Bullying

[ForeverBroken]

Hi there! This is probably my first post here. Has anyone ever been bullied online and just feel like you're a piece of shit? This is something new for me and I can not deal with it.

 

[Life_and_Death]

sadly yeah.

depending on what youre being bullied about though its slightly easier to let go because its "just an idiot on the internet that doesnt know you and never will. theyre words literally have zero meaning"

 

[higherthanthesun]

I find these days people will jump at any chance to criticize, hurt, or bully anyone with any kind of different opinion than they do.

I wouldn't take what people on the internet say to you very seriously, although I truly understand that is easier said than done.

My best advice is to not say much on internet platforms to avoid scrutiny. Thats just my opinion though.

I've found people on this platform are far more understanding then I've seen others, so hopefully you can find a community here.

I wish you the absolute best <3

 

[todeswunsch]

Yeah, I did. I no longer use any social media anymore and its one of the reasons...
Not sure how to deal with it, as I just end up fleeing haha

 

[cetacea]

I get bullied online by "friends". A person recently abandoned me and noted I was not hostile or evil, I just posted "cringe" things. She made sure to drive home that she did not like me and that I am annoying. it destroyed my self-esteem. She bullied me for my posts about my anxiety disorder. I no longer post about my anxiety online because even though everyone else was nice about it, this one person was very cruel. she also said things like how she would (sexual assault tw) "rape [me] as a joke"

 

[gbi2]

I haven't experienced it much online, possibly because I don't use social media much and the sites I do use, like youtube, it is easy just to switch off notifications and make a comment to a video then just not go back to it, but occasionally I have noticed someone making some remark and adding an antagonising bit at the end liek "you'd know that if you bothered to look". I'm sure people like that would follow me around online if they could.

Bullying at school or the workplace is bad enough when trying to get it dealt with but getting it to stop online is even harder. As there isn't going to be any change in the near future the only thing people can do is to get out of the environment to save their sanity if it is bothering them. Sure that will mean having to abandon an account, or delete a channel but the best way to get back at a bully is to cut off their supply - which is you. Get out of their life. Do it silently, don't let them know you are disappearing because of them, let them think you've moved on to something better and they had no value. Of course if you did have a successful instagram or youtube account that you couldn't delete or abandon try to beat the bully by engaging more with the people who post kind things. Devalue the bully that way by not responding. To be honest though I don't know how some of the people who say they get death threats deal with them. I suppose you need to be a certain kind of person to brush them off, and carry on as normal.

I've been bullied a lot through my life, mostly over the past 7 years. I am actually quite knowlegable and understanding about it and I once thought that would give me some power and make me immune to the effects but sometimes the worst thing about it all is when no one else is bothered, or they try to cover for the bully or even make you out to be the problem. Even when you think you are not letting it affect you, your cognitive abilities could deteriorate gradually and by the time you notice, you are the bumbling, barely coherent person the bully is telling everyone you are. This is why just cutting out that environment and silently moving on is best if possible.

 

[ForeverBroken]

This person is dating a close family member and has posted things about me on Facebook that just aren't true. She states that I tried to kill her, which I would never do. Brought up my mental health issues and continuously calls me a psycho and I should be hospitalized. Now I know you guys don't know me but I'm not as bad as all that. Yes I suffer from depression but so does half the world. I've never had it used against me. This person has never really liked me since she came into our lives and I honestly don't know why. But what it boils down to is that I'm seriously thinking about ctb because of all this. She is ruining my reputation and what little self esteem that I did have. I have done nothing but cry all day because of this. Am I just being stupid and weak?

I find these days people will jump at any chance to criticize, hurt, or bully anyone with any kind of different opinion than they do.

I wouldn't take what people on the internet say to you very seriously, although I truly understand that is easier said than done.

My best advice is to not say much on internet platforms to avoid scrutiny. Thats just my opinion though.

I've found people on this platform are far more understanding then I've seen others, so hopefully you can find a community here.

