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[AQUA]

What do you do when you've lost control?
I know some people stop eating or lash out, but... I don't know how to feel about it.

Do I accept not having control and move on or do I fight back against everyone and everything I feel has taken control away from me?
If the latter, how? hunger strike? verbally assaulting them?

Thanks in advance

 

[Life_and_Death]

i think it depends.

 

[FuneralCry]

For me, many of the bad things that have happened, have been completely out of my control and there was nothing I could have done to prevent them. I think at first I was upset as I was constantly thinking about how unfair it was, but I have learnt to accept how cruel life is I guess. It just depends on the situation though. For me, I just isolated myself and spent a lot of time thinking to try and calm myself down.

 

[AQUA]

i think it depends.

on?

 

[Life_and_Death]

on?

whats being controlled? controlled how? whos controlling it?
an example of good vs bad controlling. when i was younger my parents wouldnt let me have my drink until i was about half done eating. i would drink it all then barely eat my food. this is an example of good controlling, because i needed to eat. however if you live with a significant other and they say "your fat you shouldnt be eating" and therefor dont let you in the kitchen to eat and if you do they hurt you, then this would be bad controlling and you should leave.

 

[AQUA]

For me, many of the bad things that have happened, have been completely out of my control and there was nothing I could have done to prevent them. I think at first I was upset as I was constantly thinking about how unfair it was, but I have learnt to accept how cruel life is I guess. It just depends on the situation though. For me, I just isolated myself and spent a lot of time thinking to try and calm myself down.

It fucking SUCKS doesn't it?!
Did you ever consider fighting against it tho?
Do you think it (loosing control) has taught you anything about life? besides learning how cruel life is

 

[luten]

i stop thinking. I turn off thoughts. I make no major decisions. I just breathe, and observe things outside of myself, in a sense "forgetting about myself and my unsolvable problems.

I also envision myself from the moon's perspective, the bigger picture of where I am, what my real position is in the present moment.


I am dealing with disabling chronic pain , spinal-cord damage, cardio-thoracic abnormalities, peripheral nerve damage, surgical damage, on lots of benzos, and pain killers. Come from a violent childhood.

Everyone is different, people look for answers in different places, so did I. The above answers works best for me personally, it comes from someone who looked for answers to suffering himself, it is ancient advise.


Cant even type, so sleepy, Goodnight.

Wolf.

 

[motel rooms]

Sometimes it's healthy to rage.

 

[AQUA]

I've lost soo many opportunity because I didn't have control
I still haven't decided if i need to be passive or aggressive :/
Thanks for the suggestions :)

 

[FuneralCry]

It fucking SUCKS doesn't it?!
Did you ever consider fighting against it tho?
Do you think it (loosing control) has taught you anything about life? besides learning how cruel life is

I guess at times I have considered fighting, but I soon realised there was nothing I could do. It has taught me that maybe I shouldn't waste energy on things that I cannot control but of course that is easier said than done, it is impossible not to.