Comment down below how bad of a person I am

[DeathIsTheWayOut99]

I deserve it seriously

Reason 1: I found out me and my brother ordered so much take out last month from our dads bank account that he is down only 100 dollars.

Reason 2: We used up over 1000 dollars in take out food

Reason 3: Thanks to my fucking fatass eating out I also gained 10 pounds

Reason 4: I always fuck up and ruin peoples lives

It would be more cost effective for my dad if I committed suicide. He wouldn't have to have his money wasted by a fatass.

 

[Ghost2211]

Has anyone taught you how to manage money? You and your brother are still young and living at home. Budgeting is a learned skill, and managing family finances is complex. I'm sorry to hear your weight causes so much distress, but that doesn't decrease your value as a person. It's hard to lose weight, and our society makes people feel like crap for it. You're loved and valued here, and I don't see you as a bad person. Many hugs op. Shitty homes can destroy self worth.

 

[rt1989526]

Your dad just lets you spend his money freely?

 

[Silver]

Take it as life experience (to eat takeout in moderation) rather than a reason to see yourself as a bad person. You spent too much money is all. OK, it was your father's money, but handing over a bank card and expecting a big balance back was a bit unrealistic lol.

 

[Lordsudbury]

You're fine man, money doesn't mean shit it comes and goes. 10 lbs is nothing. Don't worry about it, these aren't things that need to keep you up at night. Everything's gonna be ok.

 

[fox21132113]

Well said,

You're fine man, money doesn't mean shit it comes and goes. 10 lbs is nothing. Don't worry about it, these aren't things that need to keep you up at night. Everything's gonna be ok.

 

[DeathIsTheWayOut99]

Yeah my dad gives us money freely. It sounds stupid but. Anyways, I was reckless and now I cant even bother to talk to him cause I am so guilty

Has anyone taught you how to manage money? You and your brother are still young and living at home. Budgeting is a learned skill, and managing family finances is complex. I'm sorry to hear your weight causes so much distress, but that doesn't decrease your value as a person. It's hard to lose weight, and our society makes people feel like crap for it. You're loved and valued here, and I don't see you as a bad person. Many hugs op. Shitty homes can destroy self worth.

No. Never learned. Mom controlled every part of my being so I am mentally stunted. Nor od I have a job so I am just a leech

 

[k75]

You aren't a bad person, just really, really... hungry?

Has anyone taught you how to manage money? You and your brother are still young and living at home. Budgeting is a learned skill, and managing family finances is complex. I'm sorry to hear your weight causes so much distress, but that doesn't decrease your value as a person. It's hard to lose weight, and our society makes people feel like crap for it. You're loved and valued here, and I don't see you as a bad person. Many hugs op. Shitty homes can destroy self worth.

Pretty much everything I was going to say.

 

[KleinerWolf]

Yeah my dad gives us money freely. It sounds stupid but. Anyways, I was reckless and now I cant even bother to talk to him cause I am so guilty

No. Never learned. Mom controlled every part of my being so I am mentally stunted. Nor od I have a job so I am just a leech

we all make mistakes,
nobody perfect.

tell him how it is,
maybe ask your dad to manage the money if you think it helps you

 

[DeathIsTheWayOut99]

You aren't a bad person, just really, really... hungry?



Pretty much everything I was going to say.

im not hungry. Im a greedy leech

 

[Ghost2211]

No. Never learned. Mom controlled every part of my being so I am mentally stunted. Nor od I have a job so I am just a leech

Then it's not your fault in the slightest.

 

[k75]

im not hungry. Im a greedy leech

I doubt it. Did you spend all his money on purpose to be mean? Doesn't sound like it.

I think some of this is on your dad. As a parent, it was part of his job to teach you life skills like money management. That's really all that's going on here, and it's not impossible to fix.

 

[DeathIsTheWayOut99]

I doubt it. Did you spend all his money on purpose to be mean? Doesn't sound like it.

I think some of this is on your dad. As a parent, it was part of his job to teach you life skills like money management. That's really all that's going on here, and it's not impossible to fix.

Im 22....I should have known better

 

[FatalSystemError591]

The way I see it, if he gives it freely then he should know as an older adult that it will be used. At least you just by food instead of blowing money on ridiculous expensive stuff like cars or watches, and leaving him in debt.

 

[k75]

Im 22....I should have known better

I think you're being too hard on yourself. My son is 22. He's only just starting to really grasp this stuff since he's now living on his own, and I think it's normal. Even if you did have the skills, I think it takes practice, and it's hard to really understand when you have other people doing it for you. Mistakes happen. The important thing is you realize it's not good, and you can avoid it in the future.

