the chance to become intimate with several women on the past and always froze up. Nowadays I gladly don't have much of a sex drive anymore (mid twenties) and I think I will dodge many bullets living a celibate life.

Sure, I had no choice tbh, but I can live with it. At least I won't have to go through horrible divorces and so on. And my bloodline will end with me, which is great, because my family sucks.
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Sorry, I've made this all about me. No tips. My only successes came through a sudden flash of not giving a fuck; and then I fucked it up by giving way too much of a fuck, which generally isn't well appreciated nowadays.

Aw, if you feel that's best for you! It's best just to be honest with yourself and with what you really want. I wouldn't say altogether to close the door on all this dating stuff, but if you really feel it's the best to not even get into it, that's cool too! There are other ways to happiness and contentment besides relationships I'm sure.

And lol, I've gotten in "weird" situations in the past for giving too many fucks as opposed to too little. I think it's important to find that balance; make sure there's an even reciprocation. But overall, if I were to choose, I'd prefer to be the guy who gave TOO many fucks as opposed to the guy who gave too little. I mean, geez, people are so afraid of crossing invisible comfort lines; I would prefer to take a step forward and actually care rather than just be indifferent and do nothing.

I found that dating destroyed any little confidence I had. Girls won't even talk to me online. In real life it's no better.

Sorry I can't be much help. If your confidence is low already, I would stay clear of dating.

Jebus, I actually have matched with a few girls, but most don't respond. Like, wtf? Why are you even using this stupid app?? SMH. I think some people just use it to boost their self-esteem or something? Tee-hee somebody likes me! etc.

Have you thought of joining clubs? People with common interests? I mean, not for the sake of dating but for meeting people in general and building yourself up through enjoyed activities?

I do reckon you're overthinking it... But everyone does, most blokes on a first date are a mess, a mishmass of different personalities trying to see what sticks. This is why people go for drinks, to lower inhibitions.

As for online dating... it's rough if you're not photogenic or know how to take a good picture. Girls imo tend to be naturally better at this as they understand lighting, angles... and through sheer volume of pictures taken lol. So I always prefer meeting people naturally or in a group setting, that way my laugh, smile and cheeky sense of humour comes through.

OMG, making my stupid profile. It was so hard trying to find pictures of myself where I DON'T look miserable! lol Plus, I don't like taking selfies. I'll never understand those who do...

 

[toomuchtimetodie]

You are extremely lucky if you find someone you connect with who wants what's best for you, your happiness, time, loyality. And all they want is for you to feel the same about them.
It's too rare in this world, I don't think humans are designed to be monogamous so we end up destroying other peoples feelings. But most people are completely buffooned and get their inspiration for how to behave from soap operas which are all about back stabbing and affairs. They love the rush they get of even that sneeky conversation with an old flame starting to heat up.
Relationships aren't something to play with if you're mentally fragile.
For yourself and the partner, if there's still a risk of you killing yourself it's not fair unless I suppose you tell them from the get go and they accept it.

 

[LuzurPhagget]

Lol I did hook up on a suicide site. Suicide sanction forum in 2016. I was asking for a partner. And a guy ended up giving me a link to a chat he had. And there's where it all started. We fell in love.

...for real? That's cute I guess. lol thinking of that Rihanna song "We Found Love in a Hopeless place."

And sorry y'all are still dating? Or are y'all still on good terms at least?

No guilt whatsoever. There were no signs, no warnings. It was a shock to everyone who knew him. But the recovery was hell.

I later had a friend with BPD who was occasionally suicidal and I didn't get it like I do now, was pretty pro-lifey with her. But that was different from dating, it didn't have the same impact it would in an intimate and committed relationship/partnership.

Oh bugger. Sorry, I thought you were a dude for some reason!

And damn, that still sucks. I remember there was this girl I used to go to high school with and years later, she was working as a receptionist at the optometrist I used to go to. I don't think she recognized me because I was pretty much a loser in high school and NOBODY recognized me lol. But yeah, I found her hella attractive in high school and she STILL looked hella attractive after. I think she ended up killing herself because there's a memorial page for her on Facebook and the details of her death are very vague. It's mind boggling. Wish I had the nerve to ask her out when I had the chance :( It's crazy.

You are extremely lucky if you find someone you connect with who wants what's best for you, your happiness, time, loyality. And all they want is for you to feel the same about them.
It's too rare in this world, I don't think humans are designed to be monogamous so we end up destroying other peoples feelings. But most people are completely buffooned and get their inspiration for how to behave from soap operas which are all about back stabbing and affairs. They love the rush they get of even that sneeky conversation with an old flame starting to heat up.
Relationships aren't something to play with if you're mentally fragile.
For yourself and the partner, if there's still a risk of you killing yourself it's not fair unless I suppose you tell them from the get go and they accept it.

