Discussion Borderline Disorder Support Group.

[Livingvsdying25]

It's just the morning and I didn't sleep but I can't anymore So need to use my brain a bit better. I (Trying to get my head off from thinking about wanting to converse with the staff here... later. I know I will but lemme lower the "needy" energy)


So the other day I was thinking that I wanted to be the leader of something like suporot group/discord/some online space...

I didn't think much about what exactly. I assumed it would be suicidality friendly bc that is a huge struggle for me.

Now I'm thinking... that I want to start one around BPD(and any other like common diagnosis/traits like I also struggle with CPTSD.)


I would want it to be peer to peer. Lived experience is a mandatory kinda thing.

I was part of a program that was like that. It is for survivors of sexual assault. The founder told me how much people told her that she was crazy for wanting to create a space for other struggling people to support each other. She went ahead with it. This organization is amazing. My time I spent with me last year was amazing.
They just lack funding rn or elae'd still be doing it.


Now I can imagine that people might feel the same bc especially with borderline heightened emotions and feels and all that BUT.

While I will be maybe searching for a community for acceptance and understanding within that... I think I'd like to create my own one.


So I wanna know from people with traits/diagnoses/even suspicions of BPD and/or CPTSD...

What would perfect group support look like for you? What is the ideal? What the realistic take?

Gimme it all. This is something I wanna start bc the isolation that is forced upon BPD is too much. We are a society. We all deserve love and care.

I have had acquaintances in the past with it and our friendships were so awesome and like not unhealthy or anything. I know we can lead healthy relationships. (I just couldn't keep it up. Their personalities weren't bad or anything. Or even stressful... it was just different. A different understanding.)

I personally lack some hope in that area but I would still like to connect with people as a peer...


So suggestions or even just common thoughts id like to hear.

-Suggestions on a domain or place for it as well...


(Excuse my shitty grammar)

 

[Water-Lily]

honestly I would love something like this. I tried to make a croup for college abuse (having experienced bullying/sexual assault in college) on reddit. It got some traction though I deleted it in a BPD episode. Still I want to know how many people are out there like myself. If we could find an online space for our ideas that'd be cool!

As for a BPD group, there could probably be a space for talking and one for venting. As with my BPD I can tend to lash out and stick with my emotions and isn't able to make a distinction with my rational mind when I am in a spiral

 

[Livingvsdying25]

honestly I would love something like this. I tried to make a croup for college abuse (having experienced bullying/sexual assault in college) on reddit. It got some traction though I deleted it in a BPD episode. Still I want to know how many people are out there like myself. If we could find an online space for our ideas that'd be cool!

As for a BPD group, there could probably be a space for talking and one for venting. As with my BPD I can tend to lash out and stick with my emotions and isn't able to make a distinction with my rational mind when I am in a spiral

YESSS!!! about the venting/lashing out part!!!

I think its a great idea!!!

Ima read this more and comment but I jus wanna say now thank you for your comment.

Ima make this. I can even get help from professionals to make this!!

 

[Water-Lily]

YESSS!!! about the venting/lashing out part!!!

I think its a great idea!!!

Ima read this more and comment but I jus wanna say now thank you for your comment.

Ima make this. I can even get help from professionals to make this!!

Yes! We should do something! I want my experiences out there of how college life sucked due to abuse! We should try to do research on making an online group!

 

[Squiddy]

I would love to join a BPD group. BPD is truly hell in my mind and to know I'm not alone would mean a lot to me.

 

[Livingvsdying25]

In regards to mental health... my view is
The system should be designed by those experiencing it

So i really wanna do this and I want do it with other people/the people that would join.

Its important to have resources built by those using them. I think its important to be empowered and have a say and be able to design your healing spaces.

I'm thinking on this as I really wanna do it. Im gonna be doing a business program and I would love to do something like this or something bigger that is beneficial.


If you are interested or courois or even have objections. please PM me or comment on thread if comfortable.

I wanna hear all opinions


One of the things with BPD (for me at least) is the intense need of connection and other stuff. I want it to be normalized. It's ok and life can be fulfilling. It has to be.

