Discussion DAE feels like everyone secretly hates you?

[iamthewalrus]

this is why i'm scared to talk to people, even my friends. i feel like they all secretly hated me and think bad of me eventhough they are nice to me. idk, i just always feel like this everyday and i hate it. i cant even be myself in front of everyone

 

[BitterlyAlive_]

I can say you're definitely not alone; I feel like this pretty often. If I'm lucky, now I can sort of reason with this line of thinking and it's less painful - I understand where it comes from and that it's 'not necessarily true'. But if I'm in a rut…

just realized you're new here too. Welcome to the forum, @iamthewalrus

 

[FuneralCry]

I am not around many people anymore, but when I was, in the past I thought this. I do not have any likeable personality traits and I am always a bit quiet and easily get irritated. I thought that people were nice to me when they were talking to me, but said negative things behind my back.

 

[ClownMe]

Yeah, a lot.

 

[CFLoser]

more like GAE

 

[suisuiforum]

Feel like? I know for a fact they do. At least I've slowly stopped caring so much.

 

[Makko]

I've come to see that people are generally very bad at hiding their hatred. If they really hate you it will show through. Hating is exhausting and not something people do just for the heck of it.

 

[littlelungs]

You're definitely not the only one who feels like this, unfortunately. I've always felt as if people only put up with me because they have to, or because they want something from me, regardless of whether or not this is actually the case. The idea of someone genuinely liking or loving me for who I am has always been very difficult for me to wrap my head around, just because I hate myself so goddamn much.