I simply use word "bus" with my friend (he is a faithful friend who understands all that pain and supports my will). Since no one here knows of this forum, its roots and it's language, we just simply use it in real life during any sort of conversations we have. For example once we were talking just in front of my parents who don't have a single clue. I said "yes, but sooner or later I'll need to catch the bus". Ofc he was the only one who got my subliminal message. We call N just ... N. Yea, everyone else is no clue at all. Sometimes we call all this stuff as "a cure", people think we literally discuss some illness and it's cure, and honestly they're pretty close to the real meaning. This thing will cure me from life torment.