Being overly sensitive...is kind of a burden?

[Water-Lily]

People are not gonna say that to your face but...its true

People have to walk on eggshells around you because you're easily bothered/triggered/trauamtized

They can't make certain jokes or joke in certain ways or say things that they can with other thick skinned people

Being sensitive is like a birth defect, and if you can't snap out of it you're the person people can't have fun with

 

[LaVieEnRose]

Yes, sensitivity is definitely very detrimental past a certain (not very high) threshold.

 

[divinemistress36]

It's awful I cry and get mad over the littlest things

 

[kermudgeon]

I do too. It sucks... when I'm medicated it's not so bad- like I can feel it coming and distract myself or talk myself out if it, but holy shit... without it I'm walking around like an exposed nerve.

I saw a post a while back from someone saying that they couldn't believe that there were people who avoided substances and medication, "just raw-dogging life." Lmao but seriously...

 

[Argo]

Well it's a two part problem. Yes, it's true that if someone's sensitive, that person's sensitivity is going to burden others. Like you said, walking on eggshells and so on. No one wants that. But you also don't want to be callous nor do you want to be around people who are. I think it's basically the other negative side of that same coin. If someone is callous, they also burden others in a way, they're unpleasant, the don't care if someone is suffering and they are bound to cause suffering just because none of their behaviors will take into account the fact that they can hurt others. You don't want to be the person who just doesn't care when someone is suffering right in front of you, anyone on this site already knows what that is like.

So what people will often say is, "Oh.. it's bad that I'm so sensitive, so I'm just going to stop caring, I'm going to get a thick skin, nothing will bother me, etc etc" And they will treat themselves with disregard. They will expose themselves to harm and remind themselves constantly that being sensitive is bad. I think that's the wrong approach but it's understandable since sensitivity seems to be so strongly connected to one's suffering and those around them-- so people just want any solution. Numbness sounds like one, but it just reverses the problem.

The real sweet spot is to be sensitive, but to be able to handle that sensitivity in a skillful way rather than be so disturbed by it that you helplessly react with suffering and cause others to suffer from it.

 

[Rational man]

Sensativity can be rewarding in that we connect to some people very deeply. We show empathy and experience life with intensity. I think also that sensitives ' know' people and talk ' feelings ' openly. Thats why many people in our fuxkked up world cant cope with that. They prefer small talk in their shallow mindless shxxxt show. And sensatives attract shxxt people who want to dump shxxt on us. Yep we suffer.

 

[Davey36000]

I do too. It sucks... when I'm medicated it's not so bad- like I can feel it coming and distract myself or talk myself out if it, but holy shit... without it I'm walking around like an exposed nerve.

I saw a post a while back from someone saying that they couldn't believe that there were people who avoided substances and medication, "just raw-dogging life." Lmao but seriously...

Because their experience with sober (aka natural) life is not good.

 

[kermudgeon]

Because their experience with sober (aka natural) life is not good.

Neither is mine, nor many on this sight I'd imagine...

 

[ResilientAF]

Sensativity can be rewarding in that we connect to some people very deeply. We show empathy and experience life with intensity. I think also that sensitives ' know' people and talk ' feelings ' openly. Thats why many people in our fuxkked up world cant cope with that. They prefer small talk in their shallow mindless shxxxt show. And sensatives attract shxxt people who want to dump shxxt on us. Yep we suffer.

Absolutely! Doing what you can to be truly authentic whilst also doing what you can to protect yourself from the harm of toxic people is exhausting. Tend to isolate often to recuperate and as a form of self preservation. Hyper vigilant to everything.