I think I've only felt that "connection" once with one person. It was really...pleasant. To say the least. Unfortunately, it was a very sticky/ complicated situation and life likes to taunt me like that sometimes.

Jesus Christ, those people are SO bored. It's ridiculous. And one thing I find fascinating, especially about some women, is people get motherfucking jealous or if you suddenly get into a relationship, you suddenly become MORE attractive to other women. Dafuq?!? I think it stimulates the lower, baser lizard part of their brains that make them go "Oh, he has resources to provide her. Maybe he can provide them for me?" I mean, really?!? I don't mean to sound misogynistic, but I don't think guys act that way. Maybe more, subconsciously, "I hate this motherfucker. I wish he was dead!" Lol.

But yeah, people are nuts. If I were to ever be in a relationship, I'd try to keep it on the down-low. Private. Humble. Keep outside interference to a minimum because they ultimately don't matter. I think, for the most part, people like seeing others doing well...but just not "better" than them.

 

[porfin1234]

Jesus Christ. Why do I wanna do this again?!? lol. The playa gettin' played! lmao

And omglol, "I have feelings for you." That's a good one! You have feelings for me? Aw shucks! All 3 of them?!? lol. And sorry, did guys or gals say that to you? I'm assuming you're a gal.

So overall, if it don't feel right, just don't go for it. I can work with that.

Yea I'm a gal hehe. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. My favorite was "I don't want to be exclusive but I'm falling for you." Oh and polyamory and open relationships are more common than I thought. One dude didn't tell me he was poly til after a couple of dates. Haha.


All this dating talk makes me think of this song:

Lauryn Hill knows what's up lol

 

[LuzurPhagget]

Yea I'm a gal hehe. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. My favorite was "I don't want to be exclusive but I'm falling for you." Oh and polyamory and open relationships are more common than I thought. One dude didn't tell me he was poly til after a couple of dates. Haha.


All this dating talk makes me think of this song:

Lauryn Hill knows what's up lol

Dafuq?! That's so...I dunno, impersonal and cold? Did that person actually use that EXACT set of words? lmao. And ugh, what's with kids these days saying "catching feelings?" Dafuq. Are they deliberately trying to sound like dumb little kids? And lol, one time, not too far back, I was stupidly thinking of actually going to a club (dumb, I know, for a guy like me). The funny thing was, it was like a swingers club! For couples. Middle-aged couples. Holy shit, I almost went in there! I DON'T wanna know what goes in there!

Yeah, people are into different stuff. It's not for everybody. I guess it's just important you're as honest as you can be about what you really want.

And holy shit, that song is so 90s. What exactly is 'that thing' btw ;)

 

[Squiddy]

Isn't everyone essentially putting their dating / romance life on hold during this COVID-19 bs? I guess virtual dating might be a new short term trend, but virtual is not reality.

That said, I'd recommend you proceed with caution. It's bad enough under normal circumstances to be reaching out to meet that special someone, but stresses are über high during the pandemic.

I'm still matching with people on a dating app, but I'm not visiting anyone due to covid

 

[LuzurPhagget]

I'm still matching with people on a dating app, but I'm not visiting anyone due to covid

Which ones do you use/like? I actually like the simplicity of Tinder. OkCupid leaves too much room for people to bullshit about who they think they really are lol.

 

[Squiddy]

Which ones do you use/like? I actually like the simplicity of Tinder. OkCupid leaves too much room for people to bullshit about who they think they really are lol.

I use Tinder and Bumble. I used to use Okcupid, but not anymore

 

[Alec]

I LOVE the reference to The Simpsons with Jesus Christ! At least that's where I heard Jesus in, Homer screams it sometimes I love it;)

 

[RM5998]

I'm an ace, so dating is even harder for me. I installed Tinder on a whim to see how long it would take me to find an asexual while in college. I gave up after a week. Right now, I'm talking to a few people on ACEapp, and it's gone... Better? IDK, it's hard to say.

 

[LuzurPhagget]

I LOVE the reference to The Simpsons with Jesus Christ! At least that's where I heard Jesus in, Homer screams it sometimes I love it;)

Oh save me Jebus!

I'm an ace, so dating is even harder for me. I installed Tinder on a whim to see how long it would take me to find an asexual while in college. I gave up after a week. Right now, I'm talking to a few people on ACEapp, and it's gone... Better? IDK, it's hard to say.

Oh, never heard the term ace before. Interesting.

 

[Kumachan]

Having trouble talking to "normies"? Ive dated a lot and yes, sometimes conversation just doesnt flow... differences in age, background... Theres nothing to talk about! In this case - ALCOHOL! A couple of pints and its impossible to shut up! Or better yet - share a bottle of red wine... Some cheese... Happy dating!:)