Committing suicide to take revenge on a family member

[Tokugawa_Yoshinobu]

I may end up using my suicide as a way to get back at a family member that was pretty unfair to both me and my mother in particular. The family member in question is my grandmother. In short she gave unfair and unequal inheritance to my mom if compared to her other children and split the family in half with her poor decisions. Both me and my mother are very angry at her and vengeful.

We are also poor and get treated lesser by her since years for this too. Grandma really prefers her sons over her only daughter and I found out that she has an unfair gender preference towards men and dislikes women for their sex alone, this includes her granddaughters (me and my cousin). It's highly hypocritical but I digress.

I thought of framing my eventual suicide as an act of defiance against her bullshit by explaining my reasoning in my final notes. I don't know if it would make her feel regret but it could have an effect on the rest of family to turn against her or be more critical of her. If I can't achieve much in life maybe I can achieve something with my death.

Either way one day I will ctb but this more or less just an idea to take revenge on a person who wronged me in the past.

 

[UnwillingSavior]

Hmmm I want to say perhaps you could wait it out till she dies and see what waits for you then? Because someone like her will only get angry and treat women worse from your possible choice to ctb, at least from what I can tell. Otherwise, I hope whatever action you take will bring you peace and will resolve any other negative emotions.

 

[Tokugawa_Yoshinobu]

Hmmm I want to say perhaps you could wait it out till she dies and see what waits for you then? Because someone like her will only get angry and treat women worse from your possible choice to ctb, at least from what I can tell. Otherwise, I hope whatever action you take will bring you peace and will resolve any other negative emotions.

I fear she would like to see me dead and then have the opposite effect occure

 

[Slow_Farewell]

I think you've already given thought to the idea that it may be what your grandmother wants.
I am by no means advocating that you do not CTB, it's a personal decision to make. I do not know you or your story/circumstances at all, and having said that, the loss of your life to take revenge on someone whose is past their best years already seems a bit..unworthy of your life.
Wouldnt it be better to at least outlast her and see her suffering?

 

[UKscotty]

CTBing for someone else is not a good idea.

I know a lot of people here say family will always remember and never forget, trust me, everyone moves on, usually quickly.

I have seen many suicides over the years and the families grieve for a bit then people crack on with life.

 

[iusedtobehappy]

Nah no one is worth that. IMO the reasons should be because you are ready to die for whatever reason but not out of any sense of revenge. I don't think people who don't care suddenly care. You can't fix the soulless.

 

[WheelSucker459]

Relate man but if they only care about themselves then they probably wont feel what you want them to

 

[Tokugawa_Yoshinobu]

I think you've already given thought to the idea that it may be what your grandmother wants.
I am by no means advocating that you do not CTB, it's a personal decision to make. I do not know you or your story/circumstances at all, and having said that, the loss of your life to take revenge on someone whose is past their best years already seems a bit..unworthy of your life.
Wouldnt it be better to at least outlast her and see her suffering?

I guess that it's true. But note that my general motivation to ctb anyway is not so much revenge but just I find life unbearable and the revenge part was more or less just an afterthought.

I would not kill myself just to screw with some else: that's silly.

 

[The Tablet]

I guess that it's true. But note that my general motivation to ctb anyway is not so much revenge but just I find life unbearable and the revenge part was more or less just an afterthought.

I would not kill myself just to screw with some else: that's silly.

neither would i, but it's a nice bonus

 

[luisamanequim]

CTBing for someone else is not a good idea.

I know a lot of people here say family will always remember and never forget, trust me, everyone moves on, usually quickly.

I have seen many suicides over the years and the families grieve for a bit then people crack on with life.

100% facts. my uncle ctb and it was 100% my family faults for ignoring his cries for help, they cried on his funeral, didn't get him a gravestone (eventually the cemitery lost his body), fought over his personal belongs (not for money but to show much they cared abt him) and then they forgot. only remembered him when Facebook sent a notification of his birthday, they made a post talking abt how much they missed him and that was it, then some asshole deleted his account so now they rarely talk about him and when they do they talk as if he was alive and everything is normal.

 

[MatrixPrisoner]

Only do it to end your own suffering and let the cards fall as they may, as far as which survivors lament your passing goes.

 

[Abyssal]

Dare I say, tell her how you feel to her face. Easier said than done, but oddly effective.

"What they say about you is true"
"You are a bitch"
Or my personal favorite:
"Oh my god, what happened? Your teeth look so yellow!"

 

[boblong]

But the question is , does your grandmother care? Ctbing also causes your mother trauma and guilt for years. There must be other ways to make them pay , suicide is not an effective option.

 

[Tokugawa_Yoshinobu]

But the question is , does your grandmother care? Ctbing also causes your mother trauma and guilt for years. There must be other ways to make them pay , suicide is not an effective option.

I think I would indeed cause my mother more pain than my grandmother and I suspect that my mother will take her life after I've done so because it would hurt her so much. But I need to seek death desperately and need my own pain to end. It's selfish I know but staying alive is just as selfish because you only care about yourself.

 

[absolutelyyou]

Not gunna lie, I know for a fact my mom took her own life as a way to get back at me and all it did was make life better since I already knew she didn't like me and her death only made people come out of the woodworks against her actions. Your family may vary of course but just making clear it the exact opposite can happen too.

 

[mortuarymary]

Do it for you and no one else. Don't complicate people in YOUR suicide

 

[cosmic_traveler]

I think I would indeed cause my mother more pain than my grandmother and I suspect that my mother will take her life after I've done so because it would hurt her so much. But I need to seek death desperately and need my own pain to end. It's selfish I know but staying alive is just as selfish because you only care about yourself.

You are supposed to be selfish (to a point), it is not a negative attribute. Your reasons are your own and only you can judge the decision. I'm sorry you're in so much pain. Be well on your journey.

 

[Aim]

Nope! Taking suicide because I deserve peace.

 

[Tokugawa_Yoshinobu]

Do it for you and no one else. Don't complicate people in YOUR suicide

Alas I have overthought this and do not intend suicide as a pure revenge fantasy. I want to die for different reasons anyway but I suspect my death might cause the suicide of my mother because she can't bear to see me gone.

 

[mortuarymary]

Alas I have overthought this and do not intend suicide as a pure revenge fantasy. I want to die for different reasons anyway but I suspect my death might cause the suicide of my mother because she can't bear to see me gone.

Do you get on with your mother?

 

[Tokugawa_Yoshinobu]

Do you get on with your mother?

We get on very well and I'm bothered by the fact that I know I could hurt her with my decision. But I find life unbearable so I'll go through with it anyway.

 

[brokeandbroken]

I may end up using my suicide as a way to get back at a family member that was pretty unfair to both me and my mother in particular. The family member in question is my grandmother. In short she gave unfair and unequal inheritance to my mom if compared to her other children and split the family in half with her poor decisions. Both me and my mother are very angry at her and vengeful.

We are also poor and get treated lesser by her since years for this too. Grandma really prefers her sons over her only daughter and I found out that she has an unfair gender preference towards men and dislikes women for their sex alone, this includes her granddaughters (me and my cousin). It's highly hypocritical but I digress.

I thought of framing my eventual suicide as an act of defiance against her bullshit by explaining my reasoning in my final notes. I don't know if it would make her feel regret but it could have an effect on the rest of family to turn against her or be more critical of her. If I can't achieve much in life maybe I can achieve something with my death.

Either way one day I will ctb but this more or less just an idea to take revenge on a person who wronged me in the past.

For me it's about an escape. If it made my family feel some sort of way that's just a bonus.