 

[DeathIsTheWayOut99]

I think you're being too hard on yourself. My son is 22. He's only just starting to really grasp this stuff since he's now living on his own, and I think it's normal. Even if you did have the skills, I think it takes practice, and it's hard to really understand when you have other people doing it for you. Mistakes happen. The important thing is you realize it's not good, and you can avoid it in the future.

I see.
I unfortunately cant talk to my dad. ive been kind of avoiding him and hes been trying to talk to me. I cant face him after what I did to his bank account. I mean especially sally after our abusive mom died. She destroyed his money and hoarded stuff with it. We were ok financially for a while after....and I ruined all of it. I cant forgive myself

 

[k75]

I see.
I unfortunately cant talk to my dad. ive been kind of avoiding him and hes been trying to talk to me. I cant face him after what I did to his bank account. I mean especially sally after our abusive mom died. She destroyed his money and hoarded stuff with it. We were ok financially for a while after....and I ruined all of it. I cant forgive myself

I learned the hard way avoiding problems only makes them worse. I understand you feel bad because of whats happened, but that isn't the answer. You're feeling a lot of guilt, and that makes it really hard, but what is not talking really accomplishing? He probably already knows who did what and what happened. So you're not hiding that from him. Realistically, what's the worst that can happen? Are you safe?

I know if I was in his place, I'd start to get more upset if I couldn't talk it out. So assuming he's reasonable, the sooner you face him, the less bad feelings there are going to be in the end.

 

[DeathIsTheWayOut99]

I learned the hard way avoiding problems only makes them worse. I understand you feel bad because of whats happened, but that isn't the answer. You're feeling a lot of guilt, and that makes it really hard, but what is not talking really accomplishing? He probably already knows who did what and what happened. So you're not hiding that from him. Realistically, what's the worst that can happen? Are you safe?

I know if I was in his place, I'd start to get more upset if I couldn't talk it out. So assuming he's reasonable, the sooner you face him, the less bad feelings there are going to be in the end.

I tried, and failed. On one had he said I didnt do anything wrong as, well, its food. On the other hand it was a lot of money spent. So I got angry and just left

 

[ocd is bad]

I don't think it's your fault. You're young and still learning how to manage money. I think it's more important that you learn from your experiences rather than beating yourself up about it. I remember some of your older posts and I think you tend to be very hard on yourself too.

 

[k75]

I tried, and failed. On one had he said I didnt do anything wrong as, well, its food. On the other hand it was a lot of money spent. So I got angry and just left

Can I ask why that made you angry?

It sounds like you've done all you can, anyway. The best advice I can give is just don't be so hard on yourself. You're still not a bad person. And you're not the only person this has happened to! I've been budgeting money for decades and I spent pretty much everything I've got this month, just because. Shit happens. The bank account will recover. Now that you're aware of the problem, use that to be more careful. Your dad, too. If he doesn't want a repeat, it's his responsibility to do something to make sure it doesn't happen again.

 

[DeathIsTheWayOut99]

Can I ask why that made you angry?

It sounds like you've done all you can, anyway. The best advice I can give is just don't be so hard on yourself. You're still not a bad person. And you're not the only person this has happened to! I've been budgeting money for decades and I spent pretty much everything I've got this month, just because. Shit happens. The bank account will recover. Now that you're aware of the problem, use that to be more careful. Your dad, too. If he doesn't want a repeat, it's his responsibility to do something to make sure it doesn't happen again.

I asked him about a budget for the family. He agrees. It'd help us to still enjoy and be within range

Um, I dunno I get angry for weird reasons. I have borderline personality disorder and so I flip flop easily

 

[k75]

I asked him about a budget for the family. He agrees. It'd help us to still enjoy and be within range

Um, I dunno I get angry for weird reasons. I have borderline personality disorder and so I flip flop easily

I understand. It must be really frustrating for you.

It sounds like you're off to a good start. Maybe a separate account or debit card with a spending limit might be worth looking into? You can't spend what you don't have, but you're not cut off either. Maybe it'll help knowing you have to choose how to best spend your money?

 

[DeathIsTheWayOut99]

I understand. It must be really frustrating for you.

It sounds like you're off to a good start. Maybe a separate account or debit card with a spending limit might be worth looking into? You can't spend what you don't have, but you're not cut off either. Maybe it'll help knowing you have to choose how to best spend your money?

That could work. Man my dad is doing 7 days of work part is over time. I really fuckedhim up for working more this week

 

[kqlysrsly]

You're a kind person.
You deserve to live.

 

[foxdie]

Can't really say you're a bad person since you clearly feel remorse (which bad people generally don't) and overspending is not that big of a deal. Did you enjoy the food at least? I'm addicted to take out myself lol.

 

[goodbyebunny]

Your life is worth more than money. And if you can learn a useful lesson from this, then you could say it's worth it.