Help Could love fix All things?

[MistakesHappen]

Hi,
I really don't know how to start but i need your opinion and help.

I want to ask you for help because i think you can understand what I'm going on right now and i honestly don't trust my psychiatrist's opinion.

I'm not gonna explain all of my situation, just a brief summary.

It's been years that i struggle to live. It's hard to open my eyes, to breath during the day, to think.
I've had some traumas (as anyone do), they are not the reason i want to ctb tho.
It's that i'm not satisfied with life, i can't find a meaning right for me. I am ready to die, however i waited 6 years in case was just a phase but nothing changed in better, only worst. I've tried anything in my mid-ranged life, from religion to work, or friends or any bullshit that keeps the others alive.
I've never tried love tho. As strange as it may seem, I've never tried it.

New Year's day it's full of cliches, nevertheless it gave me a chance, i don't know if i want to take it.

What would you guys/girls do? I'm lost af at the moment and i need you help.
Thanks, Baku.

 

[JazzyWolfWhistle]

Yes it can. But not just romantic love. Family love. Mother's love.

 

[Shewaitsforme]

For some love would be enough for others it isnt. Only that person knows tbh so if you think it possibly could in your situation then maybe you owe it to yourself to try. Ive always said i couldnt CTB untill ive exhausted absolutly every possibility no matter how big or small that is. Thats how ive rationalised my approach to all this. I dont hate myself, i hate the circumstances that have led me here and i do believe if i put every ounce into finding my possibility of getting through this then i can. If i fail then i fail being able to CTB will still be there for me atleast.

 

[MistakesHappen]

For some love would be enough for others it isnt. Only that person knows tbh so if you think it possibly could in your situation then maybe you owe it to yourself to try. Ive always said i couldnt CTB untill ive exhausted absolutly every possibility no matter how big or small that is. Thats how ive rationalised my approach to all this. I dont hate myself, i hate the circumstances that have led me here and i do believe if i put every ounce into finding my possibility of getting through this then i can. If i fail then i fail being able to CTB will still be there for me atleast.

You are right, that's also my approach with trying new possibilities.
Thank you

 

[Justanotherconsumer]

Depends i guess. This place is a realm of half dark and half light, i guess its up to you. Iife is hard regardless but when the dark catches up, if that is what you chose, its blinding.

 

[Floraknife]

Depends i guess. This place is a realm of half dark and half light, i guess its up to you. Iife is hard regardless but when the dark catches up, if that is what you chose, its blinding.

Seconded

For some people I guess it can be, I'm trying to work up the courage to end the most genuine, profoundly beautiful bond I've ever had with someone right now because I've realized that I died inside a long time ago, that I'm a shell of the wreckage I've caused in my life, and yeah, I do hate myself and nothing will ever change that. I want to cause him as little pain as possible and don't know how to go about this but it would be wrong to not let him go at the very least before I bite it, as it's inevitable. It depends on how you feel about yourself and what your goals/dreams are, ultimately

 

[MistakesHappen]

Seconded

For some people I guess it can be, I'm trying to work up the courage to end the most genuine, profoundly beautiful bond I've ever had with someone right now because I've realized that I died inside a long time ago, that I'm a shell of the wreckage I've caused in my life, and yeah, I do hate myself and nothing will ever change that. I want to cause him as little pain as possible and don't know how to go about this but it would be wrong to not let him go at the very least before I bite it, as it's inevitable. It depends on how you feel about yourself and what your goals/dreams are, ultimately

I wish you the best Floraknife, thank you for the words.

 

[Floraknife]

I wish you the best Floraknife, thank you for the words.

Thank you, I wish the same for you and thank you for the chance to open up. Hugs.

 

[TAW122]

It depends on the person, sometimes it could be everything that the person has ever wanted and they continue to recover and live. For others, not so much. As for myself, I don't believe that love will fix all of my problems. While it may make my life more tolerable, it doesn't change the fact that someday I will become bedridden, an accident or disease could leave me crippled and dependent on others to take care of me (including daily necessities such as getting dressed, eating, wiping, and what not), and also that ultimately, I want to be in control of when, where, and how I die rather than just waiting for a doctor, the government, society, or a god/super natural to decide for me.

 

[TiredHorse]

I know that the collapse of a loving relationship has me where I am now, ready to ctb, and that that love made life bearable for me for 24 years. Those years were not without pain as well, but love and support gave me the strength and desire to live. So yes, I think love can supply that necessary ingredient to make life worth living.

I don't know that love "fixes" everything, but it can give you the strength to lift your head and find solutions to what love itself cannot fix.

 

[MistakesHappen]

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I don't know that love "fixes" everything, but it can give you the strength to lift your head and find solutions to what love itself cannot fix.

You said perfectly what my living part was trying to say in these days, thank you.

I hope you can find peace, here or somewhere else.

 

[bigj75]

The thing about love is people love but don't know how to demonstrate it properly.

 

[MsM3talGamer]

Definitely not all things. Love can't cure physical diseases.

 

[Trulysorry]

Love can't fix everything..

 

[bigj75]

Definitely not all things. Love can't cure physical diseases.

but love can accept that and not try to make the person suffer through physical diseases. Just like putting a dog down at the vet.

 

[Aesthler]

Love is fundamental to enjoying life, we were designed for love. Love is a drug as well, you can become addicted to it, and withdrawals are unpleasant. A lot of things can be solved with love, but problems will never go away entirely either. I've had love and still had problems, people who are loved die and suffer still. I really wish there was a simple solution to all human suffering that allowed us to live in harmony with nature, each other and ourselves.

 

[bigj75]

Love is fundamental to enjoying life, we were designed for love. Love is a drug as well, you can become addicted to it, and withdrawals are unpleasant. A lot of things can be solved with love, but problems will never go away entirely either. I've had love and still had problems, people who are loved die and suffer still. I really wish there was a simple solution to all human suffering that allowed us to live in harmony with nature, each other and ourselves.

I think legalizing suicide and people becomeing stronger would solve that.

People need to be strong enough to be able to accept that people die and suffer. It shouldn't come as a shock and should always be prepared for. Do your best to try to keep the person alive but be strong enough to not let them suffer if there isn't anything that can be done to fix it. Let them die peacefully and when they are ready.

 

[Letmego. Please]

As people have said, yes & no but that depends alot on what problems you folks have, if you cannot trust or find the unconditional trust that love requires then you will find it difficult.

I met my now ex husband just a couple of years after i had crippled myself, the love we had helped me to accept my now knackered self, he also taught me plenty of stuff that my parents neglected too.
I made a promise to him that i would talk to him or someone if i was feeling suicidal. Basically i promised to not try to kill myself. It worked great through a number of crisis but in the end after 15yrs together if that other person tells you he is leaving you for someone he could walk down the road holding hands with, a low blow to a wheelchair user you twat.
But the deal we both made was suddenly null & void, i find myself back in a in familiar & oddly comforting place.

All i can really say is you will not know the answer to your question until you find real proper love.

Good luck Op

 

[therhydler]

I know that the collapse of a loving relationship has me where I am now, ready to ctb, and that that love made life bearable for me for 24 years. Those years were not without pain as well, but love and support gave me the strength and desire to live. So yes, I think love can supply that necessary ingredient to make life worth living.

I don't know that love "fixes" everything, but it can give you the strength to lift your head and find solutions to what love itself cannot fix.

This really resonates with me