 

[Soulless Angel]

I was part of a BPD group on fb, I got banned the other night ... If IF I was ever to join another PBD group, I don't want to see fake smiling look how fucking gorgeous I am images every day, I want real, I want to understand, I want to empathise and resonate with others, I want to be able to scream and shout without being told it will get better (yes really!)
I don't want a group of pro lifers who whilst suffer BPD, see it as a joy to have and can only brag about spending thousands on designer gear (another post I saw on there was that) due to their BPD

I wouldn't want to be censored just because someone else has posted it, every one's experience is different!

this is my rant about the fb group

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/social-media-rant.60565/

 

[Water-Lily]

I was part of a BPD group on fb, I got banned the other night ... If IF I was ever to join another PBD group, I don't want to see fake smiling look how fucking gorgeous I am images every day, I want real, I want to understand, I want to empathise and resonate with others, I want to be able to scream and shout without being told it will get better (yes really!)
I don't want a group of pro lifers who whilst suffer BPD, see it as a joy to have and can only brag about spending thousands on designer gear (another post I saw on there was that) due to their BPD

I wouldn't want to be censored just because someone else has posted it, every one's experience is different!

this is my rant about the fb group

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/social-media-rant.60565/

I used to be a part of r/BPD. It's a community that, I feel, tries its best to help those with BPD. But I do have some issues with it. Firstly, being that there is an emphasis on people fantasizes FP's (Favorite Persons) which I find to be toxic. And then saying thigns like "having BPD makes you such a sensitive and loving person". I don't think this disorder can be "loving". I just see it as all hell

That being said please don't go over and bash this group. Just stating my opinion is all.

 

[Soulless Angel]

I used to be a part of r/BPD. It's a community that, I feel, tries its best to help those with BPD. But I do have some issues with it. Firstly, being that there is an emphasis on people fantasizes FP's (Favorite Persons) which I find to be toxic. And then saying thigns like "having BPD makes you such a sensitive and loving person". I don't think this disorder can be "loving". I just see it as all hell

That being said please don't go over and bash this group. Just stating my opinion is all.

Im not bashing a group as such, I was pissed at the attitude they had towards someone who was crying out for advice and help on this world, I was drunk and angry vented!

 

[whywere]

I have MASSIVE BPD, and I would LOVE to join a group. Sanctioned Suicide has been my go to when I have had crappy times/days and to have another place with like minded people who also have BPD would be GREAT!!! Walter

 

[Squiddy]

I used to be a part of r/BPD. It's a community that, I feel, tries its best to help those with BPD. But I do have some issues with it. Firstly, being that there is an emphasis on people fantasizes FP's (Favorite Persons) which I find to be toxic. And then saying thigns like "having BPD makes you such a sensitive and loving person". I don't think this disorder can be "loving". I just see it as all hell

That being said please don't go over and bash this group. Just stating my opinion is all.

I used to be on r/BPD and I still look at it from time to time, but one of my only posts got downvoted and only one comment because I was venting about all the shit my ex FP put me through :(

I'd love to join a BPD group that's pro choice and actually understands the struggles.

 

[Water-Lily]

Im not bashing a group as such, I was pissed at the attitude they had towards someone who was crying out for advice and help on this world, I was drunk and angry vented!

Oh no I wasnt referring to the FB group. I was referring to reddit lol. Vent away!

I used to be on r/BPD and I still look at it from time to time, but one of my only posts got downvoted and only one comment because I was venting about all the shit my ex FP put me through :(

I'd love to join a BPD group that's pro choice and actually understands the struggles.

I would love this too. Even when you put up a "suicide" flare on r/BPD your post can still get taken down. There is so much freedom here it's amazing

 

[Squiddy]

Oh no I wasnt referring to the FB group. I was referring to reddit lol. Vent away!

I would love this too. Even when you put up a "suicide" flare on r/BPD your post can still get taken down. There is so much freedom here it's amazing

Now I don't post to r/BPD because I'm afraid I'm gonna get downvoted again for my posts :( I mostly post here as I feel much more comfortable and people actually understand.

 

[mlmc045]

I'd really like to be part of a BPD group, it's something I really struggle with and no one around me understands. It's a diagnosis I really did not want (stigma haha!) and is pretty controversial in itself. Psychology knows fuck all, and is constantly changing. I do have all the traits, but it's internalised generally (except when it isn't!!!). I have the more 'quiet' type, but honestly, having a brain like this makes life horrible, and often not worth living. No wonder the suicide rate is so high

 

[Soulless Angel]

Oh no I wasnt referring to the FB group. I was referring to reddit lol. Vent away!

I would love this too. Even when you put up a "suicide" flare on r/BPD your post can still get taken down. There is so much freedom here it's amazing

I don't use Reddit I don't understand it nor do I want too

 

[Water-Lily]

I don't use Reddit I don't understand it nor do I want too

I was on it on and off for years. In my opinion it isnt worth it.

 

[Squiddy]

I was on it on and off for years. In my opinion it isnt worth it.

I agree, it really isn't worth it and you might get downvoted to hell when you vent :(