Help Can’t feed my dog

[cyanlove]

Whenever my depression is really bad, I don't feed myself or my dog. It literally feels like pulling teeth, and I'm trying so hard but I can't bring myself to feed her some days. How do I get over that?

 

[d3c96524be95]

Do you have close family or friends that could take care of your dog when you're feeling that low by any chance? I imagine you've considered that already, but would setting up an automatic feeder be a viable option to at least limit the damages?

Sorry, my ideas are probably unrealistic. I also have severe anorexia and catatonia when I'm at my lowest. If I had pets or kids, I'd be in a very similar spot TBH . I feel sorry for you and your dog.

 

[Dot]

Hpe cn undrstnd typng

Wht typ of food d/ u gve thm

E.g cannd food r dry

Mght b wrth puttng a bwl & a cntainr of dry food nxt 2 whre u sit or lie durng epsdes -- tht wy u jst pour or scoop w/o havng 2 gt up & mve arnd or think

 

[TapeMachine]

@Dot gave some great advice: "might be worth putting a bowl and a container of dry food next to where you sit or lie during episodes -- that way you just pour or scoop without having to get up & move around or think" ❤

Yes, keeping some food beside your bed or wherever would make feeding your dog (and yourself) much easier. Of course, I am not talking about both of you eating dog food. :) I keep a small box of shelf-stable snacks next to my bed so I don't have to walk all the way downstairs when I'm hungry and in the grips of deep depression/lack of motivation.

 

[nembutal]

remind yourself that the dogs survival is literally in your own hands. you don't feed it the dog starves to death. if you can't take care of an animal you have to get rid of it. i understand depression but risking the lives of other beings due to it is inexcusable

 

[ughnvm]

now that you mention it, it might not answer your question but
about 5 days ago at the bus station i met a stray dog, he was in a really poor condition. i usually carry candies with myself so that i can treat dogs but that time i didn't and bought a cookie from the nearest shop, which was about 20 meters from the bus station and when i came back i didn't see the dog, it made me feel kinda upset but i was selfish enough to ignore that feeling and kept on waiting for my bus but soon he appeared, i got excited but i couldn't bring myself to give the dog the cookie, i was thinking what will people think?. idk why but in my country it's counted as strange but i did, took it out of plastic showed him, made sure he noticed then placed down.
it made me feel really proud of myself, ik i shouldn't overrate myself
then 2 days later at the same place i met him again but this time i had candies with myself and gave it to him but this time i didn't hesitate, didn't think what people think. and now feeding dogs worries me more than what others think

 

[AnonymousS]

Whenever my depression is really bad, I don't feed myself or my dog. It literally feels like pulling teeth, and I'm trying so hard but I can't bring myself to feed her some days. How do I get over that?

If it's that bad you really should give the dog up for adoption. I understand it would be hard, and you are ill. However it is not fair on the animal.

 

[Lullaby]

Maybe you can get an automatic feeder? I had one for my cat when things were really bad. I just set one for the morning and evening and it helped a lot.

 

[fell]

I love @Dot's idea too. Do you live in an area that has access to the Wags app or another dog walking app / service? You may be able to find someone who can help come care for your dog at a low cost

 

[Dot]

Maybe you can get an automatic feeder? I had one for my cat when things were really bad. I just set one for the morning and evening and it helped a lot.

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[AnonymousS]

Maybe you can get an automatic feeder? I had one for my cat when things were really bad. I just set one for the morning and evening and it helped a lot.

I didn't think of that, good call.

 

[FrozenMango]

rehome the dog. If you get depressed, it will get depressed. It is unfair for the dog

 

[Bardo]

Whenever my depression is really bad, I don't feed myself or my dog. It literally feels like pulling teeth, and I'm trying so hard but I can't bring myself to feed her some days. How do I get over that?

I know how hard depression, deep depression feels. You MUST take care of your dog, however. Do not allow yourself any outs for that, please. It's not an option. It is animal cruelty. Please find a good home for your animal friend immediately. It's simply not fair and unacceptable to have your dog suffer.

 

[Someone123]

They must have plenty of water at all times- if you can't do this you do need toi give the animal up. Also it needs the right amount of food daily. If you pet the dog a lot then maybe its care will be more motivating to you, but I think you might be past the poiint where this will help. Is there anyone who can take care of the dog for a while?

 

[UntilTheLast]

I know what it's like to have something that should be easy, and have it be almost impossible to do in the midst of inner psychological stuff. I have a lot of things like that too. It really sucks. But I definitely get being blocked like you're talking about.

Is it possible to give the dog a few days worth of food at a time, and then let them graze on it over a few days, or will it just eat it all right away? Definitely make sure to have a really big water bowl, or multiple water bowls, so that you can fill it less often. In terms of the psychology, and wondering how to stop it, I honestly have no idea. For me it's wrapped up on old childhood shit that I've been digging into for years. Not to mention depression in general. But it could be so many different things, I can't even begin to guess why you do it, or how to get over it.

 

[cyanlove]

I want to update everyone: I put my dog in boarding daycare for the past three days. She's been taken care of. She's 17 so I don't know if anyone will take her. If I do end up giving her to the shelter it's very likely she will be put down. It may be for the best.