Help Dating apps

[Anxieyote]

My relationship with dating apps is…strange. I have never felt comfortable with the initial interactions, and meetings have been awkward.

One time I met up with a guy that I couldn't get past his looks, and I left in a hurry saying, "I'm sorry" over and over again as he begged me to stay.

I'm horny at night, but most of those feelings go away during the day. Not to mention a lot of people on these apps are desperate and not very good-looking. And hey, neither am I, so I guess it is a place for the bottom-of-the-barrels to go.

And the paranoia gets bad too, when you've disconnected or deleted your profile, and wonder if anyone in town saw it, or if you gave your location away to the wrong person. I had someone say they were going to "find me" one time when I wouldn't give them my location, and I was scared to leave my apartment for several weeks.

I put the line out there again last night, and it felt good to have people reaching out, but these are horny motherfuckers who didn't even see a face pic, you know? And then in the morning, I realize I've been talking to these desperate people in their 40's and 50's, and I feel gross. Yes, they want me because they want ANYBODY. They call me "cute" without even seeing a pic…it feels manipulative.

Im really lonely, and I want to have someone come over to the apartment and keep me company. Is this the way to do it? Does anyone else have any suggestions? It's not even the sex I crave so much as just someone to keep me company. Do I just have to make that clear on the app?

 

[forgotten15]

My relationship with dating apps is…strange. I have never felt comfortable with the initial interactions, and meetings have been awkward.

One time I met up with a guy that I couldn't get past his looks, and I left in a hurry saying, "I'm sorry" over and over again as he begged me to stay.

I'm horny at night, but most of those feelings go away during the day. Not to mention a lot of people on these apps are desperate and not very good-looking. And hey, neither am I, so I guess it is a place for the bottom-of-the-barrels to go.

And the paranoia gets bad too, when you've disconnected or deleted your profile, and wonder if anyone in town saw it, or if you gave your location away to the wrong person. I had someone say they were going to "find me" one time when I wouldn't give them my location, and I was scared to leave my apartment for several weeks.

I put the line out there again last night, and it felt good to have people reaching out, but these are horny motherfuckers who didn't even see a face pic, you know? And then in the morning, I realize I've been talking to these desperate people in their 40's and 50's, and I feel gross. Yes, they want me because they want ANYBODY. They call me "cute" without even seeing a pic…it feels manipulative.

Im really lonely, and I want to have someone come over to the apartment and keep me company. Is this the way to do it? Does anyone else have any suggestions? It's not even the sex I crave so much as just someone to keep me company. Do I just have to make that clear on the app?

Please be careful when meeting with strangers, i know someone who met up with a guy she found online and she ended up being raped by that person.

 

[Hemlock]

Im really lonely, and I want to have someone come over to the apartment and keep me company. Is this the way to do it? Does anyone else have any suggestions? It's not even the sex I crave so much as just someone to keep me company. Do I just have to make that clear on the app?

Hi @AnxiousSchizoid , I think that making what you're looking for clear on your profile would be a good idea if you are going to try online dating.

Certain services are better than others for different things. For example, Grindr and Tinder are more suited for casual hook-ups, whereas Match.com and eHarmony are more suited for long-term romantic relationships.

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

I never used a dating app, I only ever met women at bars or whatever. The reason is that online, I can't show my best qualities. I can be outgoing and funny when I drink, and I am tall and presentable/decent looking, so I feel like I'd be doing myself a disservice by hiding behind technology. Maybe that's true of you as well OP. You're right that a lot of people just want someplace to stick their equipment. If that's the case then oftentimes the internet can make it all feel a lot worse, and really cheap. I would try to get out a bit more if you want actual company, and avoid dating apps/websites.

 

[summers]

My relationship with dating apps is…strange. I have never felt comfortable with the initial interactions, and meetings have been awkward.

One time I met up with a guy that I couldn't get past his looks, and I left in a hurry saying, "I'm sorry" over and over again as he begged me to stay.

I'm horny at night, but most of those feelings go away during the day. Not to mention a lot of people on these apps are desperate and not very good-looking. And hey, neither am I, so I guess it is a place for the bottom-of-the-barrels to go.

And the paranoia gets bad too, when you've disconnected or deleted your profile, and wonder if anyone in town saw it, or if you gave your location away to the wrong person. I had someone say they were going to "find me" one time when I wouldn't give them my location, and I was scared to leave my apartment for several weeks.

I put the line out there again last night, and it felt good to have people reaching out, but these are horny motherfuckers who didn't even see a face pic, you know? And then in the morning, I realize I've been talking to these desperate people in their 40's and 50's, and I feel gross. Yes, they want me because they want ANYBODY. They call me "cute" without even seeing a pic…it feels manipulative.

Im really lonely, and I want to have someone come over to the apartment and keep me company. Is this the way to do it? Does anyone else have any suggestions? It's not even the sex I crave so much as just someone to keep me company. Do I just have to make that clear on the app?

I see you're male, I think other members are assuming you're female. Idk, being bi, I've used pof and tinder for straight dates, and Grindr for gay. I've never really had a bad experience on any of them.

Have to ask, are you a bottom or top? The experience will be very different depending on that...