I wish you the absolute best <3

Thank you. I feel as people here are more understanding as well. I've lurked for awhile and that's the feeling I get .

 

[William01]

This person is dating a close family member and has posted things about me on Facebook that just aren't true. She states that I tried to kill her, which I would never do. Brought up my mental health issues and continuously calls me a psycho and I should be hospitalized. Now I know you guys don't know me but I'm not as bad as all that. Yes I suffer from depression but so does half the world. I've never had it used against me. This person has never really liked me since she came into our lives and I honestly don't know why. But what it boils down to is that I'm seriously thinking about ctb because of all this. She is ruining my reputation and what little self esteem that I did have. I have done nothing but cry all day because of this. Am I just being stupid and weak?

Thank you. I feel as people here are more understanding as well. I've lurked for awhile and that's the feeling I get .

That's awful hi!! I'm so sorry you have to put up with this. Can you report this person to the authorities? Also, if its gacebook you can block them.

 

[donewithlife1]

Hi there! This is probably my first post here. Has anyone ever been bullied online and just feel like you're a piece of shit? This is something new for me and I can not deal with it.

This whole works is bully online and offline I just hate it here on earth we're just wasting our time in the end we all are going to die anyway I might as well just do it now

 

[cetacea]

Am I just being stupid and weak?

You are not at all stupid or weak. Anyone - regardless of their mental stability - would be INCREDIBLY hurt by accusations of attempted murder. Even if you are psychotic ( I don't know if you are ) that is no reason to attack you or call you derogatory terms, which is what "psycho" is; a word meant to hurt you.

Your bad feelings are not because of any shortcomings on your part. They are because this person has utterly failed as a human being and is attacking her fellow human when they are down. Shame on her.

 

[ForeverBroken]

That's awful hi!! I'm so sorry you have to put up with this. Can you report this person to the authorities? Also, if its gacebook you can block them.

I've blocked them on Facebook but others are able to see what they've posted. I've taken screenshots of the posts and am waiting for a lawyer to get back with me. I want to see if there is any legal action that I may be able to take. It's multiple posts over a long period of time. I've asked the person to take them down (how naive of me) but they just laugh at me.

This whole works is bully online and offline I just hate it here on earth we're just wasting our time in the end we all are going to die anyway I might as well just do it now

This, is where my thoughts have been at lately. I'm sorry that you are feeling this way as well.

You are not at all stupid or weak. Anyone - regardless of their mental stability - would be INCREDIBLY hurt by accusations of attempted murder. Even if you are psychotic ( I don't know if you are ) that is no reason to attack you or call you derogatory terms, which is what "psycho" is; a word meant to hurt you.

Your bad feelings are not because of any shortcomings on your part. They are because this person has utterly failed as a human being and is attacking her fellow human when they are down. Shame on her.

Thank you so much for saying all this. I thought I was overreacting. I promise you that I'm not psychotic. Depressed, yes. Utterly and incredibly depressed? Yes. But not psychotic.

 

[DEATH IS FREEDOM]

Yes, I have been reading rudenesses on the Internet ever since I got the Internet - mean men who just fucked with me with words. There are people who enjoy hurting others.

 

[Life Is My Coffin]

Literally just a few days ago some douche was being an asshole to me for no reason and cracking jokes about the way I look in a Instagram group chat (which I find ironic cuz he himself was ugly as fuck). I tried to leave but one of the girls in the GC kept adding me back so I just deactivated my account. It's been deactivated for a few days now. It actually kind of got to me, have to be honest. So yeah I can attest that it does suck to experience you aren't wrong.

Not only that but it sucks this shit still happens despite most social media these days have took up the task to greatly rape the concept of free speech. hilariously fucked up how these tech giants go forward with such a tremendous, controversial move yet it still doesn't eliminate cyberbullying, it's still very much possible to bully someone online even with all the fucked up censorship and auto-shadowbanning. social media is absolutely